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AIBU?

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Original poster

Aibu to be fucking fucked off with dh??

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Lollyheart · 14/07/2011 18:26

I'm raging inside I'm so fucking angry Angry

We have just had our dog brought back by the police because he left the fucking front door open again!!!!!!

And now a poor little boy has had to go to the hospital for a tb jab, the police man said our dog walked over to the pub garden where some kids were playing football, a witness said the kids were all stroking him and playing but one of the boys got a bit rough and started hitting him with a stick, the witness said the boy climbed on his back by this time our dog must of got pissed of and nipped the boy.

I have told dh soooo many times to shut the front door after him when he goes into the garage for something incase our dog gets out as he is over friendly and will go up to people!!

I'm now scared someone will want to come and take our dog away and put him down because of his breed! If I was the boys parent I would report this to the dog warden so I'm guessing they will do that.

Would they bring him back if they thought he was a dangerous dog?? They did say they could tell his was friendly because the landlord at the pub was feeding him and playing with him.

I'm sooo Angry about this I can't even look at dh, ahhhhh I've told him so many time about the fucking front door!!!

OP posts:
alew · 14/07/2011 21:09

What does the breed of dog matter? If you sit on a jack russells back (and not break it) and hit it with a stick it will snap. If you do the same to countless other breeds of dogs collies, Dalmatians, spaniels, etc, they will snap.

catgirl1976 · 14/07/2011 21:11

SM - if the child was hitting a pony with a stick and the pony kicked it, would you think the pony was dangerous?

Original poster
Lollyheart · 14/07/2011 21:12

If you read the beginning of the thread I said he was a staff.

They are not a dangerous breed, I wouldn't have a dog in the house if I didn't trust him around my children.

OP posts:
BimboNo5 · 14/07/2011 21:13

I think the owner needs to sort two issues out here
a) her stupid husband
b) her dogs lack of obedience
It doesnt matter whether the child was at fault to be honest, the dog being out on its own in public allowed the incident to occur, so it needs to be prevented from happening again.

PPPop · 14/07/2011 21:13

Thank you for explaining that. The child was lucky he wasn't bitten harder. The OP was lucky more serious harm didnt happen. It sounds kind of inevitable that someone would frighten or tease the dog the longer it was out unsupervised.

In answer to the original question though, yanbu to be pissed off with your DH. He needs to be more responsible. It could have been a lot worse.

scottishmummy · 14/07/2011 21:14

are we goin for all animals in this expansive what would you do thang
giraffes
horses
scratchy cats

DogsBestFriend · 14/07/2011 21:14

NearlySpring the OP has made no secret of the fact that her dog is a Staffie which is why she's worried about repercussions, because of ill-formed and uneducated assumptions about the breed.

The SBT is not a "dangerous dog". It is not a regulated breed in any way shape or form and nor should it be. I speak as one who regularly handles tens of them.

The dog in question is a family pet, he lives with children. He has reacted in fear to an aggressive attack and not made an unprovoked assault. i bloody well would too if someone hit me with a stick!

And the difference between a nip and a bite I have done my best to explain above.

Thousands (hundreds of thousands?) of Staffies live in complete harmony in an equal number of families across the country, including, in the past, with this family. They do not make headlines - but then again we do not parent vicious, aggressive children.

Original poster
Lollyheart · 14/07/2011 21:15

The words of the policemen were "the dog nipped the boy so he has gone to the hospital to have a tetnes as a precaution, it's not serious"

OP posts:
BimboNo5 · 14/07/2011 21:15

For your benefit OP
www.dog-obedience-training-review.com/stop-running-away.html

scottishmummy · 14/07/2011 21:16

if it broke skin with teeth its a bite. a bite requiring hospital treatment

RalphGnu · 14/07/2011 21:16

Eh? You think that gave me the hump? My DF and I were enjoying our debate tbh but now you're trying to be deliberately insulting which is wandering away from the issue.

Sorry you've had a shitty time OP, I hope it all works out for the best. From the information you've given you sound like the caring owner of a nice dog with a thoughtless twunt for a DH.

catgirl1976 · 14/07/2011 21:17

No SM. I just asked about one animal but you neglected to answer and made a silly remark instead. I was just trying to work out if you would have a different perpsective on the childs behaviour and the animals behaviour if we removed the "dog" from the equation.

scottishmummy · 14/07/2011 21:20

again id say children lack comprehensive grasp of action and consequence. and cant be completely be expected to wholly understand.

catgirl1976 · 14/07/2011 21:21

At 7?? A child cannot grasp action and consequence at 7? Well I wouldn't let that child out of my sight for a moment then as he / she is an accident waiting to happen.

DogsBestFriend · 14/07/2011 21:21

IME a tetanus is very much a standard precautionary measure when someone, particularly a child, is injured by an animal, even if it's just a graze-type skin break. It doesn't necessarily indicate major damage nor major risk of tetanus. It could be argued that it was an over-proteective move and unnecessary action here - I don't know, but it's certainly possible from the sound of it.

I was bitten on the arm by a pet rat. I needed ABs as I have no lymph nodes at all in that arm and so was at risk of an infection which you, hopefully, PPop, wouldn't be. I was also offered a tetanus for this very small puncture mark (think similar to having leaned on a couple of needles). It wasn't necessary but was a standard thing which GPs offer to people in those circumstances, I was told. I'm scared of needles (though not big dogs or rats!) so I declined, with no ill effects.

DogsBestFriend · 14/07/2011 21:24

If my children had abused a dog at any age I'd be mortified, furious and consider myself to blame as well as them. Had they done so at age 7 I would consider myself to have failed as a responsible parent.

scottishmummy · 14/07/2011 21:27

no,catgirl.paraphrase me correctly if you must. i said lack comprehensive grasp of action and consequence.

CurrySpice · 14/07/2011 21:27

Oh FFS crackfox. This is the first incident in 8 years. To have them branded as not fit to own an animal because of one mistake is just ridiculous! Hmm

Have you never made a mistake in your parenting? Pet owning? Car accident?

Being perfect and smug must be hard work

scottishmummy · 14/07/2011 21:29

not as hard work as adequately supervising your dog.or keeping door closed when she has repeatedly told her dh not to leave it open

PPPop · 14/07/2011 21:31

I had a tetanus once as I was bitten by a gerbil Grin

CurrySpice · 14/07/2011 21:31

Once. In 8 years. He's mortified. He won't do it again.

Give the guy a break.

He's been tteated like a serial killer on here. Get some perspective

DogsBestFriend · 14/07/2011 21:33

Folk, I think the OP is more than aware of the seriousness of the matter and is more than angry with her DH. Is there really any need to berate her further?

Now, Lolly, if you want to put DH on here, that's a different matter! Wink

Happy to bollock him for putting your dog's life at risk, causing your dog to be abused, causing your dog to have to defend himself and harm the brat child and for being an utter bloody fool! I'm pretty sure he knows it all by now too though!

scottishmummy · 14/07/2011 21:34

actually no.the maligned person is the child who has been name called and told well asked for it

DogsBestFriend · 14/07/2011 21:34

Tetanus for a gerbil bite trumps tetanus for a rat bite PPop!

You win! :o

sparkle12mar08 · 14/07/2011 21:36

The child sat on the dog and beat it with a stick. Of course he was bloody asking for it, what part of that can anyone possibly not get?!!! I'm gobsmacked tbh.

However OP, you really need to have a very, very, serious talk with your husband and get an alarm on the front door somehow. It's very nearly a deal breaker. Would he be so casual with your children's safety? No? Then he shouldn't be so cavalier about your dog's safety either.