As a bit of background (altho perhaps not entirely relevant it will illustrate why I have rather a short fuse with the woman), I have never really got on with MIL. DH and i had DS rather young, he was an unplanned baby it has all worked out wonderfully and I wouldn't change it. When MIL found out i was pregnant, she was understandably very upset, but she demanded I have an abortion and started throwing threats around such as her son would not be "allowed" to see the baby....
(hewas a few days shy of being 20 years old when ds1 was born btw!) She did not want see DS1 until he was nine months old. She refused to come to our weddding until the day, when she turned up unannounced, and then cried- and not in a good way! On the whole she has been, at best, rather unwelcoming. After the wedding she apologised and said she wanted to be friends. I did try and make the effort- inviting her out with DS and i etc but she never took me up on these offers. So there is now an awkward an uneasy peace. She is DH's mother and always will be but she clearly does not like me (!) and I don't think i will ever completely forgive her awful behaviour.
So as it stands there is an uneasy peace. She is not really interested in DC. I barely see her, despite living less than a mile away. We tend to see her at obligatory family birthday meals etc.
Anyway, DS1 has just got into a brilliant prep school, infact it is the school that DH and BIL went to. We are over the moon with him. He did so well on the entrance exams that he has a discount on fees. We are both so so terribly proud of him, and if we are honest we are all really quite excited.
He had an induction day the other day and had to wear full school uniform. I thought (as his mother, i appreciate that anyone who is not a family member or clsoe friend would not care! ;) ) he looked so smart and grown up that i took a pic on my mob and sent it to DH. He, trying to be nice, sent it to MIL. She responded with this:
"Do they not have rules about suitable hair cuts any more?"
AIBU to to think if you don't have anything nice to say about your own grandson then shut the fuck up don't say anything at all?
BTW he does not have a particularly extreme haircut! It is slightly longer than some, but certainly not extreme in anyway shape or form. Several boys in his current class have similar styles as do some of the boys i have seen on open days.
AIBU?
AIBU to just want to give up entirely on MIL...
Bananamash · 11/07/2011 21:19
Hello, are you married to my DH's brother? 
I ditched my evil cunt of a MIL about five years ago, best thing I did.
She sounds like a bitter person who's trying to push you back because you and your DH are making a success of things.
Congratulations to your DS btw. 
This is so sad but I really don't see what you can do to make this relationship work, you've obviously tried harder than your MIL deserves and she's still giving nothing back. 
Good luck to your DS at his new school, bet he looked lovely in his new uniform.
Thak you everyone for your kind words. Think I will need to have a talk with my Dh about it and say how hurt I was by the comment and that it is the straw that broke the camels back- i am done with her.
Oh and thank you so much re the school . It is one of those things you can't really get excited about it public, for fear of being seen as bragging or snobby etc, but we are absoutely thrilled with him!
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congratulations to your son!
i feel sorry for your mil that she doesn't seem to be able to allow her feelings to thaw towards what is obviously a wonderful family. congratulations to you and yours
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