AIBU to just want to give up entirely on MIL...

[Bananamash]

As a bit of background (altho perhaps not entirely relevant it will illustrate why I have rather a short fuse with the woman), I have never really got on with MIL. DH and i had DS rather young, he was an unplanned baby it has all worked out wonderfully and I wouldn't change it. When MIL found out i was pregnant, she was understandably very upset, but she demanded I have an abortion and started throwing threats around such as her son would not be "allowed" to see the baby.... (hewas a few days shy of being 20 years old when ds1 was born btw!) She did not want see DS1 until he was nine months old. She refused to come to our weddding until the day, when she turned up unannounced, and then cried- and not in a good way! On the whole she has been, at best, rather unwelcoming. After the wedding she apologised and said she wanted to be friends. I did try and make the effort- inviting her out with DS and i etc but she never took me up on these offers. So there is now an awkward an uneasy peace. She is DH's mother and always will be but she clearly does not like me (!) and I don't think i will ever completely forgive her awful behaviour.

So as it stands there is an uneasy peace. She is not really interested in DC. I barely see her, despite living less than a mile away. We tend to see her at obligatory family birthday meals etc.

Anyway, DS1 has just got into a brilliant prep school, infact it is the school that DH and BIL went to. We are over the moon with him. He did so well on the entrance exams that he has a discount on fees. We are both so so terribly proud of him, and if we are honest we are all really quite excited.

He had an induction day the other day and had to wear full school uniform. I thought (as his mother, i appreciate that anyone who is not a family member or clsoe friend would not care! ;) ) he looked so smart and grown up that i took a pic on my mob and sent it to DH. He, trying to be nice, sent it to MIL. She responded with this:

"Do they not have rules about suitable hair cuts any more?"


AIBU to to think if you don't have anything nice to say about your own grandson then shut the fuck up don't say anything at all?

BTW he does not have a particularly extreme haircut! It is slightly longer than some, but certainly not extreme in anyway shape or form. Several boys in his current class have similar styles as do some of the boys i have seen on open days.

[FlubbaBubba]

Possibly cross itisnearlysummer but that has to now be years ago. If she can't drop it, then drop her. Don't prevent your son from seeing or talking to her if she initiates it (and is pleasant), but don't do any of the hard work yourself anymore.

[itisnearlysummer]

Oh totally agree FlubbaBubba. Only thinking of my mum and what motivates her to say such ridiculously nasty things!

Hope I didn't come across like I was feeling sorry for MIL! No time for people without any grace!

[FlubbaBubba]

Oops sorry itisnearlysummer I misunderstood your post. :)