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AIBU?

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Original poster

to expect people to get their kids to school on time and NOT block my car in!!!! grrrr

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Blurry29 · 07/07/2011 09:09

mini rant..............

My DS's school starts at 0830

Gates open at 0830

I park behind the school everyday, away from all yellow lines. The same parents at least 3 times a week park right up behind my car ( on the yellow lines) because they are running late AGAIN....

Honestly it's the same families (about 3 or 4) that just can't seem to get their kids to school on time, panic then throw their car behind mine just as I am getting back into it!!! which means I am waiting about for a further 5 to 10 minutes before I can move my bloody car!!!! I have to wait for them to sign in LATE at reception etc etc etc before they can come back

don't get me wrong I know people may be busy in the morning but for goodness sake...set ur alarms earlier people!!!!!

Grrrrrr Thursday rant over...... :)

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altinkum · 07/07/2011 10:27

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minipie · 07/07/2011 10:27

Hang on a second.

Surely they are not parking behind you because they are late.

Surely they are parking behind you because there is nowhere else to park.

If they arrived earlier, how would that help things? There would still be nowhere else for them to park. (In fact there would probably be even fewer spaces due to all the on-time parents dropping off).

Or am I missing something?

fanjobanjowanjo · 07/07/2011 10:29

minipie No excuse for illegal inconsiderate parking.

LilyBolero · 07/07/2011 10:29

There are lots of parents who are late through disorganisation.
There are some parents who are late through very difficult circumstances.
No parents should block in the OP.

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vintageteacups · 07/07/2011 10:31

Our kids aren't allowed to be left until after 8:45 so way less time yet still almost 100% of kids are there on time.

To prevent the parking being stuck in thing, just park further away from car in front and then you won't be penned in.Smile

LilyBolero · 07/07/2011 10:31

at our school, school trips can no longer leave from the school, because the crap parking by parents means the bus cannot get down the road. This means for residential trips, all the kit has to be lugged by the teachers 1/4 mile down the road. Hideously inconvenient. Fire engines and ambulances have been unable to reach either the school or houses on the road. The police have been involved, but obviously can't monitor the road 24/7.

Some people just don't have consideration for others. It's true that some have difficult circumstances, but some are just plain rude.

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Blurry29 · 07/07/2011 10:34

the rant was clearly about getting blocked in once school had already started...having a knock on effect with my timings for the rest of my day.

Maybe they do think I am fine with it as I have never been rude or asked them to move......... I don't really want to get into any heated discussions with the parents of DS school mates about parking, I just found it frustrating that it seems to be the same people being late and causing further hassles to me ( and others)

There are other spaces available in a bigger area but it would mean they were even later due to a few mintues walk......

I would be more than happy to park there, I am always early and have time to choose where I can park ( yay me :) ) but surely if I am early and have the chance to park near school so I can get DS son in safely then head off to my work etc then there isn't a problem is there?

My drama was people being late and parking in illegal areas blocking in those that have parked correctly and on time....... it has a knock on effect thats all

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MooMooFarm · 07/07/2011 10:36

minipie surely there is always somewhere else to park if you just park further away? It's the attitude of having to be within farting distance of the school gates which I find a bit Confused

Cocoflower · 07/07/2011 10:37

I can't think of one other example where people would think it was justified they get blocked in by illegal driving.

If you had to park to go to a hospital appointment for example, and got back to find your car blocked in by some illegal parker who, honestly is going to think "well this is my fault I should have here earlier as not to inconvience them".

Madness! By the way Im useless at time keeping but I wouldnt dream of blocking another parent in.

minipie · 07/07/2011 10:42

Ah ok Giddy that makes sense.

JenaiMarrHePlaysGuitar · 07/07/2011 10:43

We were often late (5 minutes or so) as ds had a medical problem which meant he had to go to the loo before leaving for school. You can schedule bowel movements, but only with so much precision Grin

Basically, you don't need to have a child with serious SNs, or to have more DCs than you can handle, to run late here and there.

So for that reason OP, YABU.

YANBU though about the parking.

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Blurry29 · 07/07/2011 10:46

again jenaimarrhepalyguitar..... I will repeat...

understandable if you have extenuating circumstances............there is a reason which I can only has been understood by the school

no excuse for parents that have just bad timings and no excuse for blocking people in.......

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pilates · 07/07/2011 10:47

I'm finding it hard to believe that anyone can argue with you on this one Blurry29. I think I would have had a word by now with the regular offenders about giving you more space to get out as you need to get to work. Very selfish and inconsiderate.

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LilyBolero · 07/07/2011 10:50

altkinmum, it proably isn't because of SN, and if there are extenuating circumstances, and the school is aware, they should reserve spaces for them. It's just not reasonable to expect others (who may also have reasons they NEED to be away on time - hospital appointment, work, other child to get to another school, train to catch) to be blocked in.

Ineedacleaneriamalazyslattern · 07/07/2011 10:51

I actually find this thread amusing because I have read threads on here with posters condemning parents to death for the poor dc they constantly see being late for school. How disruptive it is for the already settled class, what a shame it is these same children being constantly different by arriving late.

Just shows you depends on what posters you have on a thread or not.

At the end of the day school starts at the same time every day it is no surprise to anyone and it is bad not to get your dc's there on time. Yes we all sleep in or things go wrong, my dd was constantly late in the winter because of the horrible snow and we walk to school but I always got her there with her baby brother in the buggy in tow as well.

I have had to drive to school on occasion and we have a parents car park and it is a pain when you are parked in a proper space when someone parks right behind you because they are late especially as I have only ever taken the car if I am heading somewhere that I need to be quickly afterwards.

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Blurry29 · 07/07/2011 10:54

absolutely bad timings is bad timings........... I feel you are about to remind us all of your circumstances altinkum... (goes off to make a brew in the mean time)

I feel for your situation, maybe you should start your own thread about it??

I don't need or want to know about any of their individual circumstances...I just don't want them to block me in

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Cocoflower · 07/07/2011 10:56

I do think if I had a genuine reason, that was totally out of my control why I knew I was going to be late everyday I would talk to the headteacher to get the situation 'cleared', so it could be known for school records that my dc's would be late (as not to affect schools OFSTED etc) and they could make provisions

That way I wouldnt need to panic so much every morning as all the cards were on the table from the word go and take my time with parking etc.

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NerfHerder · 07/07/2011 10:58

OP- your issue is about being blocked in- there is absolutely no excuse for blocking other people in- if they're already late being another 2 minutes late and walking from further away isn't going to matter to them, blocking someone in is just completely selfish.

altinkum- please don't think the OP is about you. Lateness isn't really the issue here, selfishness and rudeness are. We have 'spoken' previously about the situation you have and I never got the impression you were selfish.

FunnysInTheGarden · 07/07/2011 10:59

Blurry other peoples time keeping is none of your business. Other peoples children being late for school is not your concern. I do agree that you are being judgy about that when you should really keep your beak out.

BUT, other people blocking you in is very bad manners and YANBU to be annoyed about it. I would park elsewhere safe in the knowledge that your DC is at school on time and think no more of it.

camaleon · 07/07/2011 11:01

Some people are always late. It is a personality trait. A very annoying one becasue it involves lack of respect for other persons' time.

But it is there. Some persons are always too early; others arrive on time; and others are always late... to school and to every other location/event.

It must be a pain for the school who has to insist on the value of punctuality. I cannot see how this can bother any other parent. It is not that difficult to park somewhere else if you already have a diagnosis of the problem.