To not find out the sex of my baby today?

[magicmelons]

I don't know what to do, dc3 have never found out before and it has never been an issue and we've always loved having a surprise. This time, Dh is very involved and excited, all very lovely as this baby was unplanned.

The thing is he really wants to find out, he isn't being at all pushy but i know he'd like to know. I've told him he can find out and not tell me if he likes but he isn't so keen as he thinks he'll let it slip. My reason for not knowing is mainly that at the end of previous hard labours it has been the most lovely experience to have a unexpected child of each sex, got it wrong myself both times. He has no preference either way ( or at least that's what he says).

Scan this afternoon and i don't know what to do? Should i just be selfish?

[JiltedJohnsJulie]

So pleased the scan went well for you.

[AuntiePickleBottom]

i had to find out, i couldn't wait to find out if it was a boy or a girl.

but OP yanbu

[FoofusScrimgeour]

OP Yanbu

However, I don't understand how anyone can say that knowing before hand "takes the shine" off the arrival or that it's "nothing to get excited about".

Jesus wept it's your baby.
Whether you found out at 20 weeks or 9 months it's the same information.
It's daft to say it's a bigger surprise when you wait. What about the surprise of how he/she looks, what colour hair they have, how big they are, the fact that they are finally here. Oh right yeah, booooring.