To take ds and disappear for a few days? :-(

[Geordieminx]

Dh and I are having problems at the moment, well basically my problem is him and his shitty moods. He doesnt speak, is permanently grumpy and is bringing the whole house down.

I have come upstairs because it actually depresses me being around him at the moment, he came up, asked what was wrong. I told him that he was a grump, and that ds (4) had even said tonight "daddy is always in a bad mood" .

Cue him storming off, ranting that everything is always his fault etcetc

The way I feel at the moment I could quite happily pack a bag for ds and I tomorrow and disappear off radar. Childish/selfish probably but at the moment he just thinks that he can carry on being like this without caring how ds and I feel.

WIBU to book into a nice hotel for a few days? Don't really feel like turning up at parents 150 mikes away airing dirty washing in public.

If I was you, I would stop indulging him and being so nice to him. He obviously thinks he can get away with acting so awfully towards you because you're always there to offer solutions or try and make things better for him. He's acting like a child. Don't pander to him anymore!!

My first thought was depression too. He does sound as if he is depressed and has nothing to give. Depressed people can be very selfish because they have no energy left to give to others. And they are a nightmare to live with.

I think you've done the right thing, OP. It's not good for you or your DS to be living in such an atmosphere. I hope it helps you to be at your mum's and that it gives your DH some space to think about things. Might be a good idea for him to visit the doctor.

I've spoken to him, I guess I just needed to know that he was ok.

I think you are right about me pandering to him though, more fool me for being so bloody soft. Have text 3 times and rang once. He never even called to speak to ds before he went to bed... How mean is that?

Gonna take a back seat tomorrow and see what he comes up with. Tis the age old addage, you make yourself a doormat you have to expect to be walked all over

Maybe he doesn't think DS misses him, Geordie?

Possibly not, but Christ he's 4. I'd rather walk over broken glass than not say goodnight to him.

Stop ringing/texting and try and relax and enjoy time away.

Sorry to hear how it's turned out so far geordie.

You're not a doormat, it's because you care about him.

You are right. Jst gonna gve him time, hopefully he"ll realize what he's messing up.

Am not going home until he asks me.

Hope things work out for you

How are you getting on this morning?

Hope you're managing to get some rest.

Fingers crossed he'll get his act together today.

Yes, definitely don't text or ring him. LostMyIdentity is right. He will be totally fine. Think of it this way...if Kate Moss, say, was to suddenly enter your house, I bet he'd suddenly remember then how to communicate and act in a civil fashion. He's doing it to you because he knows he can get away with it and he knows he doesn't have to make an effort.

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