Constant References to Sex

[CrossEyes]

I just want to know if this is NORMAL male behaviour. I'll give a few scenarios.

1. We're sat on a pub bench, looking out onto the river at a rescue team searching for a body (romantic eh!). We each have a lager in hand and it's only 12pm lunch time. I say something about how I'd always wanted to work for the police and DP looks at my chest, does a cheesy eye-brow raise and makes "umm!" noises. I ignore him and ask if him if he'd ever fancied police as a career - he says "no. Ummm I like it when you wear low cut tops! I can see your boobies". I continue to ignore so he starts making references to how we should go home and get the massage oil out. I just want to chill in the sun like everyone else.

1. He texts me from work saying he's having a crap day. I text back saying "poor you x" and he texts back saying "I need you naked in bed next to me".

1. We once had sex in a forest. Yesterday we're trying to think of somewhere to go and he does the eyebrow raise and says "D* Forest??" I suggest other places and he reacts by saying "I want to take you into those woods again, like last time" etc etc. FFS I want suggests on how to spend our day off.

Its CONSTANT. ALL the time. YES I have spoken to him about it, he says I'm being a nun or I'm "in a mood". He doesn't realise that the constant references to my body/sex makes me NOT want to have sex. At worst - it makes me wonder if that's all he wants me for!!!

So is it normal for men to bring sex into even the most innocent of conversations and to go on and on about it as if they have nothing else to talk about?

How are you feeling today, CrossEyes - based on your last post it seems like you are seriously considering leaving your partner. Do you have family or friends nearby who can support you?

He's a sleazy, always "on", one dimensional sex pest.

Yes, black and white is where it's at. There's no such thing as middle ground or grey or appropriate behaviour.

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He also sounds sexually coercive.

Zombie thread! 2011

Constantly thinking like this is pretty normal for men (speaking as one myself). Saying it out loud borders on insanity. YANBU.

Well spotted!

Do you feel better now? You know rather than searching 12 year old Mumsnet posts just to insult women, there are plenty of subreddits you can join.

Who said anything about how I feel?

(And no, that's not how it works. I can call out insults even when they're not directed at me. I can also spot a misogynist a mile off.)

Errrrrr maybe the "nonsense, whinging, lecturing" and the only thing that could possibly be worth staying with a woman for is sex because a personality doesn't cut it.

What a catch

OP if you're still on MN I hope you LTB!

Lol! Deleted the original post. And this is why people never learn. They live in their little echo chambers and don’t listen and learn. Just slap a “misogyny label” on it, plug their ears and continue down a misguided path. Good luck! 🙌

No it’s not normal, it’s gross

Dump him, OP, he’s a disgusting sex pest.