To wonder how you would react in this situation?

[ineedanewhusband]

On holiday a substantial distance from home - think 8 hour flight. A couple of days in your DP/DH/DW sustains an injury to his/her neck that when she wakes in the morning she is barely able to move and actually is sick and breaking out in a cold sweat with the pain. Three days later they are still in serious pain, that is not really subsiding.

Can I ask how you would react to them and what you would try to do for them?

Would you

a. Seek immediate medical attention for them, as you do have travel insurance, would you be worried and concerned for them etc?

Or

b. Would you check on line that your holiday insurance was covered then go back to bed leaving them in absolute agony, would you then for the next few days discourage them from seeking medical attention as it is a "pain in the arse, in this country", encourage them to wait until they were getting home in 10 days time? Would you show little or no interest in their injury and make no allowances for it at all?

Just wondering.

Hospital now. I had to sort myself out when I got Malaria abroad.
Your husband is an arse but if he's not helping you'll have to do it yourself.

Can't believe you haven't seen a doctor/hospital yet! If the pain is bad enough to make you sick? You could have done something really bad and moving around could be making it worse.

I'd be seriously considering whether I want a relationship with someone with that attitude personally. Bet if it the shoe was on the other foot??

You never take risks with necks. It's probably whiplash but best to make sure. Use icepacks and ibuprofen.

Why on earth do you need his opinion anyway? You're injured, you get checked out.

Go and get it seen to straight away hunni.Don't want to worry you but I was run over when I was 9 so 27 years ago and they did'nt treat my neck injury I still get real problems with it now and have to take meds every day for it.

I suffered a severed nerve and they can't operate on it if I'd had proper care when it happened it could've made alot of difference.

And I agree your husbands a selfish Arse.

xx

Get seen at a hospital! It could be a serious injury for all your dh knows!

My dh can be a selfish arse at times but even he would move sharpish to a hospital regardless of cost in those circumstances.

Depends what sort of person you are. DH tends to be the voice of reason where I overreact to his / the children's injuries due to past events. So he might be likely to minimise my concerns if he thinks I'm overreacting. So YABU if you are usually, er, overanxious about your health, but YANBU if he is usually self centred.

I damaged my neck in November. Doctor wouldn't scan it. 4 months of walking around with my neck out of place until I couldn't move. Had to have private osteopathy at ££££. Get yourself some help NOW.

I don't mean to worry you but I injured my neck on a water slide too in 2004. I still have pain every day and have seen too many osteo/physios to remember.

Please see someone asap, and dont go on a water slide again . You need some strong painkillers and physio. Hope you're ok take it easy x

Don't you dare blame yourself for ruining their holiday OP - he's the one ruining it by being a selfish dick.

Even if you have to put all the cost on a credit card, you need to see a doctor NOW. And you know what? If you can afford a long haul holiday then you can afford to cover unexpected medical expenses which come with it, so tell him to suck it up and just get yourself to the doctor. Stupid arse.

I might think about it twice if say I was somewhere with really dodgy medical care and a language barrier and possible issues with infection/blood transfusions etc. But it doesn't sound like that's where you're at.

How are you doing now ineedanewhusband? Hope you've had medical attention and your dh has stopped being an arsehole

I hope you have seen a doctor by now. If not please do so. A friend's father had a 'minor' accident (tripped over whilst walking the dog). thought nothing of it but had a painful neck. His DW insisted he went to get it checked out at hospital, turns out he had broken his neck! He had to have an 'angel' headframe attached to his neck and skull for months. He was told he was fantastically lucky to be alive; one false move and he would have been paralysed or dead, apparently.

Get some attention. Are you in a hotel? Ask the staff to contact a doctor, or help you get to an A&E department.

Thanks for the concern. No have not seen anyone yet. The pain is not as bad as it was, though does increase at intervals. I am dealing with it, pretty sure it is whiplash but quite acute. H on the other hand has been a complete t*unt and I do not think I will be able to forgive it.

Yesterday he told ds that "mummy is miserable because she is not getting enough attention". He has been completely unconcerned and in fact actually seems angry that I am not on top form. Is this normal? Can I say I am in no way a hypochondriac. I have been ill perhaps twice in the 10 years I have known him. The other night he also told me that I have "a low threshold for pain, you know you do! look how you were when you were in labour" . Bought up the fact that I had to have an epidural (after 19 hours). He thinks I am putting it on and pulled a face at me when I wouldnt join in a football game with him and his family.

It is no use talking to him, he thinks he has been wonderfully supportive over this because he rubbed Deep Heat in a couple of times. I am counting the days to get back home.

The pain tends to be worse first thing in the morning when I have stiffened up over night and then last thing when I am tired so I am thinking it can wait till we get home as it does seem to be healing to a certain extent.

Go to the doctor!!
If need be go on your own.
If you wait until you get home your H will have been proved right. "See? You COULD wait till we got home, what a fuss you made!" Just the thought of it is making me want to kick him in the cock for you. If he'd done it I bet he'd have been straight down the hospital.

If he had done it I would have made sure he was straight down the hospital. That is why I hate him so much for this.

Cant go now, am on my own with dc, he is out with his family, so will find out about it tomorrow and wont take no for an answer.

He needs killing, slowly. What a disgusting comment about your labour, on top of the rest of his horribleness.

Your husband sounds awful. Please go and get this checked out by yourself - yes it could be expensive, but you already know you're covered by insurance so it's going to be an inconvenience, not a financial disaster.

On the other hand if you have something serious wrong, you could be left with serious long term damage and pain and a husband who doesn't give a shit. Imagine the situation you're in now, but long term.

I can't believe he would be so uncaring, I couldn't forgive that.

YOur husband is acting like a selfish cock! Your hurt and in pain and he does not give a tiny rats ass!
Go to the hospital as soon as he is home from his 'family bloodymeal. Also I would re-evaluate your relationship its out of order.

I hope you feel better soon.

OP this exact situation happened to me in the states a number of years ago. My DH immediately investigated the nearest A&E and drove me to it. I was given a prescription for valium which got me through the rest of the holiday while the swelling went down.

I don't normally respond to this kind of thread but I am appalled that your husband isn't taking care of you (in sickness and in health anyone). You mention that his family are there too so it doesn't sound like there are childcare issues?