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to be saddened by the utter lack of humanity of this 'journalist'

80 replies

swampster · 02/07/2011 12:10

I know I'm not being unreasonable BTW. And I can't stop crying.

Here: Writer Kia Abdullah mocks death of gap year students on Twitter.

Three sets of parents have lost their beautiful sons and she finds it funny because they have double-barrelled names?

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Rhinestone · 03/07/2011 16:32

You'd have the Gordon Browns / Harriet Harmans condemning it and praising 'modern multi-cultural Britain' and the BBC would be running it as a top story.

I long for the day when ANYONE publicly laughing over the deaths of ANY three teenagers is hounded out of public life. Hope this ends her 'career'.

BitOfFun · 03/07/2011 16:50

I think that is a proper apology, she was right to try to explain rather than just glibly hold her hands up. I'm sure the poor parents have other fish to fry right now. What a terrible waste of three young lives.

milkyways · 03/07/2011 17:13

I don't think age has anything to do with this. She is a year older than me, and even I feel sickened by her comments. Lets hope karma wasn't watching or listening to the crap she spewed out. Death doesn't look at age, race, colour, religion, status - it will take anyone at anytime. She should be truely sorry for what she said.

SpringchickenGoldBrass · 03/07/2011 17:23

I think this is an almighty fuss about nothing. People have been making tasteless jokes about death pretty much forever. And if you are making a public persona for yourself as some kind of taboo-busting shocker, that's the sort of thing you might come out with. I wonder if the billions of outraged squawkers are getting even more damp-knickered because it was a woman who made the remarks, though.

ashamedandconfused · 03/07/2011 17:36

SCGB - i dont agree with you that we are just outraged squawkers, if decent, normal, empathetic civilized people did NOTHING in reaction to her comments, then THAT would be a crying shame. How would those parents feel? I would hope the public outrage about her crass comments is in some very very tiny way, a help to them. To know that even strangers care.

Thank God that the majority of people on here - and in wider RL community- have a heart and soul and feel sorrrow at the tragic death of these 3 young lads, with their whole lives ahead of them. And at the needless sudden tragic death of EVERY person.

SpringchickenGoldBrass · 03/07/2011 17:40

I don't see the need for such a noisy frenzy of outrage over a couple of silly remarks. And if people hadn't worked themselves up into a froth and reposted them everywhere, then the bereaved families might never even have known about them, which might really have been the better option.

noddyholder · 03/07/2011 17:41

Sickening I saw it this morning and was shocked at her inhumanity and arrogance

ThisIsJustASagaNow · 03/07/2011 17:48

Obviously she's a nasty piece of work.

I was interested to read this the other day. I think it makes some very good points about online 'personalities' and how posting online sometimes brings out the worst in people Sad

Jux · 03/07/2011 19:04

A proper apology does not ask for understanding, does not even ask for forgiveness; a proper apology is simply that. An apology. If the injured party is interested in the whys then there is time enough for that later.

She should simply have said "I was idiotic, insensitive, and looking for attention with a degree of callousness of which I am heartily ashamed. I am sorry."

People don't seem to know how to say sorry any more, without demanding something in return from the person they're apologising to, something they have no right to do.

Greythorne · 03/07/2011 19:23

thisisjustasaganow
please don't provide links to The Daily Mail without adequate warning.

ThisIsJustASagaNow · 03/07/2011 19:25

Why?

scottishmummy · 03/07/2011 19:29

folk on mn pretend they dont like dm.its linked daily dont sweat it,youre one of many to link it today.not that anyone on here reads it mind.except ones they find in the gp surgery or cafe

ThisIsJustASagaNow · 03/07/2011 19:41

Lol thanks SMGrin

Mn links to it constantly.

Greythorne · 03/07/2011 19:42

It's not about pretending I don't like it, scottishmummy. It's about giving them clicks and therefore advertising revenue. I choose not to financially support the DM. Also, their articles are, to use atechnical term, shit, soI wold never click on a link about changing hman behaviour due to the internet and our connevted world because it is likely to be utter tosh.
If you absolutely need to link to the DM, please use this site.

boohoohoo · 03/07/2011 19:59

I've been away for a few days and have not had any access to the news etc, I had a missed call which I returned this morning. I know the mother of one of the boys and am absolutely devastated for her, she is a wonderful woman who completely broken, nothing more needs to be said.

This "writer", is so bloody wrong about the boys and made total assumptions, I feel so so hurt for my friend and her family.

So this would be journalist is so desperate to make a name for herself that she would write such a hateful complete load of shit just for an effect. How ridiculously sad she is.

LauLauLemon · 03/07/2011 20:05

She has seven years on me and I am repulsed by her comments. She's made herself out to be a vile person.

catinthehat2 · 03/07/2011 20:16

if you hover over any link, in most browsers there is some form of flag as to what it is, this has been the case for A Long Time

"please don't provide links to The Daily Mail without adequate warning." sounds desperately precious and attention seeking

(unless it was tongue in cheek)

Greythorne · 03/07/2011 20:20

Not on iPad. The hovering thing, I mean.

Not getting why people object to The DM just sounds terribly closeted and superficial. Are you aware of what damage the DM does? Its misogynistic agenda? May I suggest you start reading a broadsheet and / or the feminism section of MN?

ThisIsJustASagaNow · 03/07/2011 20:35

Righty-ho.

Nancy66 · 03/07/2011 20:40

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by Mumsnet.

sofadweller · 03/07/2011 20:47

An appalling sad loss of three teenagers just on the cusp of their adult lives.

My sympathies to their poor families, they must be in pieces.

The rest I don't even want to comment on.

scottishmummy · 03/07/2011 20:53

ask mnhq to start avoid the dm read a broadsheet and feminism literature. Oh no,hang on mn didnt really mind about posts dm featured on its women page.

mn and dm are inextricably linked

JustineMumsnet (MNHQ) Thu 13-Aug-09 12:20:50
By the way the Daily Mail is the most visited media site from Mumsnet - but I suspect there's a lot of folks going off to look at something that's caused outrage involved.

JustineMumsnet (MNHQ) Thu 13-Aug-09 12:18:08
Mumsnet isn't an exclusive club though - we're not really here for like-minded people only. Though obviously we hope that through a process of discussion that unreasonable views and positions will prove untenble.

This is not an "official partnership" because we've not been involved or consulted in the process of it appearing at any point but on balance are we unhappy about it , no because as others have quite rightly said, everything that's on here is in the public domain anyway.

Greythorne · 03/07/2011 20:58

Nancy66
You're welcome to broaden your horizons anytime. Do join us in Feminism.

catinthehat2 · 03/07/2011 21:07

oh, what did Nancy66 really say now you've got it deleted Greythorne?

are you impl;ying that she's some sort of non feminist nanderthal now we can't see the message?

because that's not what I remember

way to go with twisting the narrative and setting up a little spin there

try and do it when nobody's watching next time yeah?

scottishmummy · 03/07/2011 21:10

why was nancy post deleted?wasnt inflammatory.at all