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FeckedOffWithWork · 30/06/2011 18:58

I'm not going to do something stupid, so don't worry but i'm sooo fed up. I've had about as much as I can take.

I'm having problems at work. In so many words I get bullied and 6 out of 7 of my colleagues are lazy and I end up taking the biggest workload because if I didn't then it wouldn't get done. I can't talk to my manager because she's one of the lazy ones. Also, they do an awful lot of bitching about me and about other people. I hate it so much I feel physically sick come Sunday night just thinking about another week in that place. It's also a 2 hour commute each way and i'm tired of that too.

My homelife is getting me down too. I never have any money. My ex is being a twat and I just seem to be very short with the kids. I asked DS2 this morning to come and give me a cuddle and he replied 'ok, but don't get mad with me and shout at me mummy' :(

Now to top it all off i've been given 15 hours overtime next week at work because someone is ill and one is on holiday. No asking me if it's ok, just slapped right there and expected of me so next week instead of my 30 hour week it'll be 45 hours. Fuck knows where i'll get the childcare from for the extra hours. Knob heads Angry

Alsoooo, I am looking at other jobs because i'm so unhappy in this and I got offered an interview next week for my dream job, very close to home and good pay, good hours for childcare and I asked manager for either the day off or to start on a later shift that day weeks ago before the rota was done. She said she'll try her best. Rota just came back and i'm working all day on the interview day. I questioned manager about it and she said it was a bad week for being a princess and asking for certain days off and certain shifts so i'm stuck with not being able to go to my i'view. I tried to rearrange i'view but because head office are travelling from London to do them, they're only available that day. I am so pissed off right now :(
Just wanted to rant, it's ok if no one replies, it just feels good getting it out of my system!

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Nevermindthebotox · 30/06/2011 23:48

I was in a similar situation myself a couple of years ago - missed several interviews because I could not get the time off from my shitty job, and just got more and more miserable. Getting a new job was like getting a new lease of life, I'm like a different person now. Go for your interview, and keep going for them till you get something better. Best of luck, I hope you get it - this place will be a distant memory before you know it.

ZonkedOut · 01/07/2011 05:56

Definitely go for the interview and I second the suggestion of taking the day before off too.

I also like the suggestion of taking yourself to a doctor and getting signed off for stress, whatever happens with the interview. You're at the end of your tether and something has to give - don't let that be you! And don't worry that you're dropping your colleagues in it - they've been dumping on you, do you think they'd give it a second thought before doing it to you? You owe it to your kids and to yourself, you owe nothing to your colleagues.

Good luck with the interview and let us know how it goes!

fizzwhirl · 01/07/2011 08:49

I'd be a bit cautious about taking a sickie, I think it puts you in a bit of a bad position since you're presumably breaking the conditions of your contract.

If you're successful at the interview (which is the whole point), you'll probably need a reference from them before starting your new job - at which point it will be obvious what's happened, and they're pretty likely to say you've taken sickies to your prospective new employer, which might make them think twice about offering you the job.

I'd suggest checking your contract to see what your contracted to do - does it say you have to do certain days/hours? And is there someone you can ask whether you have legal rights - as some people have suggested - to have time off for an interview?

Given how horrible they are to you already, I wouldn't worry about them knowing you're going for interviews (it might even make them be nicer to you, if they're worried about losing you!).

You absolutely don't owe them anything more than is in your contract. But I think it would be much better to not break your contract conditions yourself, and find an honest way to say to insist that you won't be working that day.

jeckadeck · 01/07/2011 10:53

Get a sickie and go for the job. Seriously. The worst case scenario is that you won't get the job and will get a bollocking from your current job. They ain't going to fire you over it. The best case scenario is that you land a much better job. If your current employer is being a c* then don't sleep over pleasing them.

Kalinda · 01/07/2011 11:05

They ain't going to fire you over it

I wouldn't bet on that. Taking a sicky may constitute gross misconduct.

OP, try to get signed off by the doctor for a couple of days' stress leave. IME, nobody will try to mess with you at work if you are off with work related stress, they will be scared of you turning around and suing them. What you actually do on your stress leave - ie, your interview - is your affair, trying to find alternative work is just one way of alleviating the stress you are under.

Good luck.

WhereYouLeftIt · 01/07/2011 11:21

Kalinda, in a sensible place of work that may be the case, but in this circumstance they are not going to sack the person doing all the work / getting overtime dumped on them. They might try to make her more miserable, but OP is already as miserable as she can be, they can't make it any worse for her that way.

fizzwhirl, references these days are pretty much just confirmation of the fact that you worked there and when. Plus, I would think that the OP needn't take a sickie, se sounds as if she'd be signed off for stress by any competent GP.

sweetness86 · 01/07/2011 13:32

Has OP been to the interview yet? I would of thrown a sickie tbf sound slike you need it .

Nevermindthebotox · 02/07/2011 08:32

Op, when is your interview? Please come back and tell us how you got on, I'll keep watching this thread. Good luck!

Nevermindthebotox · 02/07/2011 08:32

Op, when is your interview? Please come back and tell us how you got on, I'll keep watching this thread. Good luck!

lady007pink · 03/07/2011 19:36

I'm watching this thread too. Keep us posted please OP!

izzywhizzyletsgetbusy · 03/07/2011 19:46

Pre-supposing the interview is this coming Wednesday, and as you have already asked your employers for the day off, I would suggest that at work tomorrow you begin displaying symptoms of a stomach upset - (frequent trips to loo etc) and call in sick on Tuesday which will give you a day to get yourself together and plan what to wear etc for the interview.

As a precaution, I suggest you also visit your gp complaining about emissions at both ends so that your illness is duly noted in your medical records, and that you don't return to work until Friday.

When attending the interview, grit your teeth be as positive about your present employers as you are about what you can offer your (hopefully) new ones.

plupervert · 03/07/2011 22:28

As for faking "emissions", I thoroughly recommend strong cheese!

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