Namechanging regular here.
I seem to have landed myself in a bit of a situation. Keeping things vague and non-specific, I hope I can explain myself adequately for advice.
I know a woman. We are both involved in a voluntary activity. I don't know her very well, but have met her around 6 times and have chatted for a few minutes during those times. She seems nice.
I didn't see her at our voluntary activity, but then bumped into her at a community event. She asked me to contact her with some details of the activity we do. She didn't have her phone, so asked me to text her partner's phone, which I did. Her Partner replied that he would pass on my details. I thanked him, and thought nothing more of it.
The next day, I got a friendly but slightly over-familiar text from, I thought, the lady. I had forgotten that it was actually the Partner's phone that I had sent my number to. I thought that perhaps she had mistakenly sent the text to me, as it sounded as though she was texting after seeing me the night before, IYSWIM. I didn't respond.
2 days later, I got a text directing me to a social media site, with !!!! after it. Again, I thought it was odd, and mistaken. I didn't respond.
The following day, I got quite a long text from the Partner, identifying himself, and saying that he didn't want me to think he was upset that the woman and I enjoy each other's company so much. He also let me know he is extremely 'laid back'. He told me he had heard lots about me, all good, and couldn't wait to meet me. Obviously, given that I have met the woman about 6 times, and only spoken for about 30 minutes total, I was confused. She is nice, but we haven't spent time together at any point socially. I was having a busy day, so didn't respond.
I then got a text checking if I got the message, to which I simply said 'sorry, didn't reply straight away. Do you have x's mobile no.?' He replied giving the number.
The next day I got a text from the Partner, again, suggesting that he and the woman would love to have me around to share a couple of bottles of wine, and did I like red or white? I didn't know quite what to do, so didn't do anything. I got a follow up text, saying 'Let x know when you are free'.
Today, I have had a message saying that x has told him I didn't get the message, and could I confirm he has the right number!
What do I do? I don't know the lady well. I have never met the guy, yet he is texting me relentlessly. The complication is that I share a small voluntary activity with her. In addition, her child and mine will both be starting at the same school in September, and could even be in the same class!
I wouldn't mind meeting her for coffee once or twice, get to know her, but this situation seems....odd. Why would a guy I've never met be texting me to arrange a social gathering? He hasn't made any mention of my Husband. Wouldn't it be more 'normal' for the lady to be texting me if she wanted a friendship? It all feels a bit wrong.