To be furious with my husband

[QuestionTime]

On my iPhone so please ignore any typos!
Totally furious as well as very hurt and upset. Been together almost 5 years and he has always been a snorer, especially when drinking. Not usually a problem as I leave for spare room when it gets too bad. However when we have people staying over or are visiting the various in laws I usually end up on the sofa after trying to ignore and sleep through it for many hours (it even wakes me up through ear plugs. A real shake the vibrations if the house style.)
Anyway about a year ago I end up sleeping on the bathroom floor of his brothers house, curled around the toilet desperately trying to get some sleep before the long drive home (I always drive as don't trust him after drinking so much the night before. Couldn't use their sofa as they had just installed a monster noisy fish tank in the lounge)
A couple of days later he said that when he knew he was wasted he would just stay on the sofa as it made no difference to him- he can sleep anywhere any time.
A year later he has not done this once.
Last night his bro was over and as usual they got very drunk together. He came to bed about two and woke me up about 30 times in 3 hours. He wouldnt even turn on to his side even when I begged him to (he is worse on his back)
I came downstairs but it isn't very comfy and I was so upset I couldn't sleep. Got more angry and hurt as I lay there, and decided to go and wake him up to give him a tast of his own medicine (normally i tiptoe out so as not to disturb him.) Anyway he gets up, grabs the boat keys and leaves without a word to go and sleep on the boat.
I'm so hurt and upset. This prob happens about once a month when bro is here or we visit him- and I wish just occasionally he would give me a thought. I also work in an office whereas he works from home and can have a lie in if needed. Ambu?

[mrsbiscuits]

Ok so I get this one because DH's snoring is a nightmare....and yes worse when he's had a few beers. We don't have enough rooms for a spare room so luckily DS1 has a double bed ( mainly because he falls out of a single) In addition we have a really comfy modular sofa that can be made into a super comfy bed. Failing that if we have guests and there is nowhere left for me to go I have purcahsed a cheap "readybed" from Argos. Because I need to sleep and I am going to make damn sure I can no matter how loud he gets. Yes I wish he would shut up or someone would find a cure. I also wish he would get up and move to another place to sleep but he doesn't ( mainly because he's too busy sleeping) so at the end of the day it's up to me and by the sounds of it it's up to you too.

[PhilipJFry]

I would be furious as well in your position. It's absolutely disgusting that he thinks you aren't allowed to even LOOK upset at being called a "dick". It's obvious that this incident is one in a long line that have made you feel unappreciated and it's not surprising you're starting to reach breaking point.

[40winks]

I have this problem and I would just LOVE to have the guts to set myself up permanently in a separate bedroom.

[hellospoon]

he is obviously showing a complete lack of respect for you. don't be anybodys door mat.

[Georgimama]

still feeling confident the OP's husband doesn't have a drink problem, cricketballs (note I said he sounds like he has a drink problem, not " he is an alcoholic" - there's a difference)?

If he's asleep on the sofa leave him there all night if need be. Don't wake him, just ignore. And move him into the spare room, not you.

[thenightsky]

I feel your pain OP - my DH is a snorer too.

It beats me that the jails are not full of women doing time for murder to be quite frank.

I find that waking him up every time he wakes me up rams the 'bugger off to spare room' message home.

[Happymm]

Suspect this isn't just a couple of sessions a month, especially if he's plastered for a second night, drinking alone, by 7.30 :(