To think this was a (minor but) turdy thing to do?

[MrsKravitz]

DH got a box of heroes (plus a book and dvd) from ds (6) for father's day.
DH watched the dvd and ate the box of chocolates with DSS (16) last night. Dont think they even kept one for DS.

If my six year ol dgave my husband a Pirates of the Caribbean dvd, there is no way my husband would ASSUME that he was meant to sit and watch it with the child. Not least because it is a 12 certificate, and thus not necessarily suitable.

I think you are being unreasonable.

Really? They had just been to see the stranger tides one at the cinema together a few weeks prior.

I was just thinking....if it was my daughter and she gave me a dvd and a box of chocs for mothers day, I would immediately say. "Oh thanks x, shall we watch this together? That would be lovely.

Yes, very importanf for a small child to treat gift giving in a legalistic fashion.

FFS he is SIX

Pretty bizarre behaviour for adults to be completely unable to read nuance and insist a gift from a child is transaction like buying something in a shop.

And no, the person who gives you a gift shouldn't be the one who suggests how you use it. But that doesn't mean you should be a twat about it.

My DS 6 will still suggest buying things he likes because he thinks the other person would like it.

I don't think the 6yo expected to watch it with dad and expect he will watch it with dad one day - great thing about dvd's.

It was maybe a little thoughtless to watch it with his brother and scoff the sweets but thats the point of thoughtless isn't it - no severe consequences so just doesn't cross your mind.

I've done this loads with sweets DS has bought me and shared with friend - never crossed my mind

I don't think anyones BU here tbh.

shecutofhertail

It is very possible the younger ds gets to do things with his dad that that the eldest does not .and vice versa part of the thing when you have age gap and hell sometimes when dd and ds3 are in bed I order pizza for me and ds1 and ds2 but then other times wer eout and dd and ds3 would have things like ballons .

So if ds3 is not worried , why are you

But this is more like if you made the younger child ring the pizza, pick the toppings, and then packed him off to bed.

I care because the OP cares. Why do you care enough to make up random scenarios if not for the same reason?

I would certainly care if my DH did something that mean to one of our children, even if the child in question was oblivious to the slight.

Does rather sound as though it is the fact that DH watched the film with HIS son which rankles, whatever the OP says.

They are BOTH his sons. They are both MY sons (although I didnt give birth to one of them its true). They both live with us. The fact dh shared it with the child who didnt give it to him is annoying, yes. The step part is irrelevant. Even if Id gi9ven birth to him, I would have felt the same. Its the brother who gave the present who was forgotten.

Did you say anything at the time?

I wasnt there. I was upstairs asleep with the little one.

Definitely with the OP on this one. Purely and simply because, having given the gift, it would have been nice for the lo to have been included so he could have the pleasure of watching his dad enjoy his gift. Just as important, if not more, than getting a share of the chocolates imho.

A bit and at those on this thread trying to make something out of the boy being included in this evening of entertainment being the OP's DSS!