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to ask if you would hire a male escort for the evening?

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WkdSM · 23/06/2011 09:14

A male friend has given up his full time job so he can share custody of his 2 DD's - still working but not earning as much as needs to be around when DD's stay with him.
He has come up with the idea of hiring himself out as a dinner companion / 'plus one' for anyone who wants a bit of company without any romatic / relationship conotations - or a corporate or family thing where they want a companion rather than go solo. Strictly nothing sexual.
So - would you ever consider hiring a chap for the evening and how much would you be prepared to pay?

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SinicalSal · 23/06/2011 11:14

You'd love it LeQueen. Right up your street

TobyLerone · 23/06/2011 11:14

Yep, I'd do it if I had to. No qualms.

bubblecoral · 23/06/2011 11:18

But why would anyone have to? Why would anyone have to have a male companion to an event?

I'm sure there are women that use this kind of a service, who kid themselves that they are confident women of the world who are just using their financial power to hire a service that they require, but in fact they are desparate oddballs who should either go it alone or work on finding themselves a relationship. Using this kind of a service is just plain wierd.

TobyLerone · 23/06/2011 11:26

Ok. Nobody has to take a companion along to a wedding/event. Of course they don't. But some people might like to.

Judging women (to the point of calling them quite nasty names) who wish to have a man accompanying them to an event, while sitting in your smug married ivory towers is truly horrible. Women really are bitches sometimes.

There is no reason that I can see not to hire the services of someone who is happy and able to provide them.

BillBrysonsRucksack · 23/06/2011 11:31

I went to a wedding where the MOTHER OF THE BRIDE brought an escort as her plus 1!

She was very open about it and uses him regularly, apparently.

TobyLerone · 23/06/2011 11:32

And why the fuck shouldn't she?

supercal · 23/06/2011 11:34

Bill -

Was he much younger?

I can't imagine many men would be happy having at their wedding the man their mother pays to give her orgasms.

Hullygully · 23/06/2011 11:34

I agree Toby.

I don't think there is anything wrong in a woman paying for sex either. obviously it would be lovely if no one ever had to and everyone could have great smokin hot monkey sex on demand, but until then..why not?

TobyLerone · 23/06/2011 11:37

I can't imagine many men would be happy having at their wedding the man their mother pays to give her orgasms.

An 'escort' is not necessarily a prostitute. This is a huge generalisation/assumption.

Most people have at their wedding the man their mother doesn't pay to give her orgasms. Fucked if I can see the difference.

Ephiny · 23/06/2011 11:39

No, I can't imagine why anyone would .

'Escort' definitely implies there will be 'personal services' available, there are going to be some awkward misunderstandings unless he's very clear about that from the start! Do you think he really doesn't want to do that, or just doesn't want to tell you?

I'm surprised everyone assumes it his potential customers would be women, because I'd have guessed most of the interest would be from other men, would he be comfortable with that?

toddlerama · 23/06/2011 11:41

Toby Why shouldn't she??? Because if the father of the bride turned up with an escort to his daughter's wedding he'd be labelled a tool of the highest order too! Surely I'm not unusual in thinking that hired company is inappropriate generally, but specifically at your children's weddings!?!

toddlerama · 23/06/2011 11:41

OP, is it you? Are you touting for business on MN?

worraliberty · 23/06/2011 11:42

I think the 'No Sex' part of the deal means...'let's wait and see if you're a minger'

Seriously no. I think most women could find a man to take along without having to hire one...anyway, what's wrong with taking a female companion as a plus 1 on an invite?

SuePurblybilt · 23/06/2011 11:45

I don't see why women would take along an escort as a plus one to functions if they were planning on passing him off as a new boyfriend. Wouldn't she be likely to have friends/colleagues there who would know fine well that she had no boyfriend the day before? Or be likely to ask where he'd gone the day after?
It only works in Julia Roberts films or perhaps for exceptionally fine men .

supercal · 23/06/2011 11:46

TobyL - oh come on, it's hardly a huge leap or assumption! I am sure that not all women who use escorts want sex with them, but I'm betting that over half do.

I read an account once by a male escort, and IIRC he did say that he would politely decline sex from some of his clients if he just couldn't find anything to fancy about them. He did however have sex with most of them.

worraliberty · 23/06/2011 11:47

Or the shame of a guest taking you to one side and saying "Do you know your boyfriend's an escort on the quiet?'

Allinabinbag · 23/06/2011 11:48

I went to all events on my own (or took a female friend) til I was married in my mid-thirties, and since then both my husband and myself attend lots of events now separately. I go to work conferences all the time on my own, have been to weddings, family do's, reuinions, dinners, it's just not an issue, are these a different type of event then? I'm sorry, it is outdated to need a man on your arm. My husband lives away in the week, should he hire women to go out with him in the evening as he doesn't like going places alone? Of course not.

Plus, as LeQueen pointed out, if you go alone, you may actually meet someone nice, although perhaps that's what these women are paying for, the opportunity not to be harrassed.

TobyLerone · 23/06/2011 11:49

Why shouldn't she??? Because if the father of the bride turned up with an escort to his daughter's wedding he'd be labelled a tool of the highest order too!

Perhaps by judgy cunts. Not by me.

Hullygully · 23/06/2011 11:51

I think escourst should be mandatory at weddings. Make em a lot more interesting.

TobyLerone · 23/06/2011 11:52

sallysquirrel · 23/06/2011 11:59

Would never hire a male escort though I would hire a naked butler or two for a girls night but would certainly avoid any offered 'extras' - dirty dirty dirty yuk yuk yuk!!!

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WkdSM · 23/06/2011 12:00

toddelerama - No it's not me - it was a genuine question on behalf of a male friend.
Amazing when I said definitely NO sex - and how many people's mind have turned to sex.
But I will pass on your comments to him.
Thanks ladies

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Stars82 · 23/06/2011 12:00

wordsonapage:

In response to my comments...whispers etc I meant more if I had suddenly found myself single etc

My DH husband often goes away with work for very long periods and I would have no problem attending events alone in that case, If DH and I split up etc I would consider an ecsort.

It is all situation dependant.

TechLovingDad · 23/06/2011 12:05

my brother did a bit of this in Thailand. Rich women hire men to be their dinner dates and go to bars with. He got a bit of money and got to say no when they got a bit too carried away.

Though I'm sure he said yes more often than no

Allinabinbag · 23/06/2011 12:07

Of course most people's minds turned to sex, if a female friend said she was working as an escort, I would presume she was having sex for money. That's what escort means to me, although I'm sure there are some rare men and women who just want dinner and a night out without physical contact, I can't imagine it's a big market though.

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