My bastard of a partner is watching porn whilst I struggle to feed our baby

[Delski]

Recently had a baby and I'm struggling to fed him, partner no help.
Tonight I said I'd feed him upstairs then go to bed, partner was going to do some paperwork, I fed my baby got ready for bed and but telly on as a little background noise helps me drop off. I turn on and he's watching the adult channel babe something or other, I sneak downstairs and he's masterbating.
I screamed he was a pervert and gone to sleep in the baby's room. I don't want to see or talk to him. AIBU to feel like this. I tired very weepy and strutting to feed bubba.

OP can you visit a BF group or ask your midwife to refer you to a BF counsellor? Ring today and ask for some help, don't put it off!

Forget about DP's porn/masturbating, you can deal with that in the future when the baby's feeding better.

Poor you! Forget the porn for now - he's being an insensitive clod, but you just need to talk to him calmly (no yelling pervert again, ok?).

But you've come to the right place for breastfeeding advice! And having someone watch you in real life will help enormously. Do you have a BF clinic or drop-in near you? Can we help find one for you?

Unless you bounced back into shape within days of giving birth and/or feel totally confident about your post-natal body, I think you should also tell him that watching taut and toned females gyrate on some guy's dick while you've got leaking tits and a saggy tum does not make you feel loved and appreciated - or good about yourself, if that is the case.

Although he can't feed his dc at the moment there's a lot of other things he could be doing to make you feel supported and, in my book, that includes having the sensitivity to lock himself in the lavatory and jerk off using his imagination or some porn mag that he keeps hidden in the garage if he doesn't have a creative mind.

Agree with northerlurker, you're doing really well for someone with sore nipples!

Sorry your going through this delski I had problems BF too so switched to formula in the end. Maybe speak to MW again or ask to see your GP for more advise.
As for you DH well he should know better especially as your so upset. Speak to him about it, he probably thinks he's done nothing wrong.