Year 6 Prom - WTF?

[ZXEightyMum]

Yes it is nice to celebrate the end of Junior School. Apart from the Yr 6 Residential trip and the Yr 6 surprise outing on the last day and the Leavers' Assembly why mark the occasion with a glorified School-Disco comprising a shit-load of extra expense at the exact same time as you are buying a completely new school uniform for Secondary for your child?

Well done those parents who suggested that it would be a fantastic idea and who will be spending £30 on a FUCKING TIARA for their little Princess for this one evening and will then spend shite-all on decent non-flimsy uniform for their children if the children are to be clad in uniform at all thus making my job harder

Damn the Yr 6 Prom, damn it all to Hell. And no I am not being unreasonable!

Yes but for goodness sake OP what does that have to do with other parents buying their children prom clothes

This is like pulling teeth....

Even if it hasn't got anything to do with prom clothes, I still don't understand it.

our middle school had a prom only £3.00 but as ALL her friends were going and they all brought expensive dresses and had a limo (was lovely) but you felt obliged to join in or your dc would be left out and as there so bloody snobby ostracised from the group everyone went the teachers took photos but how OTT for middle school i totally understand for secondary but all my dcs will stay on in 6th form so its still needless expense really but at least you know about that way in advance we didnt know about the middle school until a few weeks before, i had that and all three needed new uniform and shoes ect before going back maybe i could change my name to Robin Banks

"So how is your job as a parent affected if other parents spend too much money on the prom and not enough on school uniform?"

Do you have older children? If not can you not imagine this scenario?

"But McKayla's Mum can't afford proper uniform and nobody else can either and I don't want to be the only person who wears a blazer"

And finding that most local families have indeed skinted themselves for the prom in July instead of saving for uniforms.

Well perhaps you have to live where I live. Richer and / or middle-class people will never understand what I am trying to say I suppose. That if there is limited money then it should be spent on something which facilitates a sense of community and commitment for a year rather than a one-off and totally unnecessary fuss.

Oh look at you two forming a couple worra and LR, bless you

I have 3 boys. The eldest has left school, middle is in year 7 and youngest in year 3.

All of the schools insist on children wearing proper school uniform or they get internally excluded..no ifs and no buts. I also live in a London Borough that's one of the poorest in the country.

However, I still don't see where the Prom comes in on this as such.

Many parents will spend 10 times what they spend on a prom...just having a week's caravan holiday...so that's why your argument doesn't make sense.

I think your point is probably valid OP, but you are really not getting it across very well.

You need to be clearer, and remember that people on the internet don't know the background information that you have in your head. That's because they don't know you or your situation, not because they are rich or middle class.

Really?

I am sorry for my earlier comment worra. It was uncalled for.

I do know what you mean its having a sense of priority which if some of the parents are on over £100.000 a year wages and im on my piddly amount it does make it so very hard , and I dont skimp on uniform either so we went rather short for a couple months after the bloody prom then buying uniform especially with blazers at over £30= each and thats not counting all the rest they need inc haircuts and shoes and new bags god knows whos idea it is but i gather the school and committee decided easy decison when its someone elses money and kids

Thank you bubblecoral. I am very tired and overdue for a name-change anyway so apologies to to LineRunner too while I have this one.

Primary school proms are not really that big in my area but there was a fantastically awful programme on BBC Scotland about 2 primary schools that did have them, 1 in particular sticks in my mind regarding the expense mad parents went to, over all the hair, makeup, dresses and transport etc. And the boys parents were just as bad. It made the news actually at the time because some parents had tried to hire a helicopter to fly their kids to the prom.

sorry forgot to say yes of course you could deny your dc to go but that would feel mean to exclude your own dc.My DD will be having a school trip next year to NY for a week as part of Media Studies and i gather it was £845 last year im worried about it as its a ridiculous amount of dosh but thats not inc spending money and clothes and I really would like her to go but I am not sure how ill manage that one ...maybe sell a kidney

Bless. Thank you OP. Apologies if my gentle teasing wasn't what you needed today.

But I still don't understand about the uniform thing.

Do you just want to abandon trying to explain it to me? I don't mind. To be honest I ought to get the tea on.

Year 6 proms are ridiculous

I think if I understood her right its literally she doesnt want to buy rubbish uniform whilst spending a fortune on a prom dress and limo for one night only when the uniforms to be worn all year its not good economics is it and i agree but IME we always manage somehow dont we but this Media trip im shitting a brick about (please excuse my expression) and its that sometimes Middle class way these same mums look down their noses at you and your dc if you dont follow suit is that what you mean OP

I'll explain it one day when I have had more than three hours sleep in twenty four (joys of autistic son and being on the spectrum myself) and it will make no lots of sense

Oh well, I try and then I fuck up but it is still worth being here. Thank you for being so gracious.

My dcs Autistic so i REALLY do understand that ZXE bless you get a bit of kip in

oops my dc i mean my DS

worral Its the heat! Of course i meant dc

I dont believe you nokissymum I bet your dh loves dressing up in a prom dress tiara and fishnets

drivemecrazy

YABU, the kids absolutly love it.

Mind you I am lucky because 1) I can make dd's tiara, and 2) my dad has a new york taxi which saves us paying for a seat in a limo.

Even if we didn't then why does it have to be expensive ? You can shop around for a cheap dress or use one they already have, same with tiara.

the bit the kids love bests the vehicle mine went in a cherry red hummer limo wasnt that expensive between us all but i do think it would be better to wait till leaving secondary

My ds1 leavers do is a swimming party and food after which has cost £5 as the friends committee give £100 towards it. It is all done and dusted ina couple of hours, no mess to clear up and no expensive outfits. bargain

I am sorry for my earlier comment worra. It was uncalled for

Ahh water under the bridge