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Original poster

not being able to find that thread

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BabyYoureAFirework · 21/06/2011 12:33

about the poor woman who lived in a separate house from her husband, and didn't have a key, whilst he was having dinner parties and such? I thought I marked it 'watching' - was it deleted?

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cookielove · 21/06/2011 12:40

I just checked my 'i'm on' list and it has disappeared, i assume it has been deleted

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BabyYoureAFirework · 21/06/2011 12:43

Bugger. I really wanted to see how it turned out. Thanks though Smile

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CoteDAzur · 21/06/2011 12:45

Is there nothing people won't put in AIBU?

YABU.

Shoesytwoesy · 21/06/2011 12:46

wow I have only just realised you can watch threads

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BabyYoureAFirework · 21/06/2011 13:42

I had to, Cote - it was the quickest way to get a response. And I did adjust the title of my thread to reflect.

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GypsyMoth · 21/06/2011 13:51

why was it deleted? anyone?

cookielove · 21/06/2011 13:57

I assume either the word troll was shouted, or the OP maybe asked for it to be removed.

cookielove · 21/06/2011 13:58

I can't remember the thread title or the name of the OPoster [Very forgetful is me]

CoteDAzur · 21/06/2011 14:07

You had to get an immediate response because someone would die if you didn't know what happened to that thread right away? Hmm

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BabyYoureAFirework · 22/06/2011 12:18

Apologies, CoteDAzur, I was unaware of your promotion to the thread/bandwidth police Hmm

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Pumpernickel10 · 22/06/2011 12:26

YABU it's been deleted because the op requested it to be, so stop rubbernecking I'm sure there's more juicy topics on here to get your claws into [ grin]
Remember an op doesn't come back as a the bun fighting that breaks out on shut threads.

Pumpernickel10 · 22/06/2011 12:29

I'm with cote on this one, the vicar thread got me, someone even started a thread to find out what happened to her. Jeez. Luckiky me and other MNers reported it and got it shut down. People where posting rubbing hands to see what was going to happen. It's like a car crash on MN.

HarlotOTara · 22/06/2011 12:38

But surely posting on a public messageboard means that people will read the posts and will wonder what happened if they disappear. I don't see what is wrong with that. If you don't want the world to know what is happening in your real life then don't post on a messageboard. I wondered where it had gone but assumed someone had asked for it to be deleted.

Also some posters get caught up in a story, invest a lot of emotional energy and take it personally if the thread disappears or the OP stops posting. Again, nature of the beast surely. I can't understand the pious attitude towards this sort of thing. Everyone on MN is reading posts for all sorts of reasons and some of them are because we are nosey. C'est la vie

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BabyYoureAFirework · 22/06/2011 12:42

Exactly! I read the thread in the last half an hour of work the other day, and then went to check what had happened and it had gone. So I enquired about it. This sort of attitude annoys me beyond belief. What's it to you if I start a thread that doesn't interest you personally?

What's the big deal?

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BabyYoureAFirework · 22/06/2011 12:43

And I wasn't 'rubbing my hands', *Pumpernickel. I felt sorry for the woman. If that's alright with you, like.

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Pumpernickel10 · 22/06/2011 13:00

Feel sorry for her by all means but don't create another thread, it's been deleted probably by the op if she wants to tell you she would have, in this case she doesn't so respect her wishes.

Pumpernickel10 · 22/06/2011 13:01

If you feel for the woman PM her don't start a thread asking what's happened

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BabyYoureAFirework · 22/06/2011 14:08

You know... I'm going to leave this now, because it's all a bit pathetic, frankly. But how can I PM her when I don't even know her username?

Please don't try and police my posting. You're as aware as I am that it really is none of your business.

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StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 22/06/2011 14:18

Well - by posting it on a public forum, you made it her business, didn't you, Baby.

Pumpernickel10 · 22/06/2011 14:19

When you put a post up on here its everyone's business. I am not policing I was stating you was BU for asking,don't post on here if you don't like these type of answers,you have to handle the rough with the smooth on MN, yes it is pathetic wondering why someone as deleted their own post.

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BabyYoureAFirework · 22/06/2011 14:23
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dickiedavisthunderthighs · 22/06/2011 14:23

I think some people forget that these are people's real lives we're dealing with here, not fucking Eastenders.

Pumpernickel10 · 22/06/2011 14:36

Exactly dickie they are not here to entertain you and to have deleted their post shows you baby that they have no more to say,so move on.
That op would have asked to have it deleted. nothing more as shes getting on with her life.

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BabyYoureAFirework · 22/06/2011 14:42

I DIDN'T KNOW IT WAS DELETED!! THAT'S WHY I ASKED! Fucksake.

I was concerned about the woman. I didn't have time to read the whole thread because I was at work, and I wanted to read it til the end when I got home.

Some people here do make me laugh. I can imagine you all tutting away at the imagined lack of posting etiquette. It's a forum. ANYONE can ask what they like, say what they like, post what they like, and surprisingly, it's NOT your jobs to be the monitor. Save your browbeating for your husbands, eh? I'm sure they're well used to it Smile

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BowiesJumper · 22/06/2011 14:44

now now kids

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