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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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not being able to find that thread

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BabyYoureAFirework · 21/06/2011 12:33

about the poor woman who lived in a separate house from her husband, and didn't have a key, whilst he was having dinner parties and such? I thought I marked it 'watching' - was it deleted?

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caughtinanet · 22/06/2011 14:51

There seems to be a lot of snippiness about today, there are always threads asking about where other threads have gone.

If the OP knew the poster on the other thread had asked for it to be deleted she wouldn't start a thread about it would she?

dickiedavisthunderthighs · 22/06/2011 15:19

Nobody knows for sure that the other thread got deleted but they've made an educated guess i.e. not there = deleted.
I think a 5 year old could work that one out, so to then start a thread about it on AIBU because it was the 'quickest way to get a response' is unnecessarily nosy.

AnyFucker · 22/06/2011 15:23

whoa there....that OP has started another thread

hang on, I will post the link for you

AnyFucker · 22/06/2011 15:25

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

LRDTheFeministNutcase · 22/06/2011 15:25

Oh FFS, this is ridiculous. I've had threads of my own deleted because they had identifying information in, isn't that the commonest thing? I wouldn't give a toss if someone asked about them (not that anyone would as nothing very dramatic happens to me). Why all the sanctimonious mock-outrage?

AnyFucker · 22/06/2011 15:26

shit sorry, I have wrong person

I will report my post, ignore me

LRDTheFeministNutcase · 22/06/2011 15:27

I mean ... do you not see the irony of clicking on a thread titled 'not being able to find that thread' ... then claiming you're shocked the OP wants to discuss a deleted thread?

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BabyYoureAFirework · 22/06/2011 15:27

Thanks AF. I'll just quickly PM the posters in the thread and ask their permission to click on it

And yes, LRD - I concur. Anyone would think I had asked for a recipe involving the scalp of a newborn child

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AnyFucker · 22/06/2011 15:31

it should go soon, I stupidly got the wrong person

sorry folks

but I don't see any harm in wondering if there was an outcome to a thread (especially the really concerning ones)

when people post here, they know they are putting it into the public domain

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BabyYoureAFirework · 22/06/2011 15:41

Bugger. I got a bit nosy excited then!

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BabyYoureAFirework · 22/06/2011 15:42

Thanks anyway! I shall keep my eyes peeled for anything that looks similar to the subject.

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Pumpernickel10 · 22/06/2011 15:49

I think for me and why I did get on my high horse is some things I would not discuss on here,thats just me,but I do understand that some don't have anymore to turn to but the threads I have hidden in the past like the "vicar" one was really personal and then it got into a bun fighter,the concerns for the op went out the window then everyone started speculating what had happened as she had not logged in for 24 hrs,I thought FFS let the lady have some peace.
Now I doubt MN would have just deleted a most unless it was trolling so all I can say is the op in question asked for it to be deleted off.

wannaBe · 22/06/2011 15:54

this is a public message board. If people are going to post their private business on a website that is visited by in excess of 250000 people on a daily basis then they should do so in the knowledge that A, they have no idea who's reading it, and B, some people will find it entertaining and want to know the outcome.

People use these boards for all manner of reasons. sometimes it's because they want to support other people, but sometimes it's because they find them entertaining. Anyone who posts here should bear that in mind.

Pumpernickel10 · 22/06/2011 15:57

Exactly I see your point wannaBe

LRDTheFeministNutcase · 22/06/2011 15:57

pump, HQ don't usually delete just because people are being nasty - if they did half the threads in AIBU would disappear!

Supermummy74 · 22/06/2011 16:07

They usually only deleted posts if the person who wrote the post wants it deleted. In this case it looks like the OP asked to have it deleted.

abbdabb · 25/06/2011 18:47

so sorry, it was me. i asked for the thread to be deleted as i was scared regarding my safety.

i need to explain - i now realise that my circumstances are unusual, i explained it in far too much detail - detail which would make me easily identifiable to people i know who use mumsnet.

it was really stupid to go into so much detail. i was concerned regarding the legal/tax situation. H had a visit from the tax manonly 3 days ago (huge coincidence). i don't want to be implicated in any of this, as i don't know what is really going on - i'm being led a 'merry' dance by h. i wanted help, am grateful to those who tried. xx

CoteDAzur · 30/06/2011 19:43

Baby - I don't care that you were rubbernecking. My problem is that you put this in AIBU where it does not belong, because you just had to have a quick response to your frivolous question.

spiderslegs · 30/06/2011 20:18

& anyway, threads do get deleted by those other than the OP. I had a thread of mine deleted. I had been outed in RL because of a thread regarding a sticky social situation, coincidentally read by someone I know in RL, who then mentioned it to a mutual friend. It all blew up & people were joining MN to have a nosy (and generally get involved in the ensuing RL bitch-fest).

I didn't care. I wouldn't have posted anything on here I wouldn't want to be public knowledge, it is, after all, a public forum.

The person who outed me, did however, get the thread removed.

izzywhizzyletsgetbusy · 30/06/2011 22:57

I hope the responses you received have been of help to you, or that they have at least given you new avenues to explore abbdabb,

Without wishing to pry, if you remain in need of legal advice please feel free to pm me . I do not know any other m/netters in RL, and I very much doubt that our social circles overlap but, in any event, any information you provide will be held in strictest confidence and any communication between us will be for our eyes only.

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