to have put their washing up on the balcony?

[abowlofwashingup]

Right.

Long story short.

I am a mature university student with one DD (12yrs).

I live with a group of people a similar age to me (late 20s). It is a houseshare. It's not a sharey, sharey houseshare. We all cook for ourselves, not each other, we don't buy food and share it. It's basically a house we all rent rooms in.

Two of the others (a couple) are very, very messy. They don't clean up after themselves. They leave washing up all over the kitchen and after they've cooked and eaten they don't wipe surfaces so it is actually impossible to use the kitchen for a day or two after they've cooked, unless you clean up for them. If you point out the mess and the fact that they've rendered the kitchen out of order for others, or are forcing other to clear up the mess they tell you they've been working hard at work and need a rest.

Anyhow, I digress.

I always take care of mine and DD's kitchen mess as soon as we've eaten (if it's a quick meal often wash pans before I sit down). This couple went on holiday and the night before they went they cooked a huge 3 course meal then left their shit all over the kitchen and went on holiday.

All of the other housemates were away - they knew they were leaving their mess for me and my DD to clear up. Even though they have never once had to clear up after us.

Instead of getting cross/resen tful/pissed off about it, I just calmly took it all out on the balcony and left if there for them to sort out when they got back.

When they got back, they hit the roof. What it boils down to, is that they excpected me to wash it all for them. They think I am making a point just to be petty.

What would you have done?

I'd have done the same as you..

I would have wanted to bin it all.

And i'd be looking for somewhere else to live if they were rude enough to hit the roof.

I would have done exactly that (and if I am honest a lot more).
What on earth were they complaining about?

I think you did the right thing, the situation sounds awful and they should be embarrassed at being such dirty slobs, rather than getting angry with you!

Grrr,cheeky fuckers like that really get my back up.

! YANBU! They have a nerve!

Ash, I remember those days, stick to your guns!!

You and your DD shouldn't have to put up with that. That sort of thing can really drag you down when you have to live with it long-term (I've been there, but in my early 20s before children)

Is there any way that you can live elsewhere? Or that they can live elsewhere?

good for you! i'm surprised they had the nerve to complain - cheeky buggers!

It may have been petty but it was definitely justified! I used to live in a shared house so I know where you are coming from. I think you were very reasonable in leaving it on the balcony. I would have put it in a big black sack!

They are being unreasonable. You are definitely not there to clean up after them. The way they reacted really makes them look like spoiled children. Cheeky so and sos!

So what did they expect you to do with the washing up? Leave it in the kitchen for a week?

I'd have done the same as you.

I'd have skipped the lot so IMO they're lucky their stiff's still there! :o

This brings back memories. I remember in my student days my flatmate put my washing up in my bed.

I learned my lesson ...

Bugger, meant their STUFF of course

no - you were restrained - I'd have dumped it on their bed.

Cheeky buggers I think yanbu at all - what did they say to you?

YANBU. Tell them you already have one DD that you clean up after, you don't wish to add another couple of adult children to your list. Immature, lazy gits.

I would definitely have done the same-maybe I would have put everything into a black bag though first.

Do you have house meetings? This should really be thrashed out between the whole household.

cross posts with georgeeliot

I'd have binned it. Have you asked them what you should have done with it? I'd like to know their response. Have you you reported them to the landlord?

mind you - (I digress here) its obviously not unknown ..dss brought home not only bags of dirty washing (including a sheet that hadnt been washed all year so looked like the shroud of turin ) but bags full of dirty pans.. Strangely his mum refused to wash the pans.

They, well, the bloke, basically came in and had a massive go at me, shouting in my face. He was kind of saying "oh, I can just picture you enjoying getting all worked up about it and stropping about it and looking at it out of the window all week getting all indignant" and shit like that.

I mean wtf? I have a life, I'm not interested in how selfish they are, I know they're selfish, I don't get my kicks out of thinking about it while they're away!

I genuinely moved it because I thought it MAY have been an oversight on their part and they would have thought "shit, i hope abowlof doesn't wash all that up". But then it transpired, that, YES, they did expect me to do it for them

The (weedy) girl came out with a line about how she'd done a load of washing up a few days before. Yes, you may have done BUT NONE OF IT BELONGED TO ME OR DD, IT NEVER DOES!!

wow they get better and better- you lucked out with them as flatmates.

Another who'd have done the same here.

Cheeky, lazy,idle,inconsiderate slobs.
YASNBU