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to ask what you wish you had done (more of) before your dc arrived?

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TheKidsAreAllWrong · 20/06/2011 17:09

got about 6 months (all going well) and people keep telling me to "make the most of it" with a knowing you-have-no-idea-what's-about-to-hit-you-you-excited-fool expression...

so, i want to benefit from your regrets Wink

what would you do if you had the 6 months left again?

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TheKidsAreAllWrong · 20/06/2011 19:33

Thanks, everyone! I'll look forward to being mostly naked and lazy and saying yes to things in foreign parts, then!

(Thanks JamieAgain for being so sweet, you sound lovely!)

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JamieAgain · 20/06/2011 19:34

I am, I am Wink

yummytummy · 20/06/2011 19:59

hiya, definitely sleepy weekend morning sex! really really miss that, no chance when ds up at 6.30am every day and dd still up at night for feeds! in fact actually waking up naturally at whatever time you want, thats a luxury! so yeah get lots of lie-ins in and lots of weekend sex!

springbokscantjump · 20/06/2011 21:06

Ooh can I go back a year? Because in that case then I'd go on holiday, sleep in and wear the skimpiest bikini to show off my (then) thin body.

sprinkles77 · 20/06/2011 21:16

Like lots of the others, I did my fair share of baby- free stuff, so there's no regret for things I could have done. But I'm really pleased that I travelled, got a career, shagged about, slept loads. So you can't really do these now you're preg, but you can have some great meals out, go to the theatre and cinema, have a decent beach holiday and lie in bed all day at the weekend. Oh, how I miss waking up cos I've had enough sleep, rather than because someone else has!

PlanetEarth · 20/06/2011 21:21

Travel. Getting a bit late for that now though (for you, I mean).

RedGreenBlue · 20/06/2011 21:22

Sleep.

Sleep sleep sleep sleep sleep sleep.

It's impossible to describe - maybe try a holiday to Guantanamo Bay to get the idea?

PlanetEarth · 20/06/2011 21:23

A lot of people are saying sleep, but it's not really something you can "enjoy doing more of" when you're already sleeping normally, is it?

Concordia · 20/06/2011 21:23

eaten more healthily
slept
saved money

PinkSchmoo · 20/06/2011 21:24

I wish I'd cleaned a LOT less.

hiccymapops · 20/06/2011 21:24

Eat food while it's still hot, and enjoy chewing it Grin

BrawToken · 20/06/2011 21:28

laurie and doodle, I can't believe how few people have mentioned the pub. I miss the pub soooo much. My eldest is 13, youngest 2 and I don't even have a local any more Sad Sad waaaaaaah.

Pictish · 20/06/2011 21:28

Shagging around.

Pictish · 20/06/2011 21:30

Oh hang on....I thought you meant before settling down sort of a thing....

Emmm....can't think of anything that having kids actually stops me doing...so nothing.

BerryMojito · 20/06/2011 21:36

Nope, can't think of anything at all!

fgaaagh · 20/06/2011 21:39

sleep and more sleep!!

toddlerama · 20/06/2011 21:43

Things I wish I'd done:
-Worn a bikini - that ship has sailed
-Decluttered my house ruthlessly (less stuff = less stress, also babies have a lot of accessories...)
-Got physically fitter
-Cleared all debt off so I wouldn't feel sheepish about not going back to work

All of the above would have made the first year of having my first baby easier in different ways, but honestly if I was given the option of have the children later with all this in place or have them when we did, I wouldn't change a thing. I think people give that warning to sort of 'bond' over the shared shock to the system, but it is a wonderful, happy shock! Not something to be approached with fear and trembling Grin

Also, you can't stockpile sleep. You will be tired. That's just tough. It's worth it. Wink

Serenitysutton · 20/06/2011 21:45

It's not like you can bank sleep so what good would sleeping more now do? You can get up and do exciting spontaneous things now, bugger sleep

PinkSchmoo · 20/06/2011 21:46

My dsis is currently on a 2 week 5 star babymoon. Wish I'd thought of doing it.

pixiestix · 20/06/2011 21:50

Loving this thread.
Naked, lazy weekend breaks in foreign climes sound just about perfect to me OP! Grin

cantpooinpeace · 20/06/2011 21:50

Poo in peace more :)

BettyDrapersWardrobeElf · 20/06/2011 22:05

I don't really have any regrets but I'd say as a recommendation, spend loads of time with your DP cos it'll be a long while before it's just the two of you again. My husband and I made an effort to go on loads of "dates" before DS was born. It was lovely and made us especially close at a time when that's really important.

Oh yeah and SLEEP! Honestly once you get past 8 months don't do ANYTHING you don't absolutely have to.

ZombiePlan · 20/06/2011 22:13

Do whatever it is that you like doing, at your own pace, because you'll certainly have less time for yourself (and certainly less uninterrupted time) for quite a while. If you have any major work to be done on the house. get it done now - it's much harder when you've got a baby to deal with and you're stressing about the noisy building work screwing up naptime.

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