to feel hurt by DH

[pissedofforwhat]

Again, for the second time, he has travelled on business and stopped off at duty free to buy himself cologne. No, he did not buy any for me. I think that stinks. I never pass through duty free without buying for him, ever. I had a sulk and when he asked what was wrong I told him. Made the big mistake of telling him I told my friends he had done this and they were not impressed by him. His response was 'go tell your friends to go f**k themselves

It's gentle teasing, OP, over something that really doesn't matter. Don't be such a ninny. :)

You should be ashamed of yourself, a grown woman 'having a sulk' over not getting enough presents. Go and buy your own perfume if you want some!

I think what he said to you was rude and I would not like being spoken to like that. But to be fair to him, I would guess you're more than a bit trying to live with...

pissedoff if it upsets you then it upsets you, fair enough. I'm assuming he knows you would like him to get you something too, but still doesn't bother? If so then you need to talk to him and say that you feel hurt that he doesn't think of you.

Sulking about it won't help because it makes you seem a bit childish (sorry but just being honest!). And dragging your friends into the argument doesn't help either because it's bugger all to do with them really isn't it? Surely all that matters is what you and your H think and do within your marriage - nobody else's opinions should come into it.

Oh just tell him what to buy you next time he goes. Honestly, the solution is obvious isn't it?!

Ha ha OP don't be upset I actually feel for you (only a little), maybe you should tell him that you would like a little present every now and again?
Some men need a bit of a push with these things

op it's gentle banter, understand that and you'll be fine.
Now go out a treat yourself you'll feel tons better.
We always piss take but it's for your own good!

But I did like your DH saying tell your friends to fuck themselves! That's a keeper :) and he's so right too. Nosy feckers.

YABA. He didn't buy you anything on his trip and you told your friends. He probably just didn't think or didn't know what scent you would like.

Well, OP, I think YANBU at all. The others are being mean. Your dh should have got you something if he got himself a present. If he didn't know which perfume, he could get something else. Bit mean of him I think.

We are not being mean we are bring rational! Most adults do not sulk because their hubby didn't buy them any perfume. She needs to grow up a bit as I'd hate him to buy her a crappy crimbo/birthday pressie, we wouldn't hear the end of it.

After 13 years with my DH he still doesn't know what perfume I wear.

Agree Pumpernickel.
DP used to bring me freebies from his trips (McDonald's types free cups, or samples ) until I kicked up a bit of a fuss (half-jokingly) and now he sends me photos from the duty free shop or local bazaar or whatever to ask if I'd like this or that

pumpernickel, it's only been 4 yrs for DH & I, I have no idea if he even wears man perfume. Am I odd for not caring/noticing. He smells nice though.

YABU, if he bought you something you'd hated..would you have had a similar strop?

seriously?! He didn't buy you perfume so your having a strop?!

Do get over yourself OP!

I think that YANBU to feel hurt-I would, I think.

Although that said I do have quite a few perfumes & husband only tends to buy himself an aftershave when he needs it so wouldn´t see it as treating himself & therefore not think it necessary to also get me something.

I think that YWBU to tell friends though.

If I did that it would be in a jokey way, not really complaining.

TBH I´m always glad to have him home safely.

Ah yes - MN is here to resolve all your problems:

'D'H made me coffee in bed this morning but put the wrong milk in it - should I leave him?

or
DP told me my ase DOES look big in this - is he having an affair?

Still it does provide light entertainment on a slack work day...

YABU.

Either buy your own perfume or tell your DH which perfume you would like the next time he goes through duty free. Men really do not think of stuff like that or maybe he is worried that he will buy you perfume you do not like and you will have a strop.

sorry i have to say to whoever made the comment about telling her friends to strengthen her argument being wrong-what exactly are many of the threads on mn then? women gettingother womens support in things that have pissed them off?

Well I would feel a bit hurt too, especially if I always thought of him and got him something. It is a bit selfish.

Yes I think it's a little bit selfish of her husband, if they are the sort of couple that buy each other presents. Total over reaction from the OP though. Personally I would have made a little joke about it.

How often do you treat yourself normally? Does your dh only buy himself things in Duty Free?

I do think you are be unreasonable by posting on your own thread 3 minutes after posting which makes me think you're being stroppy cos no one answered and made yourself look stupid.

Yes knitted but thats getting strangers advice not people that her DH will see on a I suppose semi-regular basis who have now formed an opinion that he is mean and a knob.

He got himself aftershave, big whoop OP...He is on business not on holidays, everytime he goes away is he expected to bring something back?

i think i would be pissed off too BUT DH would get himself his fave aftershave and me my fave perfume lol

So when you buy make up or face cream or clothes, do you buy your DP the same?