to be really fucked off re Fathers Day

[slightlyunbalanced]

Ex DH is a twat, we don't get on he regually tries to have me arrested/sacked very very acrimonious.

He did nothing for me for mothers day, my OH and my best friend gave the kids some money and she took them out and they got me a gorgeous necklace and card etc.

He has been so foul recently (he has rejected one of our children who isn't biolgoically his yet who he continued to see 5 years after our separation) and generally a shit father that I couldn't bring myself to organise anything and I have been busy with work.

They were there this weekend and his g/fs daughter presented their dad with a massive card and present in front of them when they clearly had nothing to give him.

Just thinking AIBU to think what a bitch his girlfriend was not to include our kids in that too?!

Feel really for my kids.

So you CBA to buy anything for your DC's to give their dad on Father's Day, and you didn't give them some money and prompting to get something themselves to give to him, yet you berate the OW because SHE didn't put your DC's name on HER DC's card and present!!!

What exactly did you expect her to do? She has no obligation to your kids OP. If your kids didn't have a Father's Day card and present to give their dad because you CBA and didn't prompt your DC's to do so, then that's your problem, not the OW's.

Do you know what? All week ds has been on about father's day. He made something and then took me out to get a book, a dvd and some chocs for his Dad (and a card). He then drew a few pictures and made up a poem for his Dad.
Dss is around your oldest's age. It didnt even OCCUR to me to buy something from him. Honestly.
Last night he came over to spend the week here and the boys must have been talking and he promptly went down to the shop and bought a card and a block of fruit and nut for his Dad.
If he hadnt? I dont know. TBH I wouldnt have even asked him if he had bought anything so wouldnt have realised to put his name on ds' gift and card.
Asking him "have you got your dad anything for father's day?" would feel a little like stepping over the line.