Picnic Hen Do In the Rain with newborn Following C-Section 2 weeks ago...

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More of a What Would You Do really...

An old school friends hen do today, organised by her sister. The plan is a picnic in the park, followed by ceramic painting finished off with an evening meal. I had agreed to attend the picnic and painting the meal was suggested yesterday and I have said that wont be able to attend this.

I had a c-section two weeks ago and we shall all be taking our children with us, I planned on leaving my toddler with my husband.

It is pouring with rain here and there is no alternative to the picnic suggested. I do not fancy a picnic in the rain, I do not want to take my two week old to a picnic in the rain...

Would I be unreasonable to not go to the picnic and only the painting. I hate being the person who bails on these things and feel like a right poo bag for even considering it.

two weeks ago! Two weeks! YANBU, don't be daft :)

I don't think you'll be the only one to bail on the rain picnic.

I don't think I would go either, under the circumstances. 2 weeks is recent for a section and a very small baby.

I wouldn't bother going at all tbh. I didn't leave the house for a month following my cs I felt so shit.

If she is a good friend she'll understand.

YANBU. Picnic? I could not have sat down on a blanket on the hard ground two weeks after my cs let alone got up again with any dignity, then with newborn and rain. Don't go. Just explain why. I would leave both children with your husband, go to the ceramic painting, relax and enjoy, and leave with a happy smile.

You had a serious operation two weeks ago
it's the weekend
you need to stay snuggled up inside feeding your baby
ceremic painting , wet picnics, jeez !
No one will go , they'll all turn up tonight
send a text 'dear hen, my baby needs me , see you at wedding'
doctors orders!

I thought I was doing well if I worked up the energy to stumble to the supermarket for a bag of nappies when I had a newborn. I was knackered.

And my c-section incision hurt still at that that point if I didn't take things quite easy. I could get about without pain, but I needed frequent lie downs, which is not that easy to do in a soggy park really.

A picnic, in the rain or not, 2 weeks post C with a newborn sounds like my idea of hell.

No way would I go and I'd be a bit put out if people saw it as me "bailing". I'd really hope it wouldn't be that hard for people to understand even if they hadn't had a baby yet.

Don't go.

Sounds hideous. I wouldn't go at all tbh and if I dragged myself to ceramic painting I'd expect a medal at the very least!

Don't go. It'll be miserable and it will set you back.

Thank you for all your advice. With open eyes I can see that if I did go it might look a bit martyrish. Why couldn't it be a nice pub lunch, I could handle that!!

Keep your PJs on and relax at home and enjoy your new baby, they're such precious times and it's hard work, besides you're recovering from major surgery. I'm sure your friend will understand and surely can't really be expecting you to turn up.... pouring with rain here too, a picnic would be very unappealing!

No, you are being reasonable to gracefully bail on the picnic. Even if you didn't just give birth.

If you had had any other operation which involved
being sliced open in the same way as a cs people would still be expecting you to be in hospital. So YANBU not to go.

You had major surgery two weeks ago.!

Stay with your lovely new baba,nice and snug.

Congratulations by the way.

Do not go. Stay in the warm and dry in your pj's on the sofa.

I wouldn't have done a thing 2 weeks after my cs. I also had a hysterectomy and was told to not do a thing for a month, the gynea team do not approve of the way post cs mums are made to just get on with it.

This hen do sounds like utter madness - of course you shouldn't feel bad if you don't go to the picnic - who in their right mind organising a hen do doesn't have an alternative plan if it is pouring?!

I am super impressed you are even going to the painting - you are obviously a kind friend!

Another vote for don't go.

Meglet, like the sound of your gynaes!

you can do what ever you like and with out guilt with a two week old! x

NO.

The people I know who have run into problems post-CS are those who felt fine after a couple of weeks and started overdoing it.

Your wounds are not fully healed. Be wise and take it as easy as you possibly can - you'll be more likely to heal well. Think ahead!

Cripes, I would not go to any of it.

I was told the recovery period was 6 weeks when I had my 2 sections. I intend to take those 6 weeks off as soon as my kids leave home.

Seriously OP, take it easy, you're in your recovery period. Tell the hen you're not up to it. I certainly wasn't 2 weeks after a CS! Took me 3 weeks to stop crying and 4 weeks to stand up without wincing.

At the very most, I would probably just go to the meal.

But only if I could be delivered to and from the restaurant with the miminum of discomfort.

Why are you even thinking about it?
Stay at home and give yourself a break

Tell me to piss of for high-jacking your thread OP but wanted to ask a very similar question myself.

Due to have a c-section just under 2 weeks before my sisters wedding. Can't bear the thought of not going so will be there come hell or high water but need someone to be honest and tell me what to expect at that stage!

Anyway sorry for bad MN etiquette and in answer to your post OP I wouldn't be going to a picnic in the rain regardless of any mitigating circumstances!!

Johnny I went to my sisters wedding last weekend. It was only 5 minutes from my home, I was seated most of the time and wore flat shoes, and we left after the meal. I was ok although weary the next day. I tried not to make any promises and said I would plat it by ear. Very glad that I made it.

The picnic today was moved to someone's house, I went and am home now. The evening meal in my mind would have been a lot more tiring and difficult with a newborn who is BF.