To be feeling slightly unhinged - can't sleep in hospital

[Hormoneoverload]

Am 39 weeks of pg and in because baby nor staying put in one position. I know I need to be here, if my waters broke baby could die, but I just can't sleep. It's not super noisy, no crying babies, just snoring from three other ladies. So had three hours first night, a couple of hours last night and very tearful in the early hours. I am worried it'll affect my decision making faculties and make me irrational and mire worried than I already am. Think there's actually little I couldn't cope with-even though missing home other dc, trying to decide to have section or not if I could just sleep. But just as I'm dropping off, a midwife will come in to do something or there's other noise. Anyone been here? I'm frustratingly well really and all my friend's think I'm ending my pregnancy annoyingly rested! and ear plugs not working! Sorry to moan!

That would be money well spent! Might pluck up courage to ask. Thanks for tip.

Definately rope your OH into bringing in oodles of nice food and distractions. Hospital food when you are forced to stay in is the final straw! I was very lucky my best mate (feeder with an M&s foodhall obsession ) kept sending hampers with OH. I had to stay in for a week after going +1 with complications. It was awful and i barely slept.

When i was back on ward after having DD in shock with massive blood loss i was stuck with awful women who kept having a go because my new baby was crying! Was struggling with breastfeeding (no milk ) and the supportive ladies said just give the damn thing a bottle so we can sleep She wasnt even makng that much noise! Had to complain to midwife when one lass screamed at me in the middle of the night when DD woke up for food telling me that if i didnt shut my baby up she was going to come round and smack the pair of us! Normally she would have got would have recieved a world of pain for that but i was so tired and emotional i burst into tears. Next day social services came and took her baby away in front of us all in a really awful tense scene (apparently number 4 they had removed!). I felt like i was in hell.

Was told day after release that DD and i would have to return due to my skyrocketing BP and i went hysterical . Luckily OH is a nurse and they let him keep an eye on me.

Keep your chin up hun. It will be over soon and you will have a new LO keepig you up instead of snoring ladies

Oh my goodness mistress what a horrible experience. Simple sleep deprivation bad enough but add all that other stuff. I have been lucky and had friends bringing lots of mags-I have never been so knowledgeable about fashion! And oodles of chocolate! Must find a similarly obsessed ready meal buyer. Bless dh-he's been using up the stuff I bought the morning I came in to stock the freezer-I had planned a big batch cook on ds's childminder day and looks as if it won't go to waste. Perhaps he'll sneak some in!

Funny how someone saying the right things can make you feel better, even if nothing has changed

Yeah it was pretty grim as had never even held a baby before so was in a wee bit of shock

Definately get some sneaked in. And get him to bring a nice blanket or pillows you like too. Little bits of home really help. My OH he brought in so much stuff when we left it looked like we were moving house! Was hilarious to watch us leave - oh was so enamoured with his new DD that he carried her out proudly leaving me to drag all the crap to the car if i wasnt so happy to be leaving i would have battered him all over that car park.

Mistress that sounds so awful, what a distressing time. I didn't mind the babies crying, but the snoring. Oh my lord, the snoring.
I really felt like braining my neighbour with the expressing machine, it was so bad! I'm polite though so I just cried into my pillow.

OH put all the lady snorers to shame so that didnt bother me. He sounds like bull seal passing a bowling ball. Then makes a really bizarre 'Gnnnnnnnnnnnnuuuuuuuuuuuurrrrrrrrrrrrr' noise that he can sustain for AGES. Like a robot stuck in a loop. One night he said Falafel in a really loud voice and sniggered like a school boy .

Wow! Not that I'm eavesdropping or anything but the lady next to me was just telling someone on her mobile that she slept from ten thirty to seven thirty - how???!!

Hormoneoverload - that's just showing off of her. Put your bedsheet over your head and run round her bed moaning "Wooooooooo" at 3AM so she thinks you're a ghost. That'll show her.

The first thing I pack when going into hospital are wax earplugs!

Am really astonished, in this day and age if your baby is in danger, that they don't just give you an elcs. Or am I missing the point somewhere?

Unstable lie is an indication for ELCS so it may well be scheduled shortly.

Oh, clytaemnestra, that nearly made me laugh out loud-given that there's another lady in my bay with similar sleep dep that would have been very bad! So virtual only! Thankfully mrs super sleeper got to 4cm and disappeared to delivery. Now I am saying this quietly and non boastfully-but thanks to white noise I had five hours joined up sleep! and lovely midwife last night said I may even get side room because I'm potentially a long term inmate! I think the room's still unlikely, but not so scared of leaving hospital in some bizarre mental state now. You're right about the section, it is reasonably likely, but I have listened to advice without pushing one way or the other to a really sensible consultant. In a way I have a low risk of something high risk, iyswim. Bad if waters break, but not likely that they will. And because baby could turn and I've had two very straightforward deliveries before, the best course of action is patience. I would like to deliver the baby vaginally, but am being led by medical advice. Not messing about. Bless mumsnet- I was really losing it the previous night. The thing that got me was that even ear plugs were failing me because with those in, my own snuffling and at times sobbing became really loud in my head and I kept myself awake!! Thank you all

Glad to hear you've had a better night

bibbitybob I was of the same thought when it happened to me - wasn't explained to me very well either, and I kept having nightmares of my waters breaking suddenly, cord whoosing out of me, baby needing oxygen and all the while unable to call for help. Kept hoping baby would turn, but if she wasn't going to (seemed very unlikely), then why didn't they just do the ELCS there and then? I waited 7 long days, then when contractions started naturally anyway the day before I was due for my ELCS, they had me down in surgery within minutes! Odd.

Glad you had a better night hormoneoverload and hope you have a nice day of visitors today?

It is a funny one, but I just think that clearly some babies do turn and they don't want to do an elcs if that might happen. I find that reassuring - clearly they're not expecting waters to break any moment and also that the rumours of unnecessary c sections bit unfounded? Meanwhile, dear old google says I should be doing handstands in water. I'll mention it on ward round today - hopefully eating chocolate and listening to music has same proven effect

Side room! might be chucked out tomorrow but it's mine tonight

Hurrah!! Go to sleep, sleeeeeeeeeep!! Hope baby doesn't try and make an appearance tonight!!

Brilliant!
Sleep well!

glad you have a side room. I am going in to hosp tomo (not preg having op) and am sure I wont be able to sleep for pain.

Glad it's turned out OK. I don't think your experience is at all unusual. I was in hospital for 8 days while having DD1 and can truthfully say I didn't sleep once. I was even offered sleeping tablets - which I took - but they didn''t work. Hospitals aren't very conducive to sleeping in, which is so wrong!
I know anumber of other people having babies who all had the same problems sleeping, but they have all recovered to live normal lives.
I felt shattered at the time, but I don't think there have been any lasting effects, I am back to my normal self now! Hope all goes well with the baby.

Would you try ear-plugs and s sleeping mask? Feel your pain - I can never sleep in hosp either

Good luck & have a good sleep, I was admitted for a week after a bleed at 34wks....it sent me insane
Then 2wks later I spent 4 days in labour followed by 3 days after my emc, I was sobbing & begging to be discharged. DH nearly killed the MW who suggested 1more night

Hooray for the side ward! Now you just need a nice book or a telly card and you'll have a lovey night :)

Hope you get a brillant nights sleep!