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Original poster

DH screws up again

101 replies

mrsruffallo · 17/06/2011 14:47

Had to cancel all my plans for the weekend. And why?
He has caught a tummy bug and is vomiting constantly.
I have had enough.

OP posts:
dangalf · 17/06/2011 15:45

My word. My wife's a nurse and even she shows more sympathy to me when I'm ill then some of the posters on here. I think you're being very unreasonable OP.

themildmanneredjanitor · 17/06/2011 15:49

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pinkthechaffinch · 17/06/2011 15:50

You have my sympathy OP

I didn't even get to go on my honeymoon because dh got one of his bloody migraines

PlanetEarth · 17/06/2011 15:52

SuePurblybilt, you are my long lost twin!

DH will sit at the table with a long face, moaning and groaning and saying how he can't face any food. I really want to say "So go and lie down then and let the rest of us enjoy our meal!" (but feel it would be too mean to actually do it)

WriterofDreams · 17/06/2011 16:04

Yeah planet, it's the moaning and groaning that gets me. It's like just because he's sick he wants to spread doom on the whole house. If I'm sick I just say I'm not feeling well once and then talk about it if asked. Constantly moaning about it is incredibly irritating.

Plus DH catastrophises when ill, so the tiniest sniffle warrants this piteous little voice that drives me batshit. He vomited once today and after that wouldn't pick up DS. He put on his little voice and said "I would pick him up but I'm worried that I might end up needing another trip to the loo." Ugh. He acts like the suffering brave soldier. When I think back to the nights I spent with a terrible fever breastfeeding bottle-refusing DS and trying not to disturb him by shivering too much I feel like slapping him.

pommedechocolat · 17/06/2011 16:14

Does anyone else find that the one time in a blue moon they feel really shit and need some help that their dh is somehow always iller? That gets my goat too.

Groovee · 17/06/2011 16:21

He hasn't screwed up..., You gave him the bug and he took time off work!!! These things happen, go on the nightout without him.

WriterofDreams · 17/06/2011 16:21

Yup pomme. DH is always more ill than I am. Always. I am actually ill today but I'm an adult and I can just carry on my life as normal.

jeckadeck · 17/06/2011 16:24

wtf, I mean I've heard of man flu and it must be bitterly disappointing but unless you're scientologists or something and think humans ought to be able to prevent getting sick I don't see what you expect him to do about it?

hopenglory · 17/06/2011 16:26

You had the bug - and he took time off work to help out. Now he's got it.... kill the bastard!

You're just pissed off that you didn't think of building lego spaceships when you were ill Wink

Georgimama · 17/06/2011 16:27

He's got a bug which you've already had, so presumably he is genuinely ill and you know it.

"Screws up again" is a charming way to describe this situation. My DH can't come on holiday with us next week because the car needed £2.5k worth of work and he needs to stay at work to make it back - our money to live on is gone. That's about as much his fault as your husband's illness is his.

MrsBethel · 17/06/2011 16:30

Is this the most unreasonable thing anyone has ever posted on 'Am I being unreasonable?'???

Georgimama · 17/06/2011 16:34

Oh, and Christmas was pretty much ruined by DH having swine flu, and his mother being in intensive care and nearly dying. So I could have started an AIBU describing him as "screwing up again" re next week's holiday, but I actually love my husband.

Original poster
mrsruffallo · 17/06/2011 16:43

Honestly, GM, boasting about how much money you need to pay out for work on your car is extremely distasteful.
Boooyhoo- I have been on here for years, I am a genuine poster. Stop licking mmj's arse, she can fight her own battles.

OP posts:
Georgimama · 17/06/2011 16:45

Boasting? Are you completely mad (your attitude to your husband's illness suggests you are, I suppose)? Why would anyone boast about having to spend 2.5k on repairs to a flipping car? I'm not boasting. I'm incredibly pissed off about it. I just manage to recognise it isn't anyone's fault.

Original poster
mrsruffallo · 17/06/2011 16:46

you tell me

OP posts:
AnyFucker · 17/06/2011 16:50

mrsr...you seem to be purposefully looking for a scrap

what gives ?

you ok (other than having a bloke who is a professionally ill person) ?

feckwit · 17/06/2011 16:50

So you were puking and he took time off work, now he is puking and you don't want to take time off your social life?

Poor man!

Georgimama · 17/06/2011 16:50

Well they wouldn't boast, it's not something to boast about, ergo I am not boasting I am giving an example of something beyond my husband's control which adversely affects the family which I have chosen not to view as him "screwing up again". Unlike you.

Unless you mean "you tell me" in response to "are you completely mad" in which case, "yes you are".

Original poster
mrsruffallo · 17/06/2011 16:55

I am not purposefully looking for a scrap, I am venting.Anyway, anyone who chooses the moniker AnyFucker is being obviously provocative so the queston should be- what gives with you?

GM-Yu are being judgemental and disingenious.

OP posts:
mayorquimby · 17/06/2011 16:56

the bastard

BuckBuckMcFate · 17/06/2011 16:57

Eh?

And eh? again to this thread!!

Am i reading this right? OP is ill. Her DH takes time off. He becomes ill and it's his fault for catching her germs.

mayorquimby · 17/06/2011 16:58

yeah, but she had plans this weekend the controlling prick.
If it makes you feel better op my weekend is going to be ace.

GreenTeapot · 17/06/2011 16:59

OP, I really think you should just go out. You need to let your hair down. You're not one of these people who will have to stay in and huff just to make the point to the ill husband, are you? You know, the martyr sort?

AnyFucker · 17/06/2011 17:00

gawd, I'm orf

have a scrap with someone else (and take a chill pill)