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Original poster

DH screws up again

101 replies

mrsruffallo · 17/06/2011 14:47

Had to cancel all my plans for the weekend. And why?
He has caught a tummy bug and is vomiting constantly.
I have had enough.

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WhoAteMySnickers · 17/06/2011 14:59

So he's missing out on HIS birthday treat and you are pissed off?

CrapolaDeVille · 17/06/2011 14:59

Why can't you go and take a friend? Unless her has days off to look after you when you're sick, he can have the children.

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mrsruffallo · 17/06/2011 15:00

The thing is we have been stuck in all week as I ad the bug too and he took a couple of days off work to do the school run etc
Now the weekend is here and we are stuck in again

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Itsjustafleshwound · 17/06/2011 15:01

Bugs usually only last for 24 hours

themildmanneredjanitor · 17/06/2011 15:02

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ZXEightyMum · 17/06/2011 15:02

I get irritated with sick men because they don't sodding well just get on with it and have to involve me every step of the way. Don't they realise how much worse it would be if I fucked off and left them

(i) alone

(ii) with a baby or toddler to cope with AS WELL as I have had to do on many occasions?

Men being precious about a D&V bug, well you have had years of bathroom privacy, welcome to a woman's world. Try doing it with stitches in your genitals having passed a rugby ball and a screaming newborn attached to your nipple and then you can complain.

I've had a broken spine which cause me to randomly pass out and I coped with 18 month old DD. Bah!

GreenTeapot · 17/06/2011 15:02

So if he'd had the bug first and you had it just now, would he be in the clear or would it still be his fault for giving it to you in the first place? Hmm

JudysJudgement · 17/06/2011 15:03

bastard, leave him at once

he is gaslightling/controlling/stonewalling and abusive

i will send you a book about tummy bugs

SuePurblybilt · 17/06/2011 15:03

So you gave him the bug Grin? And it's his fault? Did you screw up for catching it in the first place? Sympathy ebbing away slightly......

Original poster
mrsruffallo · 17/06/2011 15:03

mmj- 'is this for real' seems to be the only thing you post these days
chagne the record

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NettoSuperstar · 17/06/2011 15:04

Can you go yourself to the thing?
What is it?

AuntieMonica · 17/06/2011 15:05

ack, get a mate to go with you

i understand you're disappointed but it's really not his fault

ZXEightyMum · 17/06/2011 15:05

Sorry, by ranting completely bypassed my point Grin

Weekend plans should not have to be cancelled for a 24 hour bug. I hope that the OP's DH isn't feeling tentatively well enough to have a few drinks later this evening to settle his stomach.

Original poster
mrsruffallo · 17/06/2011 15:07

We are supposed to be seeing Ghost Stories.

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themildmanneredjanitor · 17/06/2011 15:08

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mrsruffallo · 17/06/2011 15:09

He says he is not well enough tolook after children, but he has made a spaceship out of lego in between vomiting

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RabidRabbit · 17/06/2011 15:09

I imagine you'd be mightily pissed off if this was him posting about you being poorly. I'm sure he'd much rather be out having fun than shitting and puking his weekend away.

I second the barking comment.

altinkum · 17/06/2011 15:12

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WhoAteMySnickers · 17/06/2011 15:13

When you had the tummy bug why didn't you just get on with the school run? If your DH hadn't taken time off work to help you out he prossibly wouldn't have caught it.

I think it is you that screwed up, big time, by getting the bug in the first place.

duffybeatmetoit · 17/06/2011 15:13

My dad is renowned for getting "I don't want to do it -itis" and if he's the same YANBU, otherwise have a heart it was his birthday present you are missing.

AuntieMonica · 17/06/2011 15:14

then what about your babysitter, the one you would have used if both of you were going out?

send DH to bed, the kids with the sitter, you out with a mate

sorted

BooyHoo · 17/06/2011 15:21

"mmj- 'is this for real' seems to be the only thing you post these days
chagne the record"

sorry OP but there has been so much weirdness on here recently that 'is this for real' is about the safest repsone you can post til you knwo it is fo real.

and TBH your OP does seem a bit strange.

BooyHoo · 17/06/2011 15:22

in fact your whole attitude to his being sick is strange. really strange.

WriterofDreams · 17/06/2011 15:23

You totally have my sympathy. My DH always seems to be sick or injured in some form or another since DS came along and I'm forever having to muddle along on my own. I'm of the opinion that now that we have a baby it's just not on to say "Oh I'm sick" and fuck off to bed for the day unless it's a very severe illness. He clearly doesn't feel the same.

He's currently in bed with "flu" and I'm so bloody glad he's out of my way because if I had to hear him huffing and puffing and whining one more time I swear I'd have stuffed something down his throat. I feel like I have two babies to look after. If roles were reversed I'd be helping out some bit rather than expecting him to wait on me hand and foot. In fact when DS was less than 2 weeks old I got a very severe kidney infection - shivers, vomiting, no eating, pain, the whole lot - piled on top of lochia, stitches and engorged boobs and I still helped out with DS because I'm a parent and that doesn't stop when I'm sick. I have tried to be sympathetic so far but I'm reaching the end of my patience as I've known him long enough to know when he's really sick and when he's milking it. I'm due to go out tonight and unless he gets a lot worse there's no way I'm not going. I haven't been out for an evening on my own for months.

Sorry for the rant but this is really pissing me off big time and I know if I say anything to him I'll just come across as a heartless bitch (which perhaps is what I am).

thestringcheeseincident · 17/06/2011 15:24

What a meanie you are. He's hardly done it on purpose.
Poor man.

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