ok, are some people just unable to ever put another persons needs before their own?
just took dc to town, was walking to the golden arches with him a boy from his nursery came out of a coffee shop with his mum and we said hi, (the mum was standing with a massive chocolate croissant and coffee.) she said, were going to the library what are you up to?. i said going to maccie ds then possibly library. so she said she would come there and chat while my dc ate.
i thought it was a bit weird but guessed her boy had eaten in the cafe. so i go up to the counter and get my dc a meal we all sit down. her dc starts crying that he is hungry. she is saying, dont worry hon you can have lunch at home, mummy hasnt go any money on her to get you a meal today. little boy carrys on. she wasnt saying no to the meal but that she had no money to buy him one, so i said, if he is hungry do you want me to get him a meal, ( said so he didnt hear) she said oh yes please. i didnt bring any money out with me. ( same woman who just had massive pastry and coffee)
i get the meal put it down, and she proceeds to eat 3 of his 4 nuggets and half of his chips. little boy keeps saying mummy stop eating my lunch. she finishes his lunch and he is still moaning that he is hungry. so she asks my dc to share his meal with her boy. my dc says no. and tbh i dont blame him!
she then says to my dc, do you want to come to my house to play, its only 5 mins away, so i feel cornered. she already knows i have no big plans and my dc says he would want to go there not the library.
off we go.
we stop at the newsagents and she buys 40 ciggies.( no money to get ds a meal but enough to et 40 fags?) and 2 cans of red bull.
we get to her house and she makes herself a massive bowl of pasta. her ds is still saying how hungry he is and she says well you will have to wait till dinner, stop bieng so greedy. she then doesnt finish her pasta and her ds goes to the half full bowl and says can i have that? she says no, you can have it for dinner.
at this point i am fuming. her ds is hungry. not farking greedy. she ate most of his lunch so no wonder he is hungry.
i say to her maybe he is hungry becuase you had some of his lunch. and she replies well if you had made your dc share there would be no issue. i said that he didnt have to share his meal he was hungry and maybe she should have stopped eating his and he wouldnt be in a bad mood now. told her thanks for having us and left.
so... was i a totaly bitch for thinking she should stop being so self obsessed? and was i being horrible for telling her that his moodyness was her own bloody fault?