TO QUOTE Hugh Hefner (bunnyboy ) on sex "monogamy is possible but NOT natural"

[GabbyLoggon]

Do a lot of men think like Hefner? Do a lotof women? Lwets get sserious on the subject Because marriage is losing its domination Never thought Iwould quote Hefner....Butwhat he says is worth discussing

DW was told by a hospital consultant that a surprisingly large number of women give birth to a baby that is plainly not fathered by their current husband as evidenced by blood test results.

It seems women are also not terribly innocent in the monogamy stakes.

LeQueen/Adversecamber - its says in Wikipedia that Helena Bonham Carter and Tim Burton 'live in Belsize Park, London, in neighbouring houses with a connecting doorway because they could not get along in the same house.'

how can someone know if their partner is monogamous? Maybe Stacy Giggs thought her husband was monogamous.

Also about not marrying if you can't be monogamous - I'm sure many people marry with monogamous intentions and get waylaid somewhere down the tracks.

I've been monogamous but it's a little sad to think there will never be the thrill again of that first kiss, first touch. Would hate to be single again though and having to go through all that palaver.

who gives a flying toss what Hef thinks - women have sex with him because he pays them - any man who still buys that Playboy lifestyle crap is deluded tosspot.

Begonya, of course you can know that your partner is monogamous, I know DH is, he knows I am.

It's more of a thrill for me to know that my DH has never kissed or touched anyone else in the whole of our adult lives, and vice versa. I can't explain quite how special that is.

passivelyaggressive- I agree with your post at 16.15 and feel similar. The only thing I have to add to the discussion is, IF we are meant to be monogamous, then why do feelings of attraction to other people not disappear after we have found our partner? Does that make sense?

shakey, I'm not, and have never been, attracted to anyone else for the whole of my adult life, I've been married for 26 years, together for almost 30, since we were 16 years old. I may be unusual but I don't think I'm unique by any stretch.

Malificence - I'm sure you are probably right. But many women think they are in a monogamous relationship only to be proven wrong (or not proven if they never find out) somewhere along the way.

Glad you feel so strong about your relationship and of course many people are monogamous and stay that way.