to hate "ladies events"

[FriedaRoam]

race for life
ladies days at races
pamper evenings

jsut all make me ITCH

kisses thebride (lol at that)

And you have to congratulate all while thinking 'it's only 3 fucking miles, you probably walk further on a shopping trip'

I live on a forces camp and keep getting invites to the 'Ladies Social' page on bloody Facebook. I DO NOT want to go to a sodding pamper party, certainly do not want to be told that 'we all need some pampering and a night away from hubby', and can't work out how to leave the group that someone added me too without even arsing asking.

OP, you are absolutely right.

lol at cancer loving scum
and those TIT bra walks
sheesh

Girls of all ages can already take part in Race for Life and now boys under the age of 11 on the day of their event can be entered with parental consent alongside an adult female. Of course, Race for Life remains a women-only event so boys will receive the standard Race for Life pack.

Quite a few of you have told us that you'd love to take part in Race for Life but you're struggling with childcare and that it would be easier if you were to allowed to enter your children too.

This was the link for race for life on the cancer research we site

Whilst I am not a ladies night type of person I do think it's a bit cynical to knock race for life. So many people are there out of tribute to someone they lost to cancer. It raises money and if those people who have lost their mum/friend/sister derive any comfort whatsoever isn't it a bit churlish to slate it?
Cryhavoc, I live on an oil compound and share your pain...

I honestly never said BFF

Just because and event or organisation does good work or has good effects doesn't mean we can't disagree with or dislike other aspects of it.

I prefer to give my money to obscure charitirs, rather than sponsor people to trudge around a park in a pink top in order to give money to an already very wealthy chairty.

Plus - my mother did the race for life once. She said that they make you all do warm ups like star jumps to music before they start the race

Pure evil.

Oh my. And I bet you have to look happy and like you are enjoying yourself.

Yes, and the local rag takes photos and publishes them for all to see and then flogs you the vile photos.

There is a photo of my mother looking pink and sweaty in a pink polo top with the expression of someone with murderous thoughts. She hated every minute of it!

Oh I would hate that. I am not a Joiner-Inner. Oh no.

OMG Sue that is the exact phrase that DH's family have coined for me, passive aggressive twats, it makes us ROAR! Ursula y'see is not a joiner inner

And?? Must everyone be??? Fuck off!!

I bet they play Take fucking That at you an'all.

Oh the playlist for the race for life would be fucking awful.

Here come the girls
We are family
Sisters are doing it for themselves

Yy, I did Race for Life a few years ago. Not only did we have to do star jumps and dancing ffs, the photographer made my friend cry by making her tell him why she was running.

Its raining Men

That Cyndi Lauper one

Oh I've remembered I went to Aqua Aerobics once. The fucking woman on the side kept shouting at me to look happy. It was octogenarian soup & I was short, in the deep end & doing star jumps to chart music. I was not happy.

lol

Actually awrobics reminds me. After each aerobics class we had to fucking clap ourselves. This was after 5 mins of stretching to soothing music and hypnotherapy-lite speak. I lay there on the floor with my legs up to my chest thinking 'oh get a fucking move on'

OP YANBU

They are pink shite

I do not want 'pampering' thank you very much or be sold shite at hugely inflated prices while being forced to socialise with distant acquaintances.

I did a women's cycle event today, after having said I never would, as I'm perfectly capable of riding with men, but it was a good well organised event and I enjoyed it. It wasn't a charity ride - it was a CTC challenge ride for women. My main reason for doing it as opposed to a general event was to specifically to compare my riding with that of some other women as I don't see many at general events - of course there are some women at general sportive and challenge ride events but there are so few they are lost in the thousands of men who take part (usually there will be a 200 women in a field of 4000) so I just don't see any of them on the road. I ride on my own usually too (no time for road clubs and cafe stops as I have to get back to my LO) so I have no-one to compare against and found it really interesting and enjoyable today.

I think one of the aims of women-only events is to encourage women who would not usually take part in general mixed events to participate. I'd be interested to know whether this actually works though - Judging by their souvenir cycling tops, some of the other women I saw today on the road had also ridden general mixed events and sportives anyway. I tend to think that if you do sporting events, you'll take part in events whether or not they are mixed or women-only, and that women who don't do sporting events just don't want to and that's it - you're not going to get them interested in ANY event whether or not it's women-only - but I could be wrong...

The almost compulsory element of race for life bothers me a bit. Also the cost of entry can be prohibitive for some.
At my last work place a big group ran it together, and I sponsored several.
My DD and I went to watch, and my DD said can't we run round the lake too - so we did - so I've sort of done one.
I didn't do it officially as I wasn't sure if I could make it or not that night, and also the cost was rather prohibitive for us.
But it's a free country and a free park, so I said to DD, OK, why not ?
And we did contribute financially what we could by sponsoring others.
But also I don't know why more people can't look at a variety of charities, decide what they can afford and which ones they'd like to support, and then give to them.
I hate feeling so constrained in what I choose to do with my time and money.
Like others perhaps I'm not so much a "joiner-inner" as a free spirit !

I guess if you want to compete, you might choose to do women's events because it is very hard to compete against men. That said of course you can run a mixed marathon or do a mixed cycle sportive, but it could be a bit dispiriting if everyone seems to be coming past you (the men) so I can see why some women might get more out of competing against other women at women-only events. If it's a personal best time you're after then of course mixed events will provide that, but it is nice to be able to actively compete against other women and you hardly ever get chance to do that, particularly with cycle sportive events and cycle racing. I know that a common experience of female racing cyclists is to end up basically riding on their own (with no slipstream) at the back of the main field in mixed races which is pretty dispiriting, harder work, and gives you nothing to compare yourself against either, so I do understand why women only events are organised, although some of them are probably more useful than others. Race for life is OK if you want to race, but if you're doing a fun run or aiming for a personal best time rather than aiming to win or be in the top 10, you may as well run a mixed event as you're not racing against other women.

We are of one mind then Ursula . I don't do jolly either. Hate ice-breaking activities, group singing/dancing, oddly intimate bodily contact with strangers (first aid course anyone?) and any kind of organised 'fun'.

The playlist would also have 'I'm every woman'

yeah not my thing at all

don't forget ann summers parties. Do they still happen? Mmm, get together and giggle about lurid nylon knickers and vibrators. Would rather eat my own eyeballs.