To be cross at a 6yr old girl writing

[Gorran]

'You stink of poo' in my daughter's Birthday card?!

My daughter nearly cried when she read it, be it a 'joke' or not; I just think it's really quite unkind. Or am I being over-sensitive? Whatever, the card's been binned and my DD will hopefully not give it another thought.

Would you mention it to the child's mum?

when i read the op i assumed it was a "happy birthday to you, you smell of poo" rhyme type joke. Perhaps i'm not sensitive enough but i would assume it was messing around silly joking. I think i would have laughed, i wonder if you had laughed whether your daughter would have then taken it as a joke rather than been upset. Was she upset before you reacted/before you tore it up?

shuffleball at all 6 year old girls being pink and fluffy. I have one...and she and her friends are most certainly NOT all sweetness and light ..nor are they "Nasty"

They are interested in spiders, poo, reading, horses, nice frocks, practical jokes, and umpteen other things...they're not "little princesses"

the vast majority of 6 yos can independently write 'to (friend) from(their name) you are seriously not suggesting the mother knew !!!

Gorran is this your PFB by any chance?

I would want to know if ds1(7) wrote such a thing.
And yes we all know the rhyme. But to actually write it, is something else.
Please tell the mum. I think its important that you do.

Oh dear, I dont think my dd would ever write that to one of her friends but I wouldn't put it past her to write it to her teenage brother (who she ADORES and also beats up as often as possible)

I agree that the girl who wrote it didn't necessarily mean it nastily. But she ought to be told that it's not an appropriate thing to write in a birthday card. In some circumstances it would be okay for friends to say that sort of thing to each other face to face in a joking affectionate way, but when it is written down like that it appears more serious and insulting.

I think it would be worth having a word with the mother - I would be mortified to find out if my dd had done anything like that and would have serious words with her.

According to my six year old, its 'a really meany thing to do'.

Cant see her ever writing that herself either, she just wouldnt.

To be fair, I have no idea how i'd react though.

Could query it with mum in a "just wanted you to know in case she does a similar happy birthday poo rhyme to Great Aunt Greta!" smiley smiley way.

Hopefully then mortified mum will go home and read a very extensive poo-related riot act!

I would want to know! I have sons and cannot imagine them every doing this. We have a strict rule in this house: A game is only a game if EVERYONE involved is having fun.

I would keep (even the ripped) card. Even if a Mum thinks her child can do no wrong, they cant really argue with it written down. She may sound huffy when you mention it but she will probably go home and chat to her dd.

Could she have been egged on by an elder brother or sister?

I think you should let it go.They are poo mad at that age .You sound more upset by it than your DD.It's not appropriate to writte it in a card for sure, but she's not your responsibility is she

I would certainly mention it to the child's mum if it had upset my daughter.