Would you think this strange?

[Lorenz]

DP and I don't live together but ages ago set up a joint email address for something. I stopped using it soon afterwards but he carried on using it for "faffy" stuff that send tons of emails like ebay and amazon etc.

Anyway I was speaking to him earlier and he said he was in for a boring night at home alone with his DC (he only has the one child).

On a whim, I've just logged into our old email address to check that nothing had been sent for me lately and I see an email from justeat (online take-away orders) from tonight.

He'd ordered a 10" pizza, a chicken kebab, a donor meat and fries and a 1/2lb burger and fries.

And there's only him and his one child there??

I text him and asked what he's having for tea as I couldn't decide what to have. He replied with "just a bit of salad".

AIBU to think this is a bit odd?

(and yeah, I have trust issues lol)

Maybe he is really hungry and needs a massive pig out and doesn't want you to know.

He can't eat that much though, I mean physically he'd be lucky to finish off the full pizza nevermind anything else. He has stomach issues.

Its odd that he lied, is he worried about your reaction?

But I know plenty of men with eyes bigger than their stomachs. It could be a special order deal or he could just be a pig!!

Doesnt sound like a date though if thats what your worried about. :)

Well, me and DP have been known to order that each....

Just-eat is evil, you really don't realise how much you have ordered until it arrives at your door.

However, saying he is just having salad is a bit weird.

Is he meant to be on a diet and maybe trying to hide the fact he's planning on being a bit fat for the night?

Shows he's still capable of lying though, doesn't it?

Maybe he's having his friends round?

If you're suspicious of an affair, I highly doubt he would be feeding his other woman a kebab and fries!

He doesn't have any friends. None close enough to go around to his house, anyway.

Maybe he has an eating disorder and is binge-ing?

Maybe his DC has a friend staying over?

Has the kid got friends round? Non-mumsnetters may give a child a kebab - difficult though it is to believe!

That looks like food for four people, so that should count out an affair.

Though it is odd, so YANBU.

His entire diet is an eating binge. It makes me so angry.

"I need to cut down"

takeaway

"oh I feel so ill, not having take-away anymore"

takeaway

"oh my god, I've put on 4lbs!! I need to lay off the take-away!"

takeaway

"Right, that was my last ever take-away"

takeaway

hospital

stomach ulcer

takeaway

Although I think I should add, it is very strange of you to be getting in a tizz about the fact he's not eating what he told you he was. Let the poor man have pizza!

JaneFonda, if you knew how many times this man had lied to me, you'd understand why I get pissed off about even the smallest of lies. It's not really about the pizza tbh.

Why are you so bothered about his eating habits? You don't live together, you don't own his privacy or freedom....

Gosh, isn't all this a bit over the top. I don't think I'd take too kindly to anyone quizzing me over my food order or tea menu - let alone a partner I don't live with. His life, his child, his home, his choice of what he wants to order.

I'm confused as to why it's an issue

but he PHYSICALLY cannot eat it. This is what makes me so suspicious. This and the fact that he lied - although that I shouldn't be suprised about tbh.

er, maybe he and his child couldn't decide what to eat and decided to order a little bit of everything they fancied?

It sounds more like you were snooping on the email tbh, but then trying to trick him is weird. I'm sorry, but your behaviour is a bit bizarre = as is the 0-60 affair suspicions as well... Could it be that he replied 'salad' as it would take much longer to write 'Pizza, kebab etc' with the whole list? He might think you would perhaps be a bit judgy perhaps of the rather unhealthy tea he had planned for he and his ds?

Has he cheated on you before? What are the basis for your suspicions other than a bit of over ordering on JustEat?

Ok I'll lay it on the line.

My issue is not with the take-away. I couldn't give a shit what he eats.

My issue is that CONSTANTLY I am forced to remember why I can't trust this man I so desperately WANT to trust. lies lies lies lies lies .................

He is a grown man, you aren't living together, and whether he eats salad or not is, quite frankly, none of your business.

If you're pissed off about him lying, then that's an issue in your relationship; it's nothing to do with whether he wants to eat takeaways or not.

ah, x posted with yours above. THAT is why he lied to you OP, cos he knew you would have a go at him for ordering takeaway.

Is this about his lies or your suspicions of an affair?

Take a step back. Think about it. Do you know why he lies to you? It's probably because of incidents like this. Who wants to keep being questioned. What are you having for tea? It's like the Spanish inquisition or 20 questions gone mad. So if he said, pizza, kebab, etc etc, you'd have started about his health etc. No wonder he said salad. Maybe it's not right to lie and cause mistrust, but I can see why he does.

yes the issue is with the relationship.

His ex wife text him earlier, I don't know what about. She's ALWAYS on facebook but tonight she isn't. Very unusual. So I put two and two together and end up with the conclusion that she's around at his house, hence the huge takeaway.

Could be wrong, probably am but when you have it thrown in your face so many times that you can't trust someone - suspicion tends to lie around every corner.

Probably has something to do with your judgments regarding what he eats. I would just say salad too if I thought someone was monitoring my food.