Would you think this strange?

[Lorenz]

DP and I don't live together but ages ago set up a joint email address for something. I stopped using it soon afterwards but he carried on using it for "faffy" stuff that send tons of emails like ebay and amazon etc.

Anyway I was speaking to him earlier and he said he was in for a boring night at home alone with his DC (he only has the one child).

On a whim, I've just logged into our old email address to check that nothing had been sent for me lately and I see an email from justeat (online take-away orders) from tonight.

He'd ordered a 10" pizza, a chicken kebab, a donor meat and fries and a 1/2lb burger and fries.

And there's only him and his one child there??

I text him and asked what he's having for tea as I couldn't decide what to have. He replied with "just a bit of salad".

AIBU to think this is a bit odd?

(and yeah, I have trust issues lol)

Perhaps his ex wife IS around at his house and they are having a meal together for the sake of the child.

If you can't trust him, WHY are you with him?

Maybe he is planning on treating his DC to a cold pizza breakfast.

Whatever the explanation you obviously need to think about your trust issues with him.

Whats weird is u checking up on him then trying to catch him out are u sure your compatable leave the bastard!

Good grief - your behaviour is verging on stalking.

Is it a crime to have the mother of your child round to eat?

Maybe was one of those deals and the total cost comes the same as if you order half of that, so he thought 'if it is the same price we will order this and taste little of everything' ?

just finish with him, what's the point of having a boyfriend you don't trust

you obv spend time and energy trying to trip him up and catch him out

don't waste your life, eh

You sound a nightmare to me. If I were him I think I'd be kicking you into touch ASAP.

YABVU.

As others have said, when it gets to the point that your checking up on him and questioning every little detail (including what he eats ffs) then there really is no relationship to worry about is there?

Believe it or not he can make any damn choice he likes about his life. It's called being an adult and not having to ask permission before you pick dinner out.

It would seem that you can safely assume that, no matter what he told you, he wasn't having a night in with a bit of lettuce for company.

You say you can't trust, him but without further examples of his alleged duplicity it is not possible to form an opinion as to whether he is congenitally incapable of telling the truth, or that he lies to you because you kick off if he says that he is going to do something that you do not approve of.

FTR, I don't refer to any individual I have not or am not living with as my 'DP'. Have you lived with, or had dcs by, this man or are you hoping to do so?'

Is his child of an age where he/she would have friends round?

I can understand the OP. Those of you who have not been out with a liar might find it more difficult to understand her.

OP, what sort of things has he lied about before? Has he told you he loves you? Does he think he's in a permanent relationship with you?

I would say if there is this much issue of trust, then the relationship is wrong and not viable.

poor sod

you can eat stuff cold you know

talk about under the thumb remotely

Well yeah, it is a bit weird that he ordered so much, weirder that he lied to you but the weirdest thing of all - YOU HAVE HIS EX WIFE ON YOUR FACEBOOK!!

oohyouareawful it wasn't exactly chicken and salad, was it? Do you really think he ordered four meals so that he could eat three of them cold?

Are you sure it's his account? I have an account on just eat from when I used to live with my brother and now I never use it but I still get notified when my brother uses the account. and usually message him calling him a fatty

Firstly, if, as you seem to suggest, he's a takeaway binge eater then what's odd about the order?

Secondly, in the first couple of years we were together and when his dcs were secondary school age, my dp used to spend Thursday nights at his ex-wife's house. She went out to a weekly choir practice and he enjoyed the chance to spend a weekday evening with his children. Ex-wife didn't cook him a meal but did leave food for them all to prepare and eat together. Which I thought was rather nice, tbh.

But if you have so little trust that you have to question what your dp has ordered for dinner and then check his ex-wife's Facebook status to look for evidence of what she's doing tonight then your relationship is deeply unhealthy if not downright doomed.