hi there, i have twin girls who are 8, their dad lives in reading we live up north i also have 2 sons with my partner. Since my girls were 3 their dad has been payin £200pcm maintenance via a private agreement, however a few months ago i discovered he had a change of job and was earning a lot more so i asked him to up the maintenance to which he said no, so i got in touch with the csa to ask them to calculate what he should be paying. i told the girls dad what i was doing in hopes that it would keep things amicable which it did for a while, he basically told me he should be paying £750pcm but after all the 'extra costs' were taken off it would go down to £500, anyway he deducted £250 for his travel, accommodation and food for while he is visiting the girls which is once a month. anyway so far i have recieved 1 payment of 500 and am still waiting for the csa to get back to me with a final amount, its taking longer than usual as he's applied to have the variation costs taken off. the problem i have at the minute is that now he is telling me he is takin money out of the 500 he gives for when he sees the girls to take them places etc and do activities. also they are going to spain with him n his girlfriend at the end of jully, my partner and i had already agreed that 50 is a sufficient amount of spending money for an 8 yr old to take on holiday for a week, however their dad is saying he is taking 200 out of the money he gives me for their spendingnmoney etc, food, icecreams......
to me this strikes me as a bit unreasonable, it seems he is still trying to issue control over the money side, and me, he doesnt like paying what he does but legally its what he should right? can he deduct money thhis way or am i being unreasonable?
many thanks, leanne