to feel totally bereft that the MN I thought I'd found is not longer here? Genuinely upset

[Hopollo]

Regular poster, name changed as I'm being a coward and for the reasons in my second paragraph. Social networking such as fb don't do it for me. I was happy and relieved to find this wonderful bunch of intelligent, aware, witty, articulate parents here. Always something to challenge and/or bring a smile, a better class of trivia social commentary, well thought through perspectives. I felt there was finally somewhere I could literally be understood.

I now find that because of recent changes, apart from the mind numbing nature of some posts, some responses reveal breathtaking ignorance at best and bigotry at worst.

Does this go in cycles? Should I just leave here now or AIBU?

The internet is the home of green scratchy virtual biro and no site remains the same. But MN is more than AIBU too so it really is a case of pick your threads carefully. There's some stuff that has a depressing inevitability written all over it well before the end of page one. So unless I feel particularly masochistic, I leave well alone. Likewise some of the advice can be equally predictable, albeit well meant, but again, this is the internet and you can move along. You don't have to dwell on stuff.

I'm far more bothered by the Invasion of the Fluffyhuns, tbh. Because anyone who persistently offends with hugz and lolz deserves excommunication.

It's a shame really- there used to be some stonking threads on AIBU now it's mostly just horrible. I was reading a fairly innocuous thread on there a few days ago and there were a group of people having a complete go at some poor OP- way over the top. They were egging each other on. When she tried to standup for herself she got the usual -don't come on here if you just want to be agreed with. Some others that dared stand up to them got - go to netmums hun- like Mumsnet is only for the hardfaced.
It was basic bullying. It's a real shame there's a whole section of mumsnet that reflects really badly on it and I never remember it being so nasty - I've only been around 4 years or so.
It's easier with the ludicrous threads- just don't click.

I stay away from G & T, and any thread about Eton v Harrow. I look in on AIBU but if I don't like it I find something else.

Seems it does come in waves then. All things shall pass? Maybe I have been here too much. Meanwhile to save myself and others from my wrath,

I shall STEP AWAY FROM THE THREADS and have a nice cup of gin

lol y dnt u jst fuk of thn u cnut lol

p.s Am joking by the way. Please don't hit me

There is always tools whether it be RL the web etc

its much easier to be a a tool when your hiding behind a computer screen and a username. feel sorry for those people

who clearly have such a pathetic personality in real life that being like that on the web is the only way they can be heard.

Its the recession innit!
Brings out the worst in people who are extreme at either end of the political spectrum.

mn has had a lot of publicity these past few years

It now attracts a lot of nutters

Make friends with rl people and use mn sparingy for information.

some responses reveal breathtaking ignorance at best and bigotry at worst.

and complete stupidity at times

but you have to realise that everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Yours wont agree with mine, and visa versa. Thats the way it is. If that makes you feel bereft then i think you are in for a long hard lonely life

Must be the same because for as long as I've been here people have been complaining it's not the same mumsnet that they joined!

You're probably just around too much now, that initial hit has become commonplace and you've just upped and upped the amount of time looking for that same fix but finding it all just a little bit empty and you end up zoned out and self-hating. Have a break and then moderation is the key!

or start a thread that interests you?

do get peed off with people moaning yet not bothering to start other threads

I wrote on here when my son was born, then left because of how things were turning, came back after our middle childs birth and left for a very similar reason, am back now, and to be honest it hasnt changed at all!

I steer clear of certain posts too! life it too short.

Hopollo, I'm 'back' after a break of roughly four years. I know exactly what you mean.

However, the break did me good and it's nice to be back and - mostly - lurking again.

xx

I agree op you are nbu, however I am guilty of a rather rude and offensive response to a tiresome thread today. I have had enough of the mind numbing threads and the "he said she said yeah right and I aint even BU coz its for the lil'uns init". blurrrrrrrgggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhh

I get you, op.

A lot of nasty attitudes around atm.

I am hoping it will settle.

Well, I've been on MN (apart from a long spell without) pretty much for 10 years now . It's certainly a lot bigger and yes posters don't hold back their opinions, but I guess it depends where you post. I used to have trouble with a few posters who would try to bully you psychologically (pretending they didn't understand your posts, giving you virtual pats on the head, bringing up issues like my depression as evidence that my opinions were worthless and generally being nasty) and that doesn't seem to happen as much now. People tell you to feck off directly which I prefer to be honest.

I re-joined after a very long break and I can't really see any difference (but am glad the twilight threads seem to have died a death!)

i think if people stopped whinging and just got on with, y'know, posting stuff, MN would sort itself out

it's fine, anyway. Storm in a tea-cup. yes, it goes in cycles. If you don't like it just leave it alone for a while.

Well at the risk of proving your point...

Get a fucking grip

Totally bereft? Really? Really? Because there are some comments on a website you don't like? wow

I've been on here less than a year and I agree that there are some real numpties out here, some trolls too, but then AIBU is kind of like that...

I've also had a lot of support here, and some really good and civilised debates. Some of them were even about atheism and Christianity, and I recall a lovely one about T.S. Eliot too.

I posted on here to have a vent about my dad's health probs (Parkinsons) and have had nothing but warm, lovely support.

"bereft" ??
If you are being serious, then I suggest you get a life! Anyone who uses that word in relation to how they feel about what is, lets be honest here, a message board, is off their rocker. I think you're the one with the "numbed mind" !!

Bupcakes shock horror at such language innit pmsl lol

Tomhardy I'm not surprised, I've also nearly handed out a nice cup of Shut the Fuck Up several times this week

SparklyCloud yes agree my mind is numbed, that was the point.

I meant 'literally be understood' in its, er literal sense