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Original poster

DP wants it so bad, but I'm really nervous about it- any tips?

50 replies

MissVerinder · 07/06/2011 14:26

On riding pillion?

Every time I think about it, it makes my chest feel hollow.

AIBU to consider just doing it and getting it over with even though the mere thought is frightening?

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 07/06/2011 14:29

Face your fears. On the other hand, be aware that the correct medical term for a motorcyclist is 'donor'....

StellaSays · 07/06/2011 14:30

Itg great fun, if you're nervous, sit on the back with your arms around him while he goes up and down the street sowly a few times. Your first proper ride shoud be on a safe route where he should not go very fast like around some country lanes. Seriously, have been riding pillion for years and its amazing!

Thingumy · 07/06/2011 14:31

don't do it if you don't want to.

Dh has a motorbike and bought me a helmet and declared 'oh you love it!'

I lasted 20mins and asked him to take me home- he was keeping to the speed limits and I still had white knuckles.

He respected that motorbiking is not for me.

Callisto · 07/06/2011 14:32

I had a biker boyfriend in my younger and wilder days and I loved going places on the back of his bike. Do it, it is great fun. Just make sure you wear the right kit - proper head and body protection, etc.

EldritchCleavage · 07/06/2011 14:38

Riding pillion is awful. Just get your own bike.

TotallyLovely · 07/06/2011 14:39

Don't think I'd want to do it either! Soooooo dangerous! Everyone I know who has ever ridden on one has had an accident to some degree, from scrapes to a broken neck and so death!

fuckmepinkandcallmerosie · 07/06/2011 14:39

Get your own bike. Much more fun.

saidthespiderwithahorridsmile · 07/06/2011 14:41

the "donor" comment is horrible

one of my brothers was killed on a motorbike, aged 17

I understand the point - they are bloody dangerous - but I would be grateful if you would refrain from being fucking glib and flippant about it Sad

Punkatheart · 07/06/2011 14:41

Lean into the bends, take out the film Girl on a Motorcycle (but don't emulate the ending) and enjoy the incredible freedom....

Original poster
MissVerinder · 07/06/2011 14:45

I know it's dangerous, but do you think it's any more dangerous than riding a horse? I used to ride a lot when I was younger, dressage, cross country etc.

spider sorry to hear about your brother.

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AngelbitchtheChaoticone · 07/06/2011 14:46

I read the OP three times before I realised she wasn't really talking in some sort of code for sex BlushGrin

harrietthespook · 07/06/2011 14:48

I was sure it was. I was convinced this was going to be a you know what thread that everyone says mumsnet is know fhor. THen i thought - riding pillion - it's another expression I've never heard of (like reverse cowgirl) or can't say (vazjazzle - vajazzle - vasejasselyada). Ho hum.

Butterbur · 07/06/2011 14:50

Not if you are parents. The risk of both of you being wiped out is too high. In fact I think all parents of dependent children should avoid high risk activities altogether.

Flippingebay · 07/06/2011 14:53

It is fantastic fun and once over the 'being nervous' bit you might find you love it..

But...... You really need to stress to your DP just how nervous you are, I've seen so many people put off bikes by going on the back and having the rider 'show off' and scare the crap out of the pillion to the extent they won't every get back on a bike.

Why not just ask him to take you to the end of the road and back, or around the block. Also make him promise that the minute you want to get off he will stop the bike :o

Flippingebay · 07/06/2011 14:55

butterbur statically (sp?) you are more likely to be seriously injured or killed riding a horse rather than a motorcycle. Motorcycle accidents are just publicised more.

LunaticFringe · 07/06/2011 14:57

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Butterbur · 07/06/2011 14:59

I wouldn't ride a horse either.

TotallyLovely · 07/06/2011 14:59

saidthespiderwithahorridsmile I don't think she was being flippant about it, rather stating a fact - that is what some people refer to them as.

I too lost a relation to a motorbike accident, hence my comment about broken necks and death.

CogitoErgoSometimes · 07/06/2011 15:00

@saidthespider... sorry about your brother but that's a joke motorcylists themselves crack. Very strong on the black humour in biking....

reelingintheyears · 07/06/2011 15:02

I so thought you were going to say bumsex....Blush

Must go and do some cleaning/something useful.

bumblingbovine · 07/06/2011 15:08

I loved riding pillion when I was younger (in my 20s and 30s). Even kept going out with a boyfriend long after I knew it was over really as I hated to give up the motorbike riding.

I still miss riding pillion as dh is too chicken sensible to ride a motorbike nowadays.

I did however do too much riding pillion too fast along winding mountain roads in Italy as a teenager in the days when no-one wore helmets!. I shudder thinking back on it now

No tips really other than you need to trust the rider. I never rode pillion (even when very young) if I didn't think the bike rider knew what they were doing and were very competent riders,

I always loved it and wanted to ride so if you don't feel like that maybe you shouldn't do it . Motorbikes are quite dangerous really so I can completely understand why someone doesn't want to ride them.

Blu · 07/06/2011 15:09

If you don't want to do it, and are frightened, just say 'no'. (be it bumsex or bike...)

bumblingbovine · 07/06/2011 15:11

Also I think horse riding is dangerous too but I liked doing that when younger as well.

sprinkles77 · 07/06/2011 15:29

Love horse riding. In part cos it is a bit dangerous. Hate riding pillion on a bike as feel very out of control. Used to have a moped, which was fun in the sunshine and in quiet / no traffic. Personally, if you really don't want to, don't do it. If you're not sure, a short ride with correct gear, with DP agreeing to stop as soon as you ask and to take it easy. You might love it!

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 07/06/2011 15:30

It's fantastic - I love going on the back of my BIL's motorbike - so exhilerating!