DP wants it so bad, but I'm really nervous about it- any tips?

[MissVerinder]

On riding pillion?

Every time I think about it, it makes my chest feel hollow.

AIBU to consider just doing it and getting it over with even though the mere thought is frightening?

If you're going to, then make sure you have proper leathers and boots, plus a good helmet. Saves you leaving your flesh on the road if you come off. The amount of (idiot) bikers I see in stupid clothing makes me

You're right to be nervous. It's fucking dangerous.

If you ride regularly, it's odds on you'll have an accident eventually.

If you're wearing leathers and all the correct gear, the odds are on your side you'll recover. If you're one of the morons I see going around in jeans or shorts, you'll find out what it's like to have your skin ripped off.

I only did it once, with my cousin (riding pillion, that is - behave!) but I found I kept leaning in to him a bit too much so my helmet banged against his! So I guess my tip is, don't headbutt him

I loved it btw, but am a bit too conscious of the risks to get into biking myself.

Get some leathers & a decent lid. Jeans are not appropriate attire on a motorbike.

Learn to use the grab rails behind you - otherwise if he has to apply the brake going downhill, the consequence will be that you will crush his nuts on the tank.

Don't eat Walkers cheese & onion crisps & then burp inside the helmet. The smell will make your eyes burn.

Otherwise, do it - it will make you a much better car driver.

I thought I would loathe it but it is th greatest fun.

Not necesarily going down the motorway, however for little pootles on quiet roads in the countryside is brilliant, really lovely.

My DP is a sensible rider and I trust him not to go too fast.

YY to wearing leathers and holding onto the grab rails.

Oooh- do it! I love riding pillion, DH has a Fireblade, and I absolutely adore being on the back- makes me feel young again, although he drives with the fact that we are parents in mind. Yes, there is a risk, but it is worth it to feel that alive! I would recommend it!

My DP just got a bike and I wouldn't go pillion if you paid me. Perversely, though, if he got a sidecar I'd be right there, even though I'm sure that's much more dangerous.

It's the look, you see. I just think sidecars are so darn stylish.

I've done it a couple of times. The first time was when a particularly gorgeous, tall, blond, handsome colleague at the pub I was working at asked me if I fancied something hot and throbbing between my legs GUTTED I was, when I realised he was merely offering me a lift home on his bike

DH has lost two friends and has another in a wheelchair, paralysed from the chest down because they were motorcyclists. My brother has broken both of his collar bones and damaged his shoulder permanently.

I'm a real killjoy I'm afraid but having been to the funerals of an 18yo and a 21yo and having a friend whose quality of life has irrevocably reduced, I just wouldn't do it.

But I don't allow dd on trampolines either so you can probably ignore most of what I say.

Pillion rider here, DH as a Harley and I love it.
Do it OP you'll love it :)

Oh I miss it!
YY to decent lid and kit, make sure you have proper gloves too.
Practice swopping your hands from his waist to the grab handles behind you so you shift your weight.
Don't swivel your head to look behind you, you'll bash helmets together!
And make sure he remembers that your knees will make the bike a couple of inches wider if trying to waddle through narrow gaps (recalls ouch gate post parking incident!)

I know someone who crashed their motorbike into a horse.

ust had to google what riding pillion meant!

You thought it was something rude I bet juicy ;)

and i bet i wasn't the only one either!

my dad lost his best friend to a motorbike accident

three kids, wife left behind

except he didn't leave them fully

hes just now a complete vegetable

he would be better dead

Its good fun, I felt a lot more stable than I expected to... also nice to cuddle up to rider, I find it a bit romantic.
I'm not a brillient pillion, cant get the hang of not bumping when dp brakes

Joolyjoolyjoo my dp also rides a fireblade

Try something like these:

www.infinitymotorcycles.com/product/oxford-products-pillion-to-rider-handle-grips/1527

Sorry, can't do links on my phone.

They are great for nervous riders!

And look for leathers on eBay, loads of ladies try pillion and don't use the gear much before selling on.

Have fun!

I was reading something in which somebody was waiting for an organ transfer (can't remember exact details). It was raining, the doctor looked out of the window and said "It's raining. We'll have plenty of organs today" He was right, during the day several motorcyclists came in doa.

I wouldn't, but then the job I do means I have seen the aftermath of many a car vs motorbike collision.

I did once ride pillion on a moped round my back garden but don't think that counts!

If you are going to go for it, then leathers are a must (I agree try Ebay), go for good quality with lots of protection. Also a good helmet, gloves and boots.

I wince every time I pass some dimwit on the back of a bike wearing shorts and flipflops, and think degloving injury....

Buy leathers. They are not a fashion statement as my mate thought after buying a bike . He was really surprised that jeans do not protect your skin at all if it meets tarmac. The road has a really nasty habit of just taking off huge amounts of skin if not protected.

I don't know if you need it riding pillion but your dp needs proper gloves. I have seen a guy who had his ring to middle finger ripped off after a bike accident.

Get a helmet and fgs do the bloody strap up. Have also seen a teenager who just popped it on his head, got sideswiped by a car and his helmet came off just before his now unhelmeted head went through a plate glass window.

My dad got hit by a drunk driver while on his bike. He had an open femoral fracture and spent six weeks in traction.

If your dp doesn't stick to speed limits and drive safely according to weather/road conditions then don't go near.

Did it when much younger and loved it. However, now after working in A and E and seeing the mess the drivers and pillion passengers come in as I wouldn't get on at all. See many horse riding accidents too but they generally tend to go home.
DH briefly mentioned that he thought about getting a bike as it would mean he would be home quicker but knew I wouldn't like it. Too right I wouldn't and I would rather be divorced than worrying every Friday and Monday that my DH was going to get killed. I would never sleep.

I think I might try it. With me on the back, I think he would be especially careful. It wouldn't be a regular thing though, just the odd time. I'm definitely going to get all the right gear though. I learned my lesson the hard way when I got thrown from a horse with no body protector on (they weren't standard for riding schools then). I didn't fall that hard, but still broke 3 ribs, and that was on sand!

kitty My Aunt is a nurse and has told me about the "gravel rash" injuries and degloving incidents from riders not wearing the proper gear. I worry about DP on the bike, though, and from all your experiences, I obviously have just cause.