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.....to be fed up of the dog threads

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mrsdonkeybucket · 06/06/2011 15:46

Well I am.

Lots of threads cropped up recently talking about nasty, horrible dogs and nasty, horrible owners not controlling their dogs.

I thought we were a nation of animal lovers ? Or it that just an urban myth ?

I'm fed up of people pussy-footing around too.....I LOVE DOGS and it's well known that there are no bad dogs, but bad owners.

Hmmpphhh.

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GwendolineMaryLacey · 07/06/2011 11:43

I had my pasty pinched by a seagull in Padstow last week. It was the last apple pasty in the shop. Bastard.

I have also had a burger pinched by a pigeon in Leicester Sq. I wasn't so fussed about that one...

PinotGrigiosKittens · 07/06/2011 11:44

Beer I love a good 'paw' trick Grin

emptyshell · 07/06/2011 11:45

Yep - it's got fucking ridiculous. Not to mention the whole "my kid got bitten so I want all dogs banned and I'm going to hijack every single thread to inflict my neurosis based upon an isolated incident on everyone."

Or the "a dog ran past me in the park - that's out of control and disgusting" bollocks that's doing the round.

And picnic sandwiches - apparently there's not a picnic in the land safe... these people who go to have picnics and seem utterly shocked by the idea that an animal's walked on the same grass they're putting their blanket on - well where do you think the cute ickle bunnies and squirrels go to the toilet on a night? A portaloo down a rabbit hole?

I'm really fucking sick of the dog-bashing at the moment - it's got to ridiculous levels because it's been sunny and so they automatically want dogs banned and obliterated from existence because me me me me me I want the beach and the park and the path for my kids and no one elses me me me me me now.

That's the gist of it and I'm fucked if I'm being run out of local parks and open spaces that MY taxes help to pay for as well - I'm not going to be bled dry to subsidise entertainment for people's kids and then be hounded out of using it for my own enjoyment and fitness and general wellbeing because some drippy idiot's got an attitude problem. Incidentally - I used to be more obliging but it's the fucking incessant dog-bashing on here that's got me to being incredibly militant now.

And yes MrsBethal there've been threads recently demanding no on-lead dogs, total doggy bans etc - not just the "wooo someoen didn't pick up a dog shit" stuff but real vile utter dog hating dog owners are all scum - with the side order of the hysterical shouting at every dog owner because someone's kid got bitten (I've been quite badly assaulted by a kid - I don't scream at every parent as a result but it's acceptable for dog owners apparently)

BeerTricksPotter · 07/06/2011 11:47

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Gingefringe · 07/06/2011 11:49

Thanks for an interesting thread OP.
I love my dog. I love taking him out for a walk each morning and evening and meeting other dog owners (usually very nice people who I can chat with about any nonsense) - it's better 'me' time than running next to a sweaty git at the gym.
My kids are now teens who just grunt at me and leave the house looking like a tip, eat everying in sight, cost a fortune and expect to be taxied about everywhere.
My dog gives me a lovely welcome when I get home from work and always makes me smile. I can cope with a bit of dog shit (but only his of course!!)

PinotGrigiosKittens · 07/06/2011 11:54

emptyshell - ver' good!

GooseyLoosey · 07/06/2011 12:03

I am a dog lover, so much so that we got 2 rescue greyhounds last year. One of these attacked my daughter leaving her requiring facial reconstruction surgery. Shortly before this, I was bitten by a former police dog who did not respond to the recall commands being screamed by its owner.

I still love dogs. Dd still likes dogs.

However, we have a new found caution. I have discovered that most owners believe that their dogs could never hurt anyone and feel that this is simply not true. Whilst many or indeed most owners behave responsibly, there are a significant number that do not control their dogs in the belief that all will be fine. This is simply not the case.

emptyshell · 07/06/2011 12:03

Without my dog I think there's very little question I'd have committed suicide by now. I'm massively massively depressed - no question about it, and (I've mentioned this stuff on here before so it's no massive secret) because lots of the depression is linked to a series of miscarriages (add in a shitty bereavement for a dear family member as well who died because of NHS infections and incompetence) my GP will not help in any way with the depression unless I consent to gettting a coil fitted - which, with the biological clock ticking, I can't quite mentally cope with.

I've been found on the bathroom floor surrounded by pill packets trying to muster up the courage to end it all before a couple of times - and then we got the dog. Linked in with my depression is a tendency toward agoraphobia and panic attacks when it's at its worst - I can just about function to get to work if I promise myself it's only X hours till I can come home - but I go to ground and try to avoid going out at all, because I can't cope with crowds, or reminders of what I've lost or the like.

Then, in January, just before I knew things would hit their lowest (the bereavement was yet to happen, I had a succession of due dates to get through and a family baby due the week or so before mine from a relative I find deeply hard to deal with anyway) - we got the dog. I HAD to get out and about - the daylight helped with the SAD element of my depression (I always sink over the winter - life had just meant I didn't so much as sink, but fall through the floor and make it to Australia), I met people and the dog... well the dog made me laugh and laugh and laugh and laugh and just watching him bumble through the woods with his tail wagging makes me smile - and watching him try to jump to reach a squirrel with the most confused look on his face cracks me up with laughter. It's also the only way I've found to unfuck my head when things are at their worst - rather than just lying there feeling black - I can actually partially unscramble things to some semblance of functionality.

In a way - the funny looking thing, with a beard that's usually got flourescent yellow tennis ball entrails in it, ears so big and floppy he could pick up Sky telly on them and a permanently confused facial expression (he's so thick he gets confused by his own farts) gave me, gave us both in fact, our lives back. My husband was coming home from work with such an utterly worn and haunted expression on his face when he got out of the car (you know, when he didn't think I'd seen him) and now when he gets out of the car - he smiles at the thought of the hello he's going to get from the dog - ok, so the dog does massive "I've missed YOOOOOOOUUUUUUU" reunions when you come back from having a pee... but still.

I'm still not well (no thanks to the NHS hah) and still in a lot of emotional pain and the world's still pretty grey but I'm still here, and I'm still vaguely functioning and a large part of that is due to the farting sofa-hogging monster. I'd absolutely die to defend him.

K9999 · 07/06/2011 12:40

emptyshell, I'm in tears. What an amazing, emotive post. You're one remarkable lady.

Your previous post was absolutely first class and accurate too. Will the precious mummies of their precious darlings please do one, stop whinging every time a dog dares sniff at or near you and your precious baybeee and stop demonising all dogs and their owners and get some fucking perspective.

Thank you. :o

Punkatheart · 07/06/2011 13:03

Yes emptyshell, a truly beautiful post. I hope that things get even better for you, People underestimate the power of animals, - to heal, to comfort, to make us laugh.

Sherbert37 · 07/06/2011 13:21

I too have a little dog who has pulled my family out of the depths. May you continue to improve with the help of your four legged friend emptyshell.

PinotGrigiosKittens · 07/06/2011 13:49

Oh wow emptyshell. He is a lucky boy to have you as his Mama x

Melly19MummyToBe · 07/06/2011 14:24

I think it's fantastic how dogs can help people so much, even if it's just something simple like being totally and utterly devoted and loyal to their owner! Truly inspirational post Emptyshell, I can't wait to get a dog :)

GrimmaTheNome · 07/06/2011 14:32

Can I just say...

my dog is lovely. He's a source of joy - nearly everyone smiles when they see him. A lot of people stop to talk to us. I feel very sorry for the few who give him a wide berth looking a little fearful.... he's a sausage dog FGS. I suppose they might trip over him if they were careless.

Melly19MummyToBe · 07/06/2011 15:49

How on earth can you be scared of a sausage dog?? Sausage dogs are ace, I saw one jump across 2 chairs once, was the funniest thing I've ever seen! It's front legs went over first and landed then it's back end followed :o

GrimmaTheNome · 07/06/2011 15:52

Well, quite. (Unless you meet one at its own front door when it will sound like something much bigger.)

Ormirian · 07/06/2011 15:58

emptyshell - what a lovely post. I wish some of the dog-haters could read that and understand a bit better.

ScaredOfCows · 07/06/2011 16:11

What pisses me off, is that those of us who have dogs walk them every day, rain, snow and sun. Once the sun comes out, the dog-haters all head to the local park where they like to suddenly dictate who and what can use the area. Of course people who don't pick up are disgusting, but that is not the majority of dog owners.
And as for the person who suggested that ALL dogs should be muzzled, whenever out of the home (a thread on here the other day)........

DooinMeCleanin · 07/06/2011 16:16

Well quite, ScaredofCrows. Maybe us dog owners should start a thread whining everytime someone allows their child to come poke at our dogs without asking. There'd be a fair few of them every summer.

BeerTricksPotter · 07/06/2011 16:20

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Avantia · 07/06/2011 16:22

I took my dog for a walk today then stopped at a cafe in the park to get a coffee , tied her up outside (special dog posts for leads) got my coffee and came out to her . she was lying down all quiet .

Yet on a picnic bench a few yards away a mother was allowing her two children walk all over the table in their shoes - they had just been on a walk in the park so may have trod through, perhaps not only dog poo , but deer, rabbit poo and general muck . But people are expected then to sit at this table and have food .

We train our dogs - train your children !

All dogs being muzzled - well that just takes the Biscuit

DooinMeCleanin · 07/06/2011 16:22

BeerTricks you are a much nicer person than me. I'd have just replied 'Oh, dear. That's a shame' and carried on.

Avantia · 07/06/2011 16:24

Dooinmecleaning - I started a thread about children annoying my dog - having a stick thrown at it whilst lying quietly outside school with me - was told that dogs should never be taken on school run !

Time for a revolt I feel !

BeerTricksPotter · 07/06/2011 16:36

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DooinMeCleanin · 07/06/2011 16:40

Beer Angry