Selfish mothers!

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I was at an open farm today. We were invited to feed lambs at 2.30. We arrived early but by the time the lambs were due the feed quite a few parents had arrived with their lo.
I was a bit worried my dd and ds wouldn't get a turn even though we were one of the first in line so I told my dd she may have to share with ds and they prob won't get a bottle each.
Anyway to my delight the farmer explained everyone was to make a circle and the 7 bottles would be passed around the circle ensuring each child had a turn and maybe two. I was delighted as this ensured no tears. Anyway the bottles were passed around clockwise and my lo did get two goes each BUT and to
get to the point the mum next to us didn't once pass her bottle and let her dd hog the whole experience. The child next to them must have missed out so my dh passed them our bottle.

I really wish now I'd commented on her selfishness. Her child surely will copy her actions and grow up selfish and uncaring too!

What's the mumsnet jury say. Have you any similar stories to shock me with?

You are all being a bit horrid. In extremis and all that, but goodness.

mmmm, we had a leg of lamb yesterday.

it had kids green snot on it for some strange reason

Nobody cares about the poor mother sheep who promised themselves that they would udder feed their offspring until the slaughter house puberty. Imagine the poor woolly Mums welling up with milk while some vile humans pour Nestle branded cow pus into their pfb's.

Shame on you op! Don't you realise that formula milk is a vast industry funded by evil dictators

:o

I have always explained that they will end up on the table, roasted.

at Reality.. you go girl x

But yes people like that are morons and she is doing her child NO favours as it will make he selfish and not good at sharing

There is a country park near us that has animals and various rides and play areas. One of the attractions is a ride-on model railway that is privately run so you have to pay separately. They usually have two trains running at once but one was off for testing so there was a queue.

The guy who runs the train is a good friend of my FIL so always insists on giving DS free tickets. We just missed one train so we were front of the queue for the next one. Lots of other people arrived and there was lots of glaring and loud comments about other people not queuing. One family made a massive fuss about some other children standing at the front and that grandmother kept saying "I hope they aren't going to push in front - that little boy was first", meaning DS.

When the next train came we were almost flattened in the stampede and didn't get on the train. The grandmother who had got on the train with her grandchildren who were easily old enough to ride themselves kept shaking her head and saying "ah, see, everyone pushed in front of that little boy". Normally I would have said "yes, including you so can you wait your turn please" but it is a bit awkward when you aren't actually paying!

Next minute there was a beeping and the guy who runs it had seen what had happened and gone and got one of the spare trains and gave us a private ride. There was much muttering and moaning from the other train. I even heard the grandmother saying "that's a bit unfair when we are all squashed on here". And we went round twice. And stopped at the shed to see the other trains.

I refrained from saying loudly to DS "that's what happens when you have good manners".

Bit surprised by the reaction you got here OP. I'm with you.

I was mildliy irritated recently when we were out and my dd was playing a with toy guitar. Another girl (let's call her X!) wanted a turn so I told my dd she could play for a minute or two more, then we would let the other child have a go, and then they could take turns. X then wouldn't surrender the thing. It wasn't her toy so it wasn't a posession issue. And her mother repeatedly said 'The other child might want a go' but didn't enforce it. My dd was upset. In the scheme of things it's not huge but I was a bit resentful that I had to spend an afternoon managing the frustration of my dd, and all she learnt was that if she shares something she might not get another go. I dropped a few big hints (I'm sure X will let you have a go in a minute - play with this instead for a moment) but nothing changed.

To be honest, the bigger issue for me occurred when we took the children to the park latre on in the afternoon and the same child didn't want to wait for her turn on the slide, so as my daughter was settling herself down at the top (she was crouching trying to get her feet underneath herself so she could sit down), X gave her a shove. My dd basically did a somersault - her head went over her feet and her face collided with the raised metal lip on the edge of the slide. Had I not been standing right there (because I didn't trust X) she would have continued over the top of the slide and fallen on to her head. X was told 'That's a bit naughty - we don't push. Say sorry.' I was really unimpressed with the whole thing. If dd had done that, I would have told her that as she couldn't wait her turn, then she couldn't play on the slide. It could have been really nasty - it just demonstrates why it can be important that children learn to take turns.

We don't know them well - they are a friend of a friend. We won't be getting any closer!

I am totally surprised by the reaction on here. I thought that all responsible parents would think that sharing and taking turns was desirable.

Is this just some shit attempt at writing an article?

People don't want to read bollocks like that. They want to read us saying things like;

"breast feeding is the only acceptable feeding method".

or

"women who formula feed are the devil".

Try again OP. You can quote me directly.

merlincat - there you go, demonstrating all that is wrong in the OPs little world.
What about those of us who have been admiring Reality from afar, patiently waiting our turn, feeling that our time will come, as it's only fair.
Then you go and jump in staking your claim without a thought for the rest of us. Your children will grow up selfish and uncaring too

Aaaahhhh....this is why I'm so grateful for our 4 years in Holland where I learned to say "You need to pass the bottle on now", to which the hogger would smile pleasantly and pass it on. They might not pass it on UNLESS you ask, in fact. Not selfish, just a cultural difference, no one is inwardly fuming.

Also children are actively taught to say "It's my turn now." I was a bit shocked initially but can see a lot of benefits to assertiveness now!

Last time we tried something like this DS2 totally blanked the thirsty little lambkin and took a massive swig out of the bottle himself ...

Although this is obviously my fault for peeling him off me bazoomers before he hit double figures and thus ruining his life ...

OP-your big mistake was to muddle taking turns with anything to do with farms or bottle feeding!
(This thread doesn't make sense to me)

PMSL...I have nothing to add but that. :o

DH is the most pacifist man ever. He is calm, rational and kind. He nearly got into a fist fight in the museum of transport in Luzern.
We had taken DD out for the day and we were in the flight area. A working model of some sort of aircraft was empty so DD got onto it and started flying it. When a small boy arrived, DD got off by herself, no prompting from me and DH.
The boy stayed on it for about five minutes which doesn't sound long, but when you are five it is a lifetime.
DH said a couple of times, don't worry love it will be your turn soon. After another three minutes or so he asked the father of the boy if our DD could have a go. the man just baldly said no.
DH quietly said that it was in a place where we had all paid the same amount of money to enter and that DD would like to have another go.
The man said no, but much more agressiveley. DH insisted again and the man pushed him. DD became hysterical and a guard came over. The man was asked his side of the story then DH asked his. It was like being at school all over again.
the guard judged that it was DDs turn. She refused to go on it again in case the man attacked DH.
All in all it was pretty horrible and DH never came back with us.

Funny thread! I solved this problem early on with DS1 by explaining he should share and takes turns etc from an early age. He now tells anyone not doing so in a LOUD voice, adult or child, that they need to take turns etc. It nomally shames both grown-ups and children into doing so, sometimes its a bit for me though.

He once shouted at a lady, from his bedroom window, that she "really should clean up that poo" that her dog had just deposited in front of our house, she went bright red, returned and scooped it up. We went to the local fete later that day, she was only the bloody Lady Mayoress! and yes, DS1 announced loudly that was the lady who didnt clean up the dog poo!! Oh how we laughed, much much much later!!

Fucking hell OP
I'm defo with worral on this one.
I'm starting to think anyone will moan about any little thing on here.

Some people are just crap people and that makes then crap parents

Merlincat and reality get a room this is a respectable site you selfish feckers.

People are slefish, thats life. At the zoo when the animals are brought out to show to kids the fucking parents stand in front of dd.s wheelchair so she cant see. Unluckily for them she has leg spasms.
Its no good being passive. Pipe up and say.