To say I'm not giving DB money as a birthday present whilst he still owes me £600...

[DontCallMePeanut]

Well? Am I?

I've almost given up hope of seeing that money again. Apparently, the money he and SIL were going to pay me back with is "tied up in shareholder based trust funds", which apparently, the people who the shares are with, are refusing to pay out

Anyway, It's DB's birthday in 2 weeks. When asked what he wanted for his birthday, SIL said he's asking everyone for money? WIBU to say I would have given him £50, but he can take it off what him and SIL owe me?

[Grin] Ohh, you dooo cheer me up, deathstare! But aye, I did have another friend tell me I'm a doormat Too kind for my own good, but there's a part of me that wants to resolve this as civi... oh, how do you spell that word? Basically, I don't want DS and DN's knowing how bitter I am atm. It wouldn't be fair on any of them.

He owes you money and now you are giving him even more money?

Like I said, NunTheWiser, £10. As a birthday gift. If anything, it's to avoid him trying to guilt trip me more than he has the past few weeks. But, as I mentioned, this isn't me letting go of the issue. He's now going to have the issue of having to own up to Mum about his attitude/failure to repay, etc. He won't have any choice, as I'll dial the phone for him if need be. That's a punishment worse than death, or a withdrawn birthday present.

Surely they can pay in installments? Mention the debt every time you see them and ask when they will have it paid by. Each time ask howmch they can give you then and there.

Ask your bro how much of his birthday money he can give directly to you. And tell him you feel used because you shouldn't need to be asking him like this.