Another reason to dislike mil?!

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I have been up since 6 with the dcs as usual when at 9.15 mil phones - she tries to chat a bit to me but I do 't really get on with her but she asks me how I am - I say a bit tired (am 24 weeks pregnant with dc3) she say "yes you must keep well and rest a bit". She then asks to speak to Dh who is snoring in bed - so I tell her and she says "don't wake him, he's been working hard all week - let him lie in." She is so bloody annoying and DH can do nothing wrong in her eyes. If I was speaking to a dil in my position I'd tell her to get him up and to make sure she got the 1 lie in of the week (I wool 7am to 8pm on Sunday's). Btw I do sometimes try and get DH up but he lies on sofa dozing whilst kids fight or come up and poke me - so never much of sir in anyway.

lol thats ok Nanny, err, i'm not well, my DD lives with her DP but im buggered if i'm ready for that title just yet

op lets stop talking about the MIL issue, as it is a bit of a non issue, she gets under your skin, you know it. I am sure you grit your teeth and smile through it in company.

Try-
*make an effort not to "nag" your Dh when she is there, you are just giving her ammunition.
*have a proper chat about housework and the division of labour with your DH. Really work on that.

I think nanny has made a fair point

It is a big decision to make having a child and you are more shallow than me if you think a bit of dirt and dustq would affect it - just whilst fat (my fault) would like a bit of help with the chores as vending over all the time hurts my back and brings the acid into my throat. DH works hard at work, plays and teaches the kids. He is a lovely calm person but boy when you are aching trying to get the house straight so you can relax at 8pm he is sitting surrounded by unfolded washing and toys reading his book or it is a bit much.

I see your point about the 3rd child criticism, but I don't understand people who complain they have to do everything when they know what the situation is and the unlikelihood of it changing, then they add more to the mix!
It can't bother them that much then really.
If I was pregnant with No 3 there wouldn't be a cat-in-hell's chance of my 'D' H being the one having the lie-in.
And it is extremely U to blame someone else for a grown man's behaviour.

I suppose it is unreasonable to blame mil but when they are sitting there watching tv after i have cooked dinner and u ask DH to load the dishwasher or fold the washing she smirks and rolls her eyes - it is a bit much. Going out to enjoy the sunshine and count my blessings really. The 9am phonecall is forgotten.