I had to update those of you who offered support and the disgusting helpful suggestions in my original post a few months ago.
I thought of you lot yesterday. Hope some of you are still about. Since my original post and the argy bargy of in-trays versus banana skins, things have been calmer.
Then yesterday it came clear why....
He's not been using my desk to chuck his rubbish onto. Nor the bin.
Yesterday a colleague sniffed a whiff near her desk. She sits opposite my colleague. She investigated and under her desk and crawled to the area under his desk area..... and it's a grave yard of apple cores and banana skins.. He eats, and chucks it under his desk. I counted 12 apple cores and 5 banana skins.
At 10.00am-ish he went to the kitchen came back with a cereal bowl. Apparently no spoons left but I had a used one in my cereal bowl from my cornflakes. He asked if he could have it.. He took it but he didn't go to the kitchen to wash it. He just stuck it in his cereal and used it. I am sooo precious. I would only do that with my close family ( certainly not snorty snotty Great-Uncle Basil) and certain close friends. Not a colleague. Unless totally desperate.
Lunch time came and it was the dreaded jacket potato and cottage cheese. It's dreaded cos' he eats it with a fork. Then to scrap every single bit of cottage cheese juice... he grabs the bowl, turns his right hand into a scoop shape, then scoops around the bowl and licks the side of his hand until satisfied he has got each little drip. It's the grunting noises that my my tummy feel wobbly.
Dunno if link will work - am a linking virgin.
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1129956-I-am-being-precious-But-I-still-wanna-go-urgh-you-are-disgusting
Original opening post was:
I am being precious. I work 3 days a week. I sit next to a colleague. It is very obvious whose desk is whose.
They insist on chucking their banana skins ( I hate bananas even with my kids I am cringing cutting up a banana and handling the skins), apple cores, sweet wrappings ( don't mind that easy to pick up) and used teaspoons they used for their yoghurts. With all the lick marks on.
And I want scream " stop chucking it on my desk you gross person. "
But I think I am being precious. So I remove the debris myself shuddering.
Every Monday there are stains on my desk which I have to clean cos' my imagination will go into overdrive on what it is.
I put a in-tray between us last week. It was gone this Monday. He said "there was no room for me coffee, hope you don't mind". Our desks are massive and he has no clutter on his.
I don't want to fall out with him. But how do I get over myself? I need to loosen up.