This will be a long story if you can be bothered reading.... had a huge fight with DH the other day. He is nearly 40 and we have 2 DCs of 4 and almost 1 and a third one on the way (unplanned, due to DH being careless with protection and taking chances after [blush] I have been working and am on mat leave now but have been told I may not have my job back, so all in all feeling a bit insecure at the moment [sad] So the other day.. all started with him saying is if one moved to such and such town then one would not be able to go out with friends every Friday like he does... to which I said I do not think these outings are appropriate for family men. They go out drinking on Friday after work to a bar and then go to a dancing place until at least midnight, and last week tried to get into one of London's pretty established nightclubs but decided not to wait in the line {too lazy ha-ha}. In general, why would married guys go out to nightclubs where the main purpose is really to meet people of the opposite sex???? (Or am I being crazy?) Otherwise why would you pay to enter and buy the overpriced drinks? For the fun of it he says! Moreover he pretty much never tells me about what they did and what they talked about (even though I always ask) so everything I find out is from other friends' wives or the guys themselves, which makes me dislike it even more so! He said I have a sick impression of partying and can never have fun and this is why I never go out! Got quite upset about it naturally [angry] It's true I rarely go out but this is because he is not bothered to do much with me as he seems to be happier going out with "just the boys". On the weekend we usually see people in our house or go somewhere but always during the day as in the evening you of course have to get the kids to sleep or pay the babysitter... so the opportunities for grown-up entertainment are scarce. I could go out with friends but do not have too many (I am not British) and most of them are out with DHs on Sat nights.. We used to do more stuff together (we have different tastes though when it comes to entertainment), having kids did not help and about 2 years ago he found this new group of friends through one of his old uni mates and little by little occasional outings with them turned into a weekly ritual. Couple of these friends are single and from what I hear (from other people!) nearly every outing ends up with one of them picking up a girl. Which he says is not true! Naturally I get pretty suspicious about it but never really raised it until last week and got this really aggressive response. And could not even talk this through with him as he got moody and said I offended him by accusing him of being a cheater when he is only trying to have some innocent fun with his mates. Am I right to be suspicious? What should I do? P.S. please try not to say "he is a sexist pig you have to leave him" as this is exactly what I am thinking now in the heat of the moment and it is not helping...