To stick the kids in nursery today

[Rannaldini]

and enjoy the bank holiday without them?

[Liby]

BrokenBanana - lots of those things are on the NEVER will do list. I hope I stick to them, and I will try.

[brightermornings]

My dd is unexpectedly off to her dads. Guess what I'm going for a swim all alone. Being a mum is the most amazing thing I've ever done but it's the hardest. So YADNBU enjoy your day.

[BrokenBananaTantrum]

But that's the point of the thread libby we all thought we would never do them either but you will either be a super uber mummy or just great like the rest of us. Your priorities totally change when you have dc but tbh the overwhelming responsibility can be hard sometimes. You only have yourself to think about now but when you have to put someone else first ALL THE TIME you just have to get off your high horse and join everyone else. Good luck tho.

[Rannaldini]

they are STILL here as I have been watching tele and playing on the computer
suppose I had better feed them and drop them off

will they feed them there at this time do you think??

[Lou222]

Go on Liby what's on your list ?

[BrokenBananaTantrum]

Go for it rannaldini

[Liby]

LOU22 - posted it under a new topic.

[ScroobiousPip]

Ooh, go for it Rannaldini! YANBU.

Our BH is next weekend (bizarrely, we get a day off for the Queen's birthday). I will definitely be taking a day off to myself - I've not had a holiday without DS in over a year and I need some time to myself in order to have the energy to be a good mum to DS.

Liby - being a good mum does not mean running yourself into the ground with exhaustion. We all need a break now and again in order to recharge our batteries or risk trying to run on empty.

[sungirltan]

yanbu in the slightest

liby - part of being a good parent is knowing when to take a break if there is one available. here is an example; until recently dd has been up all evening teething when she ususally goes happily to bed at about 7.30. this has meant i have had no evening break for about 3 weeks and have been very tired and increasingly horrid to dh (gone away to work lucky him!) and just generally stressed and fed up. as soon as dh left the teething ceased and shes going to bed at usual time - i am a new woman! the fact i needed a break did not in any way mean i didnt want to look after dd - if i didnt want to look after her/was a crap parent i could have put her in her cot and left her to scream for hours.

perhaps before you have children you need to understand that selfishly abandoming children and taking a break when they are well cared for are not the same thing!

if you fancy judging me a bit, dd goes to nursery 2 days a week - i dont have a job! dh is away for weeks at a time though and other mums have their dh home at weekends wheras i dont so dont feel guilty about nursery which dd thinks is great. but i'm a selfish ungrateful cow right?

[TheHumanCatapult]

do It .It is good to have some adult time just the two of you or hell just you on yourself

[Zimm]

But where Liby where? Seriously it's mumsnet not sanctimoniousfuturemumsnet - please go away.

OP - YANBU - time away from DC = better mum when with DC. If only people like Liby and the Tory government, Daily fail etc could understand this...

[Zimm]

Also Liby do you live under a bridge?

[mrsjohnsimm]

Exactly. Why would you choose to have children, if you just once want to have one day to yourself? Forget all the other time you spend with your children over the years. Forget the sleepless nights you spend with them as babies. Forget the times when they have chicken pox and can't sleep and you get up repeatedly in the middle of the night to anoint their poor spotty little bodies and cuddle them and reassure them that it will be okay, and do that again the next night. Forget the vomit and other bodily fluids you clear out of your hair. Forget the long cuddles, the comforting when they have a tiny near-invisible cut on their knee that still requires a plaster just because. Forget the hours you will spend having "gripping" conversations about Beast Quest or the Magic Fairy Bloody Ballerinas.

If you once just ONCE even consider that perhaps you would like to have an uninterrupted poo in peace, go to the shops without a toddler in tow or even read more than half a chapter of a book in one sitting, by heartlessly sending your child to play with his/her friends, get messy and have lots of fun, then all of the above counts for nothing. Why, indeed, choose to have children? For verily that cancels out anything you may have done and you are a Selfish Bad Parent.

OP, are you sure your nursery is open today?

[happymole]

Zimm having read the thread Liby just started I think she probably does.

[Liby]

I don't! honestly! This is what I seriously always planned to be like!

[MsInterpret]

WISH nursery was open today. We only do 3 mornings but have missed (but paid for grrrr!) so many Mondays these past few months...

[TheOriginalFAB]

I planned lots of things too before I had children. Then I got ill...

[timmysamba]

Liby - I must be a bad mother as i'm offloading 2 of my 4 children this half term. Ds1 (13) to gps and ds2 (10) on a pgl holiday. I can't wait! 2 children for 4 days - how easy. It is so easy to judge from a child free plenty of sleep and time position, just wait a while...

13 years of children so far and we are just starting to enjoy some time off now and then as the youngest is nearly 5.

Op- yanbu. If you need the time and they will have fun go for it. Having a break can make you a better parent in the long run.

[Ilythia]

I think YABU but only becasue I have work to do and their nursery is shut, dammit.
If it helps I have wed and thursday off but they are going in both days, whether I have finished my essay or not., They have more fun at nursery and I can get on with stuff. Everyone's a winner!

[Zimm]

happymole - yup I read it also. Sigh....why are all these people invading mumsnet?

[Chucklecheeks]

Liby until you are a parent what you won't understand that what you are seeing as neglect or a burden is dedicated parents having a well deserved break and having a giggle about it in MN. One thing I realised after getting severe PND with DC1 is that you can't take being a parent too seriously, if you try you will ALWAYS fail.
Too much time spent neglecting yourself turns you into a neurotic wally, happy mummy = happy child. Nursery is not the means streets, it's a warm inviting and educational place. That's not seeing your child as a burden or neglecting them. Come to court with me and I will show you what true neglect is. I don't usually criticise other posters but this is a subject close to my heart as I was very paranoid about being seen as a neglectful mum when I had PND. Pull your head in and go and find a thread for people who have no children who want to criticise something they have absolutely no knowledge about.

Sorry if I offend but you have offended a hard working mum who simply wants a rest.

[Raahh]

There is also the point to consider that sometimes, oddly enough, your precious children do not want to spend time with YOU!.
We are off on holiday today- and the dcs are more excited by the idea of a kids club away from their boring parents, than sightseeing heathens.

Seriously- time apart is essential! OP- do it- I used to have to pay for Bank Holidays- although they were closed.

[Chucklecheeks]

Even if you are a troll I feel a little better after my rant so thank you xx

[Liby]

im not a troll! :(