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Dd wants to go to the cinema with <gasps> BOYS!

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wudu · 29/05/2011 22:48

Noooo ... Shock

This wasn't supposed to be happening for at least another 10 3 years!

There's a group of them wanting to go, 4 girls, 2 boys, one of them is dd's 'boyfriend'.

I say 'boyfriend' because she's got absolutely no intention of kissing him (I've told her that her tongue will fall out Wink ) and won't hold his hand because "boys don't wash their hands properly when they've had a wee" Grin

But still ...! There will be BOYS!!

I'm stalling madly and haven't given her an answer yet.

Should I let her go?

Gah, why do they have to grow up

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BrawToken · 29/05/2011 22:49

What age is she?

worraliberty · 29/05/2011 22:50

(Bangs head on keyboard at missing age info) l;wejrhpoweur908-75q3809973489!!!!!!

Grin
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wudu · 29/05/2011 22:51

Sorry, that would help wouldn't it. She's 11. A baby!

I would be dropping her off and picking her up btw. And tbf they're lovely sensible children. But there will be BOYS there!!!!

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wudu · 29/05/2011 22:52

Grin worral

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Wottywot · 29/05/2011 22:53

How old is she OP? If she is like 19 there's no need to worry, just let her go! Grin

worraliberty · 29/05/2011 22:54

It seems nowadays most groups of friends are mixed.

When I was 11 I wouldn't be seen dead with a smelly boy in my circle of friends, but it's all changed now.

My 8yr old DS has almost as many female friends as male...same with my 12yr old and 19yr old.

I don't think I really had mixed sex friendships til I was around 15?

tomhardyismydh · 29/05/2011 22:54

let her go, whats the worst that could happen, she loses her tongue and gets wee wee germs, if she has any sence she will supervise the hand washing Grin

BrawToken · 29/05/2011 22:54

Hmmmm, I'd let her. Mine is 13 and did this at 11 with a big gang of bos and girls and lived to tell the tale.

UrsulaBuffay · 29/05/2011 22:55

boys are hoomans too

MadamMemoo · 29/05/2011 22:58

My DD is 12 and one of her best friends is a boy. he goes on sleepovers with the girls and everything

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wudu · 29/05/2011 22:58

Grin tom

Oooh but I don't want to let her ...that's not the answer I wanted!

Ursula - they're BOYS. Nuff said

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tomhardyismydh · 29/05/2011 22:59

I bet they wont be kissing and holding hands anyway, wont they be lobbing popcorn and getting scowled at.

UrsulaBuffay · 29/05/2011 22:59

I can talk my DDs 2

although she does kiss a boy at nursery!

PacificDogwood · 29/05/2011 22:59

Why on earth is this boy your DD's 'boyfriend' and not a friend who is a boy??
FWIW, I would not worry too much about a group of them going to the cinema together - it is roughly the age I started going to the cinema with friends and whithout adult supervision.
I just think it is a bit sad/wrong/has the potential to backfire to segregate them at that age.

She'll be 15 going on 25 soon enough Wink

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wudu · 29/05/2011 22:59

But he's her 'boyfriend' memoo ...that's much worse ...surely!

...she's a baby!! arrgghhhh

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tomhardyismydh · 29/05/2011 23:01

I always have had mixed group friends.

the sleepover thing at 12 would seriously have to be reconsidered at some point soon if |I were parents of 12 yr olds. luckily dd is 5.

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wudu · 29/05/2011 23:02

Hmm don't gloat for long Ursula - I'm going to come back to haunt you Wink

Pacific - they tell each other "love you" Shock

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izzywhizzyletsgetbusy · 29/05/2011 23:04
LaWeasel · 29/05/2011 23:04

They're 11! They will hold sweaty hands in the dark and spend so long awkwardly thinking about having a kiss they never actually get around to it.

At least, that's how my first date at 12 went! We did eventually kiss, by about date 3 and then broke up not long after having satisfied our curiosity about what kissing is all about...

UrsulaBuffay · 29/05/2011 23:05

I will be here in 9 years wailing!

lesley33 · 29/05/2011 23:06

At 11 the idea of a boy friend doesn't mean that much. They may hold hands in the cinema. But I bet your DD soends more time talking to her friends about her boyfriend than anything else.

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wudu · 29/05/2011 23:07

LaWeasel - stop that talk right now! Kissing indeed, pfft. My dd likes her tongue you know!

Oh yes izzy, I would be dropping off, picking up and spying making sure she's ok. Still not happy though ...

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smallpotato · 29/05/2011 23:09

I remember going to the cinema with my first boyfriend with a group of friends when I was 12. To watch Wayne's World Grin. He didn't even hold my hand . Then the next week at school he dumped me. Not even to my face, he told my best friend

Let her go, it's a rite of passage and she will have a fun giggly time (said as the mum of 2 preshool girls so feel free to ignore!)

smallpotato · 29/05/2011 23:09

I remember going to the cinema with my first boyfriend with a group of friends when I was 12. To watch Wayne's World Grin. He didn't even hold my hand . Then the next week at school he dumped me. Not even to my face, he told my best friend

Let her go, it's a rite of passage and she will have a fun giggly time (said as the mum of 2 preshool girls so feel free to ignore!)

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wudu · 29/05/2011 23:09

In her head I mean!! Good God that didn't come out right!! Blush Blush

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