...or just jealous?

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I'll try and keep this brief. Friend of mine has a 6 month old baby and is in a relationship with a married man (not the child's father). Her facebook status timeline is a constant stream of 'got sooooooooooo drunk last night', 'out with XY and Z on the piss', 'out at Z's party with (married man)'. She barely talks about her son and just seems to be out every night of the week.

AIBU to be fed up with her attitude, or am I just jealous that she's got a life (and a willing babysitter dammit) and energy levels I never had when DD was 6 months old?

getting drunk alot doesn't make her a bad mother!!! you are assuming getting drunk means she isn't arranging proper childcare for her baby. why???

No Im not. But actually getting drunk a lot well - alcholism possibly? Look that statement alone does bother me. I know someone who drunk all through pregnancy had a child with feotal alchohol syndrome and still drinks everyday. The chld has problems and she throws insults at anyone who looks the wrong way at her. Drinking a lot can have a major impact.

where the hell does it say this woman in the OP drank throughout pregnancy and has caused foetal alcohol syndrome???

you absoloutely cannot project your experience of one person onto all mothers who drink!!! what a very closed-mind you must have if that is the logic you apply to everything.

alcoholism is possible in this situation as it is possible in anyone who consumes alcohol. yet again, as long as she is making sure the child is well cared for then she is not being a bad mother.

FGS I didnt say this particular woman in the OP drank throughout pregnancy CANT YOU READ! I was talking of someone I knew.

yes i have been able to read each of your posts with increasing frustration at your lack of understanding.

did you read the rest of my post?

LilQueenie you were extrapolating your experiences and putting them on the friend of the OP. There was no talk of drinking through pregnancy or alcoholism in the original thread so why on earth would you mention that you know someone who did so, unless you thought it was relevant?

exactly tambern. the two stories are unconnected.

getting drunk alot doesn't make her a bad mother!!! So the person I know is a great mother is she?

why are you discussing FAS when it has no relevance to op
its a bit of an unrelated aside thta insinuates worse of the mum being discussed
none of us know how that pg progressed or what kind of mum she is. we only have the op disgruntled opinion

the fact that she got drunk is not what made her a bad parent. it is the fact that she did so whilst pregnant that caused the damage.

the woman in the OP is not causing harm by getting drunk. she would be causing harm if she wasn't arranging for her child to be cared for. so no, getting drunkin itself does not make a bad parent. other factors relating to her child may mean she is a bad mother but teh drinking alone does not mean this.

LilQueenie this is very simple so read carefully

The woman you know, and the woman in the OP's post are two different people. Going out and having a drink when your child is safe with a babysitter, is very different from drinking through pregnancy and being a confirmed alcoholic.

Your experiences are with one person. You don't know the circumstances and you're making an ill informed knee jerk judgement of someone you have never met. No-one said the woman you know is a great mother. We said the fact that she is a bad mother, doesn't mean this other woman is a bad mother.

yes I know and understand that.!!!!

BTW i don't post about all the mundane things i do with my dcs day in day out because they bore the hell outta me so why the hell would anyone on FB want to hear about it? but going for a night out is a bit more exciting and noteworthy and something alot of my single friends can relate to so i am more likely to post about that. (if i ever do go out again!!)