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Original poster

To think DH should have brought our son home by now?

40 replies

WhoAteMySnickers · 28/05/2011 23:11

DH has taken DS out to MIL family birthday dinner at a local restaurant. I'm at home ill with cold and sore throat. They are still not home now, at 11.10pm.

The table was booked for 7.30 so not only should they have finished eating by about 9.30 but I think it's totally inappropriate for a 7 y/o to be in a restaurant this late!!

Quick, before I blast my DH by text telling him to get the fuck home with our child, AIBU?

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ReindeerBollocks · 28/05/2011 23:14

No, YANBU to wonder what kept them, but DS is with his father, and assuming your DH is normally a great dad, then I'd just ask if they are coming home soon. Maybe they just lost track of time?

DS has been up later on rare occasions (family parties etc). It's not ideal admittedly but if it's a one off then it can't be that bad?

(just make sure your DH deals with a grumpy tired DS tomorrow) ;)

troisgarcons · 28/05/2011 23:15

YABU - I presume you co-parent? stop being so precious

MCos · 28/05/2011 23:15

Calm down.
Why not send a text to say, where are ye, are you on way home soon?

Tomorrow is Sunday, no school. Your 7 y/o will survive. My 7 y/o was up until midnight last Saturday because of a family party. She was tired during week, but a few early nights sorted her out.

squeakytoy · 28/05/2011 23:16

Its a birthday party, he is with his dad, and other relatives. Stop worrying.

PaisleyLeaf · 28/05/2011 23:17

A saturday night of a bank holiday weekend?
I don't think it's likely they'd have finished eating by 9.30 at all.
It's school holidays now and I think you're the one who should be in bed if you're poorly.

Mabelface · 28/05/2011 23:17

Chill a little. He's with his daddy and probably thoroughly enjoying being able to stay up so late for a change.

bruxeur · 28/05/2011 23:18

Gross overreaction. Go to bed, you sound a little overtired.

yukoncher · 28/05/2011 23:18

WELL if he's with MIL, surely any usual rules won't apply

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 28/05/2011 23:19

Stop being so........anal.

He'll be having fun, unclench yourself woman.

Vicky2011 · 28/05/2011 23:19

YABU. It's Saturday night, it's a special occasion.

DS is 7, we are on holiday at the moment and he has just gone too bed. I think he'll survive.

chopchopbusybusy · 28/05/2011 23:20

I might text to check everything was ok, but is it really a problem if they are just having a family dinner out. We've just got home from a party, including some young children. Great night for all!

Original poster
WhoAteMySnickers · 28/05/2011 23:21

Thanks everyone. It's not the late night that bothers me. It's more the fact that if I was on a rare child free night out at this particular restaurant and there were two children there this late (niece might be there too) I'd be none too pleased, it's really not a family/child friendly place at all. I'm hoping he isn't tired, grumpy and annoying the other diners.

Ok I'll hold off on the text blasting for now Grin

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Thingumy · 28/05/2011 23:21

Surely you could call him if you were that concerned?

Me? I'd be enjoying the peace.

yukoncher · 28/05/2011 23:21

But yeah, for your own well being. If they bring your DS home really late.
By all means, say 'wow he must be tired'.
But just ask if they had a nice time, etc.

You could easily come across as being jealous of him going out with MIL and fam, or untrusting about his parenting, or controlling :/

worraliberty · 28/05/2011 23:21

He's probably having the time of his life, leave him alone..a late night won't kill him!!

AgentZigzag · 28/05/2011 23:22

Hehe I've got to agree with the sensible but very funny responses to unclench and stop trying to find something to be pissed at your DH about.

He'll sleep in later tomorrow so you can get some peace and quiet.

And so will your DS Grin

squeakytoy · 28/05/2011 23:22

If he was misbehaving, then he would probably have been brought home long before now.

Mabelface · 28/05/2011 23:23

I bet he's being a right darling. Grin

worraliberty · 28/05/2011 23:28

He's probably spent the night in the smoking area...knocking back vodkas he swiped from the table whilst his Granny was swinging her knickers round her head...too drunk to notice her missing Benson and Hedges Grin

Or was that just my experience as a small child at a family do??

FabbyChic · 28/05/2011 23:29

Get a grip he is 7, it's a Saturday night one late night will not hurt him.

Original poster
WhoAteMySnickers · 28/05/2011 23:38

Worraliberty Grin

As I've already said Fabby, the late night isn't what I'm worried about. I'm hoping there isn't a thread on AIBU tomorrow with someone complaining that 2 overtired brats spoiled their romantic meal at a lovely restaurant that they've waited a month to get a table at.

Anyway DH has just texted to say they're on their way home. So I'm glad I listened to you all. Feeling ill makes me even more unreasonable than usual it seems!!

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pointydog · 28/05/2011 23:38

You're ill. Have a whisky, go to bed. Your dh is an adult, let him deal with it.

IprivateI · 28/05/2011 23:57

Instead of backchatting about it to people on here, why don't you text you "DH" and ask him what is taking them so long. Do you talk to your DH? Your child is with your husband - his father, why would you be worried? There are such things as mobile phones. God....

BooyHoo · 29/05/2011 00:00

erm, you didn't think something might have happened them? you didn't text and ask if everything was ok?

odd.

FabbyChic · 29/05/2011 00:08

I'm sure your son had a ball and was well behaved, get well soon.