To think DH should have brought our son home by now?

[WhoAteMySnickers]

DH has taken DS out to MIL family birthday dinner at a local restaurant. I'm at home ill with cold and sore throat. They are still not home now, at 11.10pm.

The table was booked for 7.30 so not only should they have finished eating by about 9.30 but I think it's totally inappropriate for a 7 y/o to be in a restaurant this late!!

Quick, before I blast my DH by text telling him to get the fuck home with our child, AIBU?

I'm sure if he was badly behaved your DH would have brought him home by now. YABU. And if everyone is having a relaxed time a 3 course meal with coffee afterwards can take longer than 2 hours quite easily. Add in time for waiters to bring a cake out, singing happy birthday and opening presents and there is no way they would be finished in 2 hours. Chill out.

I'm glad your dh and ds are on their way home, WhoAteMySnickers. I hope they had a lovely time, and I'm sure your ds was a perfect guest, and really added to the occasion for your MIL. He may be a bit grumpy tomorrow, but as someone else said - early bedtime tomorrow night will sort that out.

I think the fact you are under the weather blew things up a bit out of proportion for you, but you took the responses on this thread on the chin - and better to ask the question here than to blast your dh by text.

Now - off to bed with a nice dose of Night nurse (or a whisky, as suggested earlier) and I hope you feel better in the morning.

If I was out with my child and my DH thought it was his place to tell me I should be home by now he'd be one sorry bloke.... blame it on your sickness and don't think anything so daft again!

Chill out, try to glug some wine through your illness and enjoy the peace and quiet.

I would be cross if anyone asked why I was out so late with my DC.

I understand your point Nicechair. But don't you think for special occasions it is worth being flexible?

YABU - for bothering about other dinners. If you were there you could take responsibility feel guilty, as you are not its your DH's problem not yours.
Just let go, DH is an adult and you have to let him take responsibility for his actions, even if that is annoyance your DS may give others.

Now get better! (now if you had been complaining that them being out so late was stopping you sleeping I would have said YANBU).

Thanks again everyone.

Nicechair - yup, DS was up at 7am as usual, as I knew he would be. Makes no difference what time he goes to bed he's always up by 7.

Lesley - The restaurant has two sittings. 7.30 and 9.30 and if you book the early sitting they want you off the table for the later sitting. I was surprised the children were even invited in the first place as it's really not somewhere you'd take children.

Anyway turns out the reason for being so late was that MIL and FIL arrived half an hour late, MIL pissed as a newt. She started a massive argument with her sister who stormed out, she told SIL she was ashamed to call her her daughter, she smacked DH's niece on the back of the hand with a fork and reduced a waitress to tears. DH was going to text me but was worried if I was asleep he would wake me up. Apparently the family won't be welcome there again.

So all in all I totally over reacted and by the sounds of it I missed a thoroughly good night!!

Sounds like you were worrying about the wrong person ruining other people's night out! :)

why is it inappropriate. ds is only 3 and has had many times been out late in a restaurant and loved it

you need to relax and let others enjoy themselves

surely you can tell a 6/7 year old to stay in their room until 8 am if they are early risers

No wonder your spidey senses were twitching op.....! Your mil sounds er.......a character ?

Whoatemysnickers - Wow! That sounds like some evening they all had. Does a tiny little bit of you wish you could have been a fly on the wall??

Got to feel a bit sorry for your DH and your son (who probably actually enjoyed the spectacle!) your MIL sounds a nightmare!