to think it totally unfair to bawl at your bored child when you are spending the day shopping?

[mumspet]

I nearly welled up at the unfairness earlier today when I saw a mum yelling at her toddler who was making a fuss in the pushchair while she tried on endless garments in the changing room. OK so very judgy of me, she clearly has no-one to leave him with but why couldn't she see that that was NOT going to be a bundle of laughs for him and obviously he was going to start misbehaving? AIBU to think some people haven't any empathy for their kids at times!

I can't cope

What the cool funny ones said.

I don't want a bloody home made mummy badge to say I gave up my whole life to please my off spring. I didn't. They are lucky I had them and even more lucky that I am so sartorially inclined that they can get away with having biscuit in their ears and dried milk up their noses. They just waft behind my casual elegance and if that means they have to wait around while I buy stuff then so be it.
YABU

YANBU in my opinion.

For most todders clothes shopping is very dull, and therefore they make a huge fuss.

Personally I avoid this by never going shopping. I don't particularly enjoy it anyway and I'm not fussed about having lots of new clothes all the time.

If people need to go shopping (with their toddler) for some reason they should accept that the toddler is going to complain, and they should live with it, rather than yelling at them. That doesn't achieve anything.

when the small child is grown up and looking through pictures of his darling mummy, she will be dressed in RAGS, RAGS i tell you!

then, and only then can she scream BUT I DID IT FOR YOU, YOU UNGRATEFUL LITTLE SHIT

but she will have a 'perfect mummy' badge to shine upon her threadbare cardigan sleeve to make her feel better

anyone else for a glass of wine?

And it's not about giving your child a perfect child-orientated life. I have to leave my kids with someone when I'm working. I'm a single parent so I have to do all the jobs around the house, thereby reducing the time I can play with them. So I choose not to add to this by dragging them around shopping with me.

Maybe if the rest of their life involved more Mummy-time then I'd feel different.

I think, what could be fun, is that everytime we do stuff that only children enjoy - softplay, playgrounds, ceramic "experiences" we should just whinge, sob and grumble (jazz it up a bit by throwing up all over yourself) until our children shout at us. It would make a refreshing change.

Joolyjoolyjoo so long since I heard the word "skelp" it's fantasticly descriptive.
I would say that I used to take mine to supermarkets as I don't think children should be shielded from boring mundane stuff, and they damn well had to behave.
But for clothes shopping,that was my time( or wait til they were asleep in buggy)

tbh if im with the kids i dont try on the clothes, i o home and try them on.

lordoftheFlies- I admit, I rarely go clothes shopping (or any shopping) now- the wonderful internet means I don't have to drag my whinging unskelped kids along subject my little darlings to pastimes that don't revolve around them

YABU. My idea of a good day out is to take my son looking in ladies' dress and knicker shops.

YABU I spent most of my time as a child sitting on an empty compost bag with my two sibling whilst my mother tended the allotment. We had to stay there in order to earn a mini milk on the way home.

Definately internet shopping for clothes or browse online then quick trip into M&S to pick up.
Children in my day( I sound a bit Victor Meldrew I know) used to just tag along without any fuss,or that's how I remember it anyway.
But shopping seems to be a passtime now and I was a bit hacked to see in one of the mags (I think Essentials or the likes of) a feature on 'supermarket bargains'.
Dress at George/Asda - resession,money short ,long time to payday, but look it's only £8. You don't need an £8 dress just because its £8!!.
And breathe.

M& S ?

How old are you?

45 next month.I like easy care clothes.

Per una? [in joke]

I'm not yet leaning towards the Classic Collection,thankfully.

If I need to go shopping (actually let's be honest, sometimes I just want to , is it so terrible if I just want one new well-fitting top?) I will take 3 year old dd.
I do something terrible. I put her in the buggy and give her one or two lollies (sweet ones, not ice lollies) and she will sit nicely for a good half an hour. Please don't report me for this or start a thread about me.
I know that makes me a most terrible and horrible mother. However, sometimes I want to be more than a person who willingly makes plasticine/play doh models for hours on end of sings Mr Crocodile for half the day)

over-use of word terrible in above post I know. So not only do I give my dd rotten teeth, I write a load of rubbish too.

gawd, why dont people realise kids get bored, for gods sake i find clothes shopping, or any shopping in fact, deadly dull

and now that no one is allowed to look at or talk to another child let alone engage with it, no wonder the poor mite is bored out of its skull

What if someone touched the child,or smiled at it

Well My God.

Who knew that we have now entered a world in which a child can't sit in a pushchair while their mum tries on a dress.

PLEASE.

ShirleyKnots you made me laugh too much.

YABU a) to assume the mother had dragged her child around shops for the whole day
b) to assume she shouldn't be allowed to do anything for herself in case her child was bored for a few minutes.
c) to judge someone for telling off a child. It's the mum I'd be feeling for in that scenario.

The rest of you are just deprived

can that please read 'depraved'?