Guardian Soul Mates - would you?

[theglove]

Almost everyone within my age range and area seemed nice, including someone I knew, weirdly.

However, as much as I'd like to I'd never feel able to post a picture online, precisely because of being recognised and then feeling humiliated.

Is it something others would feel quite natural, or is internet dating not a good idea?

[mum765]

I know two people who used Guardian soulmates through the newspaper version and are now married to people they met there. I think it's one of the better ones.

[theglove]

Thank you everyone for your replies and words of encouragement, I will do it!
You have good tips, I liked the advice to be brazen and upfront and also not be apologetic for being there, which I probably would have.

My main worry is still my ex or one of his friends will find it and piss themselves but as you say, I will see what privacy settings they have - he won't have signed up.

I've done a couple of things this year I never thought I would, can't believe this of all things would be another

[Vilt]

I would, I did, I met my DH.

Been happily married for 2 years now :)

[northernrock]

Hooray!

[mothermirth]

I met my DH to be on GSM. Neither of us put photos on the site. We're getting married next year. He is dreamy

[mothermirth]

I met my DH to be on GSM. Neither of us put photos on the site. We're getting married next year. He is dreamy

[Tortu]

Sorry- haven't read all the posts. Am just nipping on to say that I'm going to a Christening this weekend and the baby's parents met on Guardian Soulmates.

[SuePurblybilt]

I would worry too about pics, because I am so rural and everyone knows everyone here and because my Ex spends an alarming amount of time on dating sites. That's why he's an Ex . But I do think you have to put them up, can you pick one that's not too obviously you and then do as others have suggested and email better pics to people you're actually interested in? Sunglasses praps? Or would that make you look a knob?
My mum and step-dad met and married on GSM too.

[chubbly]

Do it!! And tell us all about the replies!! My friend has met sone nice people on it, but also got a few cock photos. You're just playing the odds of meeting the right person. Good Luck!

[SpareOhs]

I've been on and off GSM a few times over the past few years and have never met anyone unpleasant or weird - plenty I wasn't particularly interested in (and vice versa, tbh!) but all perfectly nice and normal. It's good fun!

I would second much of the advice on here. Go for it with gusto and an open mind. Don't feel embarrassed and don't apologise - everyone's doing it these days!

You really should consider putting up a photo. You will get much more of a response - it's only human nature to want to know what someone looks like before contacting them. If you really can't face it, do the private photos thing and then 'favourite' lots of men so they can see your pics.

I've never had a cock photo from GSM. It doesn't tend to attract that sort of bloke, ime. OKCupid, on the other hand... I've lost count. Not to mention the fetish pics

[jasminetom]

My mum met her husband through Guardian soul mates, they are in their 60s but still, was the first time she had used it. They have been together 10 years now.

[TrillianAstra]

If I were single I would definitely use internet dating sites.

Guardian one would at least mean that the person you were talking to read the newspaper occassionally, which is a good start :)