To expect mum of fussy child to warn me??

[crazygracieuk]

Dc 1 (10) has a friend who is the same age round for a sleepover. Dc 1 suggested pizza for supper so I bought a couple at Sainsburys where they have an offer of 2 pizzas and 2 sides for a fiver. Child has seen boxes in fridge and announced that he won't eat them because they aretgewrong brand. He turned his nose up at the ice lollies that I have in because they are the wrong brand. It's not an allergy or intolerance.

Aibu to think that the mum should have given me the heads up and warned me? Dc2 is very fussy so I warn mums not to worry about her rejecting food and possibly being hungry. I feel embarrassed that I don't have the right stuff in.

I was that child! I remember going to someone's house and the beans weren't Heinz and on another occasion the gravy wasn't bisto. No 'brand awareness' or snobbery, they just tasted different, and were therefore refused. If that mum had asked my mum whether I liked those meals she would have said yes, and would have had no idea that I would refuse them because they weren't the same, because she wouldnt have known I was going to!
YABU

Ds1 (also 10) is a fussy eater, but I do not warn mums unless they ask me specifically. I know from experience that he is more likely to try food when away from home without the rest of the family. Also he can jolly well learn good manners! And that has worked: last week he came home from a friend's house where apparently they had had pasta with baked beans for supper. Ds has tried baked beans and retches at them. But he told me that he was polite and did not make a fuss, just ate as much of the pasta as he could.

The OP's guest was not a fussy eater - just an unmannerly brat.

Fear of the unknown? This is a ten year old fgs not a toddler! Kids should be bought up with more manners than to kick of about what they are served when a guest in other peoples house. If they are not then the blame rests solely with their parents

I think it is just kids all over. I remember having one of ds's mates who turned out to be very fussy. New to entertaining other peoples children, I made him another meal! I felt to embarrassed to send him home hungry. Now older and wiser, I just tend to check in advance what they roughly like. Not by the brands though!! Having dd with allergies means no one can be to fussy if they stay as food choices are very limited. I do feel if they know their child is extremly fussy it is nice if they warn you, not so that you alter foods but just to let you know not to go to great lengths or feel bad sending them home hungry.

I have taught my fussy eater (8) to at least TRY anything new, and to ALWAYS say: "Thank you, this is delicious but I am just not very hungry today" if he really cannot eat it. The mum will then tell me that DS didn't seem very hungry, which I think is better than him being rude.

And then I give him some bread and butter at home.

At least he is polite (you might even say he sounds a bit precious saying that, haha), and thankfully he is becoming less fussy with time...Phew....

Lots of kids are fussy, I am friendly about it and always think it isn't my problem. I offer them toast.

PS I always buy Sainsbo Basics pizza for kids, that one seems to be a lot more popular than the fancy ones. Makes me feel cheapskate though!

I once had a child over for tea, who ate the works, then ate seconds, then pudding - so I thanked him for eating so well unlike my children and he said "my mum said I had to eat everything, even if it did taste disgusting" And I thought my cooking wasn't so bad

oh no! Maybe that was my DS2 ?!

I would just offer toast or cereal - or whatever the child likes and feed them that. won't hurt for one day and just be grateful your kid isn't so fussy